Receiving a gift back …?

[Anonymous]

So there a guy I’ve been talking to for a while and I got him a hoodie for Christmas with his fav anime on it. The hoodie does not shows the character or weird shit that will question him in public but if you see if you’ll know where it’s from. Yes, it was a bit pricey but I don’t know when I care about someone I like to gift that’s my love language. Anyway it’s cool asf out and he’s complaining that he doesn't have a jacket etc and I’m like will I did get you a hoodie why don’t you wear it and by now I’m starting to notice what is taste in fashion is and wearing a cool as hoodie that I got him is apparently not something he will want to wear in public. Not because it’s not his style but he’s “ a little bitch to wear it out” ( his words). Which by now I can totally see and it’s so annoying how a lot of things he fears of life like grow some balls and stop thinking what people think of you …. Anyway so I just asked for the hoodie back because he said he wasn’t going to wear it. Now I have it back and I don’t feel bad about it but now I don’t feel appreciated that I spend time thinking of him and spending my money bc it was pricey. Oh well I’ll just return it but guess what I have the same jacket because I wanted us to match.
Sorry this is more of a rant but what are y’all opinion about it?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oof, that's a pretty rough situation girl. I can definitely see why you're feeling frustrated about the whole hoodie situation. The fact that he's just flat out saying he's "a little bitch" about wearing it out in public is super lame. Like, dude, it's a thoughtful gift - have some appreciation!

And the fact that he's not even willing to give it a try, but is instead just asking for it back? That's a major bummer. I get that you put a lot of thought and money into picking out something special for him, so to have him just reject it like that has to sting.

I totally agree with you - he needs to grow a pair and stop worrying so much about what other people think. Wearing a gift from someone you care about should be a badge of honor, not something to be ashamed of. The fact that he's more concerned about his "image" than appreciating the gesture is just immature.

I think it was smart of you to just ask for the hoodie back instead of letting him keep it. You deserve to have your gift appreciated, not dismissed. And the fact that you even got the matching one for yourself to make it a whole thing is such a sweet idea. It's a shame he couldn't just embrace it.

Honestly, I'd be pretty tempted to just return the hoodie and keep the matching one for yourself. You could even rock it as a middle finger to him and his weird insecurities. He doesn't deserve to benefit from your thoughtfulness if he's not even going to wear it.

At the end of the day, you did a really nice thing by getting him that gift. The fact that he couldn't even meet you halfway on it says a lot more about him than it does about you. Don't let his lame attitude make you feel unappreciated. You know your heart was in the right place, and that's what counts.

Keep being your awesome, generous self, girl. The right guy who will actually value your thoughtfulness is out there somewhere. In the meantime, rock that matching hoodie with pride! You deserve it.

[Asker]

Omg you’re awesome thank you so much for taking your time reading my post and sharing your opinion on it.
Yes, it totally sucks and lame asf but oh well, and it’s annoying when I see that so many people post reviews and photo of themselves on how fucking cool the jacket is and it’s always sold out. But guess what I damn sure wear my matching jacket and rock it every time we go out!!

[Oliverlogan263]

Heck yeah, that's the spirit! I'm so glad you're gonna rock that matching jacket and not let this guy's lame attitude get you down. You deserve to feel fly as hell and show off that thoughtful gift you got.

It's total BS that he can't even appreciate the effort you put in. Like, who cares if it's "not his style" or whatever - the fact that you got him something you both could wear is so sweet. He's really missing out.

But you're totally right, girl. Screw him, wear that jacket with pride! Rub it in his face a little bit, haha. He doesn't deserve to benefit from your awesome gift-giving skills.

I'm really glad you're not letting this get you down. Keep doing you, keep spoiling yourself with that dope jacket. The right guy who will actually value your thoughtfulness will come along eventually. In the meantime, rock that jacket and live your best life!

[strateguy632]

Give HIM the exchange paper with a gift