Men think about it.. do you think being told to "suck it up" is actually healthy when it comes to mental health?

[Anonymous]

I am going to get a wide array of answers, but please put your pride aside. I'm not talking about "suck it up" if you fall and break your arm.

We're all human. We go through obstacles that are overwhelming, and sometimes we do just want someone to talk to. I feel like it's unhealthy to bottle up feelings of anger, sadness, etc. I say it's unhealthy because one day you will hit that point and you will explode when the smallest trigger hits.

Im not talking about crying like a baby when there's a minor inconvenience that just happened. It seems like just having someone to talk to and having to let things out calmly is way better than one day ending up taking it out on someone or something. Letting it all day you up inside like a parasite.

My exes tended to bottle up their emotions and anxieties. They'd have demanding jobs, shitty family life, etc. I'd see pain in their eyes. They'd say nothing is wrong but I knew it was bullshit. They'd get drunk to ease the feelings or shut themselves off. Once I'd finally get them to open up, they saw how much of a relief it was to get it off their chests. I thought damn.. I could've listened to you each time something happened, and you would've felt slightly better the next day. Lots of men who I met who "suck it up" have turned out to be narcissists or avoidants.

[Rohaan2020]

No, it’s not healthy at all…. Not only for yourself but for the people who surround and love you…. But we mostly do it bcz we know few things have no solution and so all we can do is just to accept it and move on….. and mostly we do not share witht he loved ones is because we don’t want to make them suffer too with us…. I know it doesn’t work like that but yes it’s not easy to open upto anyone… some might see you as weak….

[Asker]

Totally get that and it's kind of in the biology! We all don't want to feel like a "burden" to loved ones. But if they're around you and you're not yourself, and little "Hey I'm sorry if I seem like I'm not myself it's just been quite a day!" Is a mature thing to do in my opinion. I'm teaching my son young. He used to come in after school, bottle things up and take his anger out on me. I finally got it through his head that if he had a bad day to just let me know instead of bottling it up just to let it out in a way where it harms everyone. Emotional intelligence is essential. You become a better friend, significant other, student, and employee one day.

[Rohaan2020]

That’s so good of you… mother is the best person with whom we can share without worrying about judgement and all…. We all need at least that one person with whom we can open up completely and discuss everything

[bellicose]

You sound retarded. Men aren't women. We don't work that way.

[Pterodon]

Fuck no. It especially doesn’t work if someone has clinical depression

[Asker]

Im glad to get the honesty from someone in the older generation where it was a very common thing to say!

[Pterodon]

I’m totally disabled use to major depression. If we could suck it up we would. You think we like feeling that way?

[Anonymous]

If you knew you would be made fun of, ignored, or have it used against you if you shared feelings, would you still continue to do so? I'm pretty sure most people would stop after considering the fact.

Is it healthy? No, but the reality is men's mental health doesn't matter to the majority and men learn this at a very young age.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Nope it's not healthy and I'm sure everyone is aware of that

[Anonymous]

Nope but no one is going to listen for free so