It seems he is avoiding me. Why would a guy act this way?

[Anonymous]

OMG! I am so confused. Guys, hopefully you can help me out here. A guy that seems to like me (from what I could tell), had found out that I liked him...so now he knows and then the next time I saw him he went out of his way to walk by where I was (I was standing by myself) and he walked by but was cowering, looking at me, blushing big time - RED, and waving...he didn't stop to talk, and I waved back and said hi and he kept on going. Does that mean he likes me? Why would he act that way?

BUT ever since it seems he is avoiding me...I guess nothing obvious and maybe just not going out of his way further to see me, but on one occasion I could have sworn that I saw him cut down a different direction when he saw me coming.

So now I feel I am getting mixed signals and am really confused?...

[Mesonfielde]

When someone likes you and is shy, maintaining the image you have in that person's eyes becomes a primary concern. They fear screwing something up, and therefore avoid anything they could mess up - and that pretty much includes social interaction in the stress of knowing that if he messes anything up, he's damned eternally. This is when the natural response is Fear, and he starts avoiding any "conflicts" where he could mess up and fail. And he doesn't notice that this is even worse. xD

Anyways, that's the positive "he's a shy guy" answer, it's not meant to be taken -for granted-. He is embarrased and cannot really handle the situation of being embarrased around you, that's certain though. xP

[Asker]

Thanks. The only thing he seems to be really avoiding though is ME. So yes that is worse. :(

I REALLY like him, so I hope if I wave, smile etc when I do see him that he will start to feel at ease. I am shy too...but I think I met someone who is actually worse than me.

[Asker]

Ok maybe I am an idiot. If the guy KNOWS you like him, wouldn't that make it easier (like being releaved instead of still wondering) to move forward or at least talk to you more? If it were me, even though I am shy, and the guy flat out let me know that he liked me I would make sure that I responded in kind to ensure they know, so the other party didn't think I wasn't interested now. I mean he waves at me every time he sees me now, but won't approach or speak. Can't progress that way. x-[

[A-Vengeance]

Hes probly a shy guy

thats exactly how I was wen I got my girlfriend I didn't know what to do or how to act around her after I found out she liked me (mainly cause we were friends b4 we got together)

[Asker]

But it sounds like you got it worked out. I guess I should just be patient and he will come around? I am going to make an effort to say hi or wave or smile or something when I see him.....as long as he doesn't jump into a closet or the guys restroom when he sees me coming.

[A-Vengeance]

Yea I got it to work out cause I saw how sad she got wen I was doin that to her so I put up the effort to hang out with her more and show her how much I cared. its not jus one person needs to put up the work both need to other wise 1 of you guy will start to feel really bad wen the other is ignoring you an then u'll go back to where you are now. itll go back in forth sometimes it sux.as long as you keep puttin up the effort he'll come around

[Asker]

Thanks. I hope so.

[dodgersmom11]

What ever happened with this?