Why would a guy feel nervous around a potential love interest?

Question

A guy I work and I have (i think) mutual attraction, but he seems quite nervous when I talk to him one to one and fidgets a bit with drinks bottles etc.

He’s usually a friendly, confident guy with others, what makes him act nervous around me? I’m a pretty chilled type of girl.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

He can be the most confident man with everybody laugh joke have fun another big deal

But when the person that you like the steps into the picture and gets close there's an energy between both and your energy probably just kind of melts him and makes it rain go a little bit dizzy and make some feel kind of weird because he has never experienced that before and it's very very beautiful feeling and he doesn't want to. Say the wrong thing he is going to get nervous he's probably going to sweat because he probably doesn't understand energy and why he's feeling what he's feeling..

Next time you stand next to him ask yourself what you feel rushing through your body can you feel that energy that he's pushing towards you. If you understand energy it's one of the most beautiful feelings you're ever going to feel

AManOnTheWeb · Accepted Answer

Without knowing you both, it's hard to say for sure, but as others have said, he probably likes you and is nervous to make a mistake and ruin his chances. If you want to give things a go with this guy, you can do him a huge favor and ask him out on a date where you're doing an activity you know he's confident in that he can teach you. "Hey Jim, I know how much you enjoy archery (random example) I think it might be fun to learn. I'm free on Saturday, want to take me to the archery range and show me how it's done?"

I don't know what that thing might be, but if it's something he's confident in and you're just learning, it will help him have confidence in the date and it will reduce that awkwardness until he builds up confidence in himself with you. Just a thought. Hope things work out for you!

_Maya_ · Accepted Answer

He is likely a nervous type or person around women. Just because he appears to be confident in general doesn't mean that certain situations (around women) he is comfortable with. So there is the answer to your question. Now... let me tell you the same thing I tell everyone that mentions interest in a coworker. DON'T DO IT. This is quite literally the worst possible idea. Don't date people you work with. You are there to work not socialize. What happens when things go south and you two have a big fight or a nasty breakup and can't stand to be around each other? Are you going to quit your job? I only ask because there's no guarantee that he will and you could be stuck in a miserable situation. Leave work for... work. It is what you're being paid to do after all

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Well in high school I was the same way around guys I liked, I would get so nervous when he would talk to me, he did try to be my friend at first and if I didn't look at him I could talk but eventually I would freeze up and not know what to say to him because I was so scared to say something dumb, yet I would talk to all his friends super easily so he eventually thought I hated him LOL.  Its most likely because he doesn't want to say something you don't like and then have you think he is weird or something.

lightbulb27 · Answer

attraction combined with emotional confusion/confounding.

Garud · Answer

What to do if a girl is interested in me. This is a new thing, never happened before, it is like rain in the desert. But this is the workplace.

Now after this overthinking, emotions are not in control. After the emotions calm down she will become friendly and confident with you also.

Cormac995 · Answer

Mainly because if he likes you, that's abundantly clear. He's worried you're not interested, and he'll get shot down so he's (Badly) trying to hide his feelings because he'd rather hide it than risk getting shot down and dealing with the pain and massive blow it would be to his ego. If he's the nervous type, he likely has very little confidence in dating because nervous guys normally don't get a lot of attention and when we do, we either 1. Don't know what to do. 2. Shrug it off as her just being nice to you and don't even realize their flirting. 3. Go into a panic because this is the biggest shot we've had in a while, and we're so terrified we're going to fuck it up and get hurt we often fuck it up and get hurt so he probably is like that because he's had similar experiences.

Finchie40 · Answer

Some guys’ just get really nervous and anxious when he is around a girl he really likes and is interested in , controlling his urges for her can be hard for some men , he doesn’t want to say something stupid and weird to take the chance of her losing interest in him , and turning her off , so he tries to play it cool as much as possible , so she doesn’t get creeped out. So if you really like this guy , just be straight forward with him and tell him how you feel , ask him to go out sometime , it’s ok for a girl to make the first move and not wait for him to do so , he might just be shy

slickrick6600 · Answer

I feel nervous around girls I like because I’m afraid of screwing up especially if she means a lot to me. I’m confident as can be around girls I’m not interested in being with. But in walk my crush and my heart is beating like crazy and I can no longer construct a sentence. Don’t know why but that’s how I was built.

Lionman95 · Answer

He´s nervous because he knows there is a mutual interest and he doesn´t want to mess it up. He´s joking and fun to others as he has no equal interest in them. Therefore in his attempt to get you he´s constantly looking for a sign of what could be a rejection. As that would mean that he has done something wrong as long as there are no signs he knows he still has a chance.

I´d guess he looks for a way to ask you out but doesn´t know how.

ManOnFire · Answer

I would like to know: is he friendly and confident with other women on the job too? Or is it only guys? If it's only guys then it's probably because he's concerned that talking with a female alone on the job can result in her saying he did something he didn't do.

If he is friendly and confident with other women too but not you, then it's likely that he's into you as well.

HungTexan · Answer

It’s probably because he’s very interested in you, but worried about possible rejection. Just give him time and encouragement.

NicholasRedone · Answer

Lol 😅 I don't wanna go into it apart from just "I'm thinking worst case scenarios* or crapping where I eat saying

AviatorTom · Answer

Falling in love is risky. There's always a chance it won't work out, no matter how hard you try. Which means you might get hurt, and people don't like getting hurt.

This is why commitment is hard, yet it's so very important to make a relationship work.

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

Because women are petty and reject men over every minor detail. Wrong hair color. 1 inch too short. Wrong eye color. Who knows what other stupidity women find to reject men. It used to be really unnerving to me years ago, but I learned to not give a damn what women think since then and I feel much better for it. Couldn't care less for women now. They've never been anything but a bother to my mind.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I read this to a gal pal with me right now. She said, “Because you make him gassy.” Her theory (comically speaking) is that he gets so nervous around you that he gets gassy and becomes afraid he’ll let a ripper go and lose his chance with you. Give him a Gas-X and see if that helps I guess?

dragoblack · Answer

Because for guys, it's like walking on eggshells. Say 1 wrong word or phase and women normally lose all interest... and it's normally over something simple and insignificant. Dude doesn't want to scew up his own chances, and guys normally go dumb around women they find attractive and can't think what to say or talk about.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Because he wants to fuck u and leave you to other girl. Secret revealed

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

Uncertainty or Insecurity
With Themselves possibly
like due to past bad experiences or the fear of getting to know you
And see where it goes what happens next

or he's overthinking on making a good impression

mamysandycandy · Answer

It's easier to ask him if he likes you.  Whats the worst that can happen? Him saying no?

Silver158 · Answer

He probably likes you as well but might be worried about screwing it up. He may also be worreid that you might not like him back and if he does anything he might end up losing his job over it.

Levin · Answer

Probably, cause, if he likes you, he can't relax in the interaction. Overthinking it, anticipating and trying to seel the deal.

Anonymous · Answer

When you like someone your own imperfections stand out as your vulnerabilities.

GlowUpGirly5 · Answer

He doesn't like you. You have no proof of mutual interest.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Some guys (and girls) are just like that till they know someone.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

He likes you and is shy with you.

UnwantedScorpio · Answer

So can I best type of chic. Am I right z?

Alice18 · Answer

I think yes

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

I would.

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