Girl brags to me about other guys will I ever be her guy?

[FreeLeave]

She uses me to release all of her thoughts (about everything even bragging about other guys) and it makes me like her more and more. In a way, I depend on her though because her happiness brings me up and motivates me a ton. I don't understand it at all... like why do I like listening to this girl so much...

she like has this incredible hold on me. For example I am fine for the first week of ignoring her, but then I start getting really guilty and depressed and really miss her and I just break down and talk to her and end up listening to everything I missed and it's frustrating because she is with another guy... ! that's THE WORST PART :(

I almost feel like I am dating her in a way though... I basically am without the making out... all the other girls don't compare I feel like they are too boring or too crazy and I can't find a girl like this one. I am just digging myself into this huge hole and I haven't had a girlfriend for almost 7 months, and it sucks.

I have never been stuck on just 1 girl for what seems like forever... what am I doing to myself? Like the main question I put -- am I setting myself up good or bad? does anybody relate to this at all?

if you can't can you just give me some paraphrase advice... I don't even really know what I'm saying...

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yeaa she started dating another guy a little bit ago... I do feel used as sh*t and she even told me she wanted to date the guy so I was like uhhhh that sucks for me but okay

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the thing is she wouldn't tell me his name... and it sounded like bullsh*t and I know I don't want to believe it but yeaa I think she was looking for a reaction... and would she really put so much effort into telling me everything... wowwww

[Anonymous]

Geeze, some of these people gave you terrible advice. She's obviously not using you, she probably just feels comfort in having a friend that will listen to her and genuinely care. Okay; here's what you do. Tell her you like her. Not on the phone, not in a text, but in person. As soon as possible. Collect all of the thoughts of why you like her, write it down, or just think about it then tell her. If she doesn't like you like that and says so to your face, then doting on her isn't worth your time. If she does, then she'll tell you straight out. If she's confused, give her time. She might come around. If she can't answer you, don't get angry. Give her time to think. But if she denies you, try really hard to disconnect yourself from her, because if you don't; you'll just be seeing the same thing you're seeing over, and over again and you would be able to do nothing about it. It would emotionally abuse you. So tell her how you feel, and if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. It's not the end of the world, and you'll find a girl like her or even better. Maybe one who doesn't tell you everything about her relationships. If it does work out, great for you! I wish you extreme happiness. Good luck! :)

[deej13]

shes deffinetly into you. I do the same thing sometimes, and a guys doin it to me right now. its really commen. you like someoe but almost to much and its overwelming so you make up stuff so that you feel like your in controll. kinda like I've known a guy for five years, got a boyfriend to try to get controll, (dint even tell him about it) and then I ended up breakin his heart so he did the same thing to me but told me about it and this happened three times. it can go on forever as you can see and wer still not going out. so tel her you like her and say you wana go out. that should help.

[FreeLeave]

aww that kinda harsh. well I've been good to her and I'm not trying to get back at her or start a big fight like what happened to you. its just funny that you say she is using a guy to get me to like her 0.o I haven't been able to talk to her because it feels like she is pushing me away, but I do like her :)))) I think I should just get another girlfriend and make her like me first hehe

[deej13]

lolz. your doin the same thing I just sed! you gota tell her you like her!

[Bombshell13]

Sorry man :( Is she dating someone? If not, she could just really like you too and is playing the " I want you to know I'm wanted" game. I think everyone has that person that they like so much it hurts.. and that person doesn't think of them that way at all.

[FreeLeave]

yeaa guess I found my person hahah feeling like I could have used my summer a little bit better tho lmao

[Wassup]

I can't tell if she's in to you or not. Most people will say no. But I've got a story like this. This girl texted me to "save her" at 11 p.m because she was a third wheel. I ignored her text and the next day we talked about it and I said I was sorry, but she tried to tell me that a guy came and made everyone jealous. I thought it was bull sh*t because I don't know a guy who would drop everything to see a girl at 11 at night. So I pretended to be totally unphased by this and changed the subject entirely. This really thee her off. Next time just pretend like you're not phased and changed the subject on her. See how she reacts. If she seems kind of frustrated or thrown off then she could be in to you.

[FreeLeave]

she was out and about... halfway believable story for some randy to come. I am on your side for sure tho becaues there is no time to give a sh*t about her other possible guys.

but yeah lol when she told me about this guy I tried changing the subject like 5 times and then I was just like f*** it and was like damn this guy sounds a lot like this girl veronica and I don't know a veronica lmao but that got her really pissed to say the least and she was even like I bet she isn't real...too funny.

[slipslender]

SIGH.

she's just using you. and you're letting her manipulate you. grow a backbone, get with a girl who will actually DATE YOU instead of using you as a personal therapist. I know this sounds harsh, but why the f*** should you live like that? you are definitely setting yourself up for something terrible.

[slipslender]

@update: NO. NOT OKAY. sigh. you're wasting your time...

[FreeLeave]

yea I'd say your right but its frustrating.. lol thank yaa

[slipslender]

gotta stand up for yourself...

[Anonymous]

Will you ever be her guy? Probably not

[FreeLeave]

WTF?!? WHY NOT! trololololol