How should I handle it when a guy I’m seeing suddenly pulls away and ignores me?

[angels]

We started off great, but he became distant, and I confronted him about it. Now, he’s still ignoring me, and I’m left wondering if I did something wrong. Should I keep pushing or let him go?

[DishLady]

Ignore him -- he's trapped in his own head for whatever reasons of his own. Go do something else. Don't think about him, don't make excuses for him, don't reach out to check in, and don't wait for him. Get gussied up, go meet some friends, take in a show or a nice dinner and move along with your life, making plans without him.

If he's actually "your guy" he will get a clue and come knocking to check in and see why you've been so quiet. But if he continues to pull away he was never yours to begin with.

[Anonymous]

Well first off all most men don’t like confrontation. It’s not that we’re all scared. We just don’t want to deal w the headache, especially when it comes to women. Because one question leads to another, then to another. It never ends. I’d say you leave him be. Give him that space. Just tell him you’re not sure what’s going. I hope it wasn’t something I did or said but if you’d like to talk I’m here. But there has to be a time limit on that as well, otherwise he’s just going to leave you hanging for as long as he wants. At some point you have to have pride, realize it’s time to move on.

[Summeroflove]

Some people loose interest and are too cowardly to just say they are. While others are just talking to too many people and again are too cowardly to just say they don’t have time.

I think at some point you just have to be direct that you feel like he doesn’t have time or is loosing interest and that…. You had a good time with him and enjoy the time you spent together but you want to move on to someone whose going to put the effort into you the way you’re putting effort into them.

[naartjie]

That’s when you cut him off. Never message, don’t try get closure. Girl he’s SHOWING you he doesn’t care.
Men won’t be verbal like us women and tell you we’re not into you or we’re seeing someone else. Men tell you with their actions.
Girl if a man wants you, trust me he’s gonna show you and you won’t have to ask him nothing.
The second guy does this to me I just cut them off. Then a few months later they come crawling back and then you get to have your say and leave it at that.

[bongo]

First, give him some space to figure things out. If he’s pulling away, there’s probably something on his mind. Don’t chase him, but make sure you communicate your feelings. If he continues to ignore you, it might be time to move on don’t waste your time on someone who’s distant.

[angels]

thanks

[butterfly]

Let him go. If he wanted to be there, he would be. You deserve someone who communicates, not someone who makes you question your worth. Don’t chase after clarity from someone who won’t give it his silence says enough. Focus on yourself and let him figure himself out alone.

[angels]

thanks for advice

[LouieLouie69]

You should absolutely hear the silence. There is NO legitimate reason to leave a friend, much less an intimate partner, wondering how you feel or openly give them a cold shoulder! In fact he’s being very disrespectful and you should accept it as such. life’s too short for little boys to pout and not give enough respect to self and others to address the occasion with actions and expectation!! Stop wasting your time, and stop ignoring what he’s telling you!!

[Caroline91]

If you're left wondering, then he's not taking you into consideration. No need to even "confront" him, just make a statement about your needs and expectations and then go out and find someone who will care about that. When a man cares about a woman, making time for her is a priority for him and he'll make sure she knows it.

[Shiprex]

If he's not told you why he's backed off then it's either down to he's lost interest or found someone else. The fact he's not telling you doesn't mean it's something you've done or are responsible for so don't sweat it.

It's maybe sad for you but that's something that's difficult about life

[ProbablyClueless]

Well for one thing, you should never confront the person about it. Like 95% of the time, they don't even notice that they're doing it.

Just express your interest in continuing contact with them and mirror the level of effort they're sending your way.

[Ferngully2000]

I know it’s difficult because you want to know what happened, but I would give him space and not contact him, unless he contacts you.

If you contact him, it could look needy and guys usually retreat more, so I wouldn’t do that if you want anything to continue.

if he contacts you then fair enough the. respond, but otherwise I would let him go I’m afraid. His lost.

[KITEinStorm]

Name of this behaviour is gosthing : ending communication with someone without explanation.

You cannot handle this situation, it will exhaust you psychologically, get away from him and meet someone new.

[Babygirl000989]

Don't confront. Don't even act bothered. Indifference is your best friend in a situation like this. Stand in front of a mirror and tell yourself that him walking away has nothing to do with you... it is his loss. then go out and get busy building a great life for you... pursue your friends and your hobbies. If he comes back, be brief or avoid him.

[OneViewpoint]

Go silent. Get on with your life. He’ll either come around or not. You’ve already made an effort to talk about it. If he’s too immature to have that conversation do you really want to keep it going?

[avery58]

You should forget him. Often people mistake instant infatuation for feelings and then pull back when they realize what they felt wasn't as solid as what they thought.

[SweetJoyGirl]

Let him go.
Not worth the headache if the other person doesn’t give a darn. Especially, if they can’t open their mouth and say what is wrong, when you have asked. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

You didn’t do anything wrong. Just delete his number and if he comes back ignore him like he never existed. Mixed signals are a “no”.

[Nikki1989]

Give him some space to process whatever he's going through. Chasing after him will likely push him further away.

[naartjie]

Girl no… that’s not what you do. You cut them off cause he’s just playing games and they’re not 20 anymore

[RealMarek]

If he won’t tell you anything, the problem is most likely with him. If he’s not reciprocating your interest it’s time to step back from the relationship and begin to move on.

[LickwidSkie]

Let go. If that's his disposition towards you it's best to move on.

[Finchie40]

Move on , if he isn’t choosing you , you don’t choose him period

[PeachyPie93]

He lost interest.. let it go plenty more fish in the sea..

[AviatorTom]

Don't push things with him. He may come back... or he may not.

[Staximus]

Your bio says "My husband and my family are my first passion in my life." Obviously not.

[RHK36]

Move on. People show you who they are. If you stay longer then don't complain later.

[In_Trance]

The first thing you need to do is think about your own actions and figure out which one made him pull away

[orange_roach]

If she was the one who made him pull away, wouldn’t he say so and they would talk about it? I mean, you could do something without realizing you’re doing it but don’t know what exactly you’re doing.

[orange_roach]

Because I’m that type of person who tries to figure what I did wrong but don’t know what exactly until someone tells me. If no one tells me, I’m going to drive myself nuts and blame myself for being a terrible human being.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Get rid of him. He isn't into you. Don't waste your time.

[orange_roach]

I say let go. You did confront him but he chose not to tell you what was wrong.

[WhitneySnow]

What did he say when you confronted him?

[lightofdarkness]

Do it same to him

[bowenw]

You shouldn’t have to beg anyone. Time to move on.

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

accept rejection and move on

[Magda1992]

Move on ignore him stop playing games.

[Ariesman81]

Sit quietly and patiently for him in your cage.

[kaucky1]

Like swiping dust on shoulder

[Smegskull]

Not everything in his life is about you.

[Flower7]

Let him go.

[Crazzyyworld]

He is weak

[constantine15]

Aren’t you married?