Boyfriend doesn't really ask me questions or about my life?

[Anonymous]

Apparently it's because men think differently, but isn't it also a sign of not being interested? If I would not be interesting to him, why would he be with me?

We have been together for over 8 months. On first date, he wasn't really asking me questions either. Prior to that we spent hours calling each other, there he did ask me some basic questions before meeting, about me and my hobby (box), but questions about school and such came months later. Now we usually do have topics to talk about or something, often it is me asking questions and he does talk about himself (he's a bodybuilder, he talks a lot about food, gym and stuff that comes with it and I am curious about it).

He does ask me how am I doing, how did I sleep, when did I go to bed, what was I doing and what I have in plan for the day (at least usually), but he doesn't ask me questions about my family, work or my like life goals. We have at least talked about moving in together, flat first, then a house and some shared life goals (our own gym).

I can feel that he loves me, hopefully not just for what I am giving him, not all of it is positive (I can be a little psycho too).

I'd just appreciate if he'd ask more about me, but you can't force interest so I don't understand?

I asked him about yesterday and whether he asks anyone anything and he said no, that he never really did. He also said he prefers to spend time together and that he usually learns of the person from such moments and from things that happen as the time goes. Is this legit?

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Throughout our time together he's gifted me a ring that I always wanted (not an engagement one) and he cannot stop saying I love you to me.
He also composed music just for me...

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He does remember little things/details about me though.

[ProbablyClueless]

It's pretty common for people to not know how to ask questions because they don't want things to feel forced or like they're being invasive. That's just a general lack of social skills.

It could also be that the way you answer questions doesn't really make it easy to ask follow up questions. That's a problem I have encountered with a lot of people. And I'm mentioning that because most people find me physically imposing/intimidating, and your boyfriend could have that same effect on people. I've had a number of people throughout life tell me that I look like a bully.

It's really common is that when I ask people questions about their lives, they don't give me anything to go on. "How was your week? Did you do anything fun?" "My week was good. I just worked. It was really busy but good, how was your's?" "Mine was good. About the same. Do you know why you're so busy?" "Nope... just normal customer flow."

In a conversation like this, I don't have anything to go on. What am I supposed to ask about? So, eventually I just stop asking.

[Stevepro68]

Can't speak for him but some people are not planners. They go with flow and see where it leads them. If you are a planner it may be something that chronically drives you nuts. It may have no significance as to the seriousness of your relationship to him. To a non planner what matters is what I do now, not what I will do in the future. That will come eventually.

[slatyb]

If he's not interested in you, why are you with him?

[Asker]

Did you read the whole thing?

[Anonymous]

He might be a psychopath.

[Anonymous]

Overthink much?