If a guy flirts for an ego boost, does he like the girl at all?

[Anonymous]

I mean and it can go both ways (girls and guys) do they even like the other person eg in terms of do they even find them attractive or it doesn’t matter anyone will do to validate them eg unattractive?

What would be the point to continuously flirt with them really? Wouldn’t it get old very quickly?

[SteveSmith1985]

Usually they like the person. If they are just flirting for the sake of it, then it's not going to be sustained in any way. I've been accused many times of being a flirty person (like called-out for it in the moment by someone else who saw whatever I said/did. I have been surprised... then had to admit they had a point.

As far as I know, I have never given anyone the impression that I was interested in them when I wasn't. I am quite sure any girl I was interested was very clear that I was flirting with her.

What I mean is... if there's nothing behind the flirting, it's going to be fairly obvious that it doesn't mean anything.

If you think someone is flirting with you, they almost certainly like you.

[MannMitAntworten]

Ego boost? Who the eff flirts to give themself an ego boost? That is some bizarre logic I can only figure comes from a gender studies class. Granted, XX mindset projection on to men’s clearly demonstrates how XX’s brain correlate conclusions because it is assumed by XX that men share the same thought processes and values as them. Thankfully we do not because otherwise we would still be in caves eating berries, nuts, and raw shellfish.

[Asker]

Well see that’s what I wonder too, like why bother. It does seem counterproductive but apparently some people do exactly that, strange,

[MannMitAntworten]

Yes. It makes zero sense. As for some doing it for exactly that reason … that is a new one on me. Never seen it and only hearing it for a first time from you. Weird times….

[PeachyPie93]

Guys if they are using you to boost their ego usually at least think you are attractive, especially if they are the ones initiating the flirting. They might not like you or want to date you but you give the attention they crave.

[Gwendoline]

If a guy flirts with you it doesn't mean he likes you, just means he would like to have sex with you. Most guys are attracted to most average women.

[ProbablyClueless]

A little bit. You probably wouldn't get an ego boost by flirting with someone you found undesirable.

I wouldn't take set much stock in that though.

[Asker]

Yes agreed, How do you mean take much stock?

[ProbablyClueless]

Oh, I just mean that in the sense of if you were trying to convince someone that the guy liked you, you shouldn't rely on the flirting as a strong sign of his interest.

[Asker]

Oh yeah ok no worries

[Nikki1989]

Most men would flirt with a tree if it had tits. It is meaningless.

[Asker]

Haha lol probably true

[nawtee_me]

It is not an ego boost unless she flirts back. If she doesn’t then it deflates his ego or he calls her names to make himself look good so his ego stays in tact. If it is her fault then he cool….

[Asker]

I but what about if he knows she likes him, then it’s automatically cna ego boost eh?

[beenherebefore]

Hmmm probably not. When I was younger and sed to seek male validation I would do anything to get any guys attention, I didn’t like them I just wanted someone to tell me I’m pretty/hot/sexy I just wanted to feel desired.

[insatiable_curiosity]

We flirt when we’re interested in you. This said, sometimes the chemistry is off.

[Asker]

As in there’s no spark?

[insatiable_curiosity]

Yes. Also, as people, we’re often interested in an idealized version of who we think a person might be. As we get to know someone, the layers get pulled back as we learn more about that person. Sometimes, we find that we’re just not compatible.

[DishLady]

That’s a great question. Most likely not in any serious way. Some guys do it out of pathological habit bc they like the idea that they can “get” a girl.

[Fireguy17]

I will flirt with someone who i would have an interest in incase it worked out

[Asker]

So with the intent for something to happen down the line?

[Fireguy17]

the vast majority of the time nothing happens except you made someone smile, which is a good thing.
You never know what can happen, but why not make someone smile.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he likes your attention, but he doesn't know how to proceed furrher.

[Asker]

Ooh yes I guess this could be an option

[LauraJ00]

I think he might like her on a superficial level but hasn’t decided or doesn’t like her beyond that.

[retarb]

Hard to flirt when you don't like what you're looking at.

[Asker]

Agreed

[DrPepper12]

Yes. It's sincere Even if it's not going anywhere

[Asker]

How do you mean not going anywhere? Just for the like of it?

[DrPepper12]

Yeah. Self fulfillment

[serious]

No, if he is flirting only for ego boost then it is clear he is not interested nor is he serious.

[Jay-_-]

It can go either way maybe he likes the way you look more than actually considering a relationship.

[Jay-_-]

Long story short, it's just lust.

[Asker]

Ah yeah I see what you mean

[Iron_Man]

yes they like each other that’s why they flirt

[Asker]

So you mean the guy does actually like the girl in some way?

[Iron_Man]

Yes..

[Asker]

But like how so? If he doesn't want it to go any further?

[Iron_Man]

They could be attracted to them they can like their personality. There’s some kind of liking going on there. It could be everything but more than likely they’re attracted to them.

[WhitneySnow]

Sometimes. Usually the person needs to be at least somewhat attractive to the person flirting with them.

[AviatorTom]

Guys and girls don't waste their time flirting with someone they don't like.

[AnonAndrew]

He might, or he might not. You can't make a generalized statement about this.

[Anonymous]

First of all i don't think you can compare the two. Men and women don't exactly flirt for the same reasons. Women flirt incessantly because they need to feel attractive to men. And by baiting men they get that emotional lift. Men flirt with women either because they are genuinely attracted to them or thier trying to flex thier standing. Thier saying Men and to other women, "look at me, look what I attract".

[NicholasRedone]

Both genders do it lol 💋 😘 flirt flirt flirt

[Makeushiver]

Flirting is not necessarily an ego boost. It's actually putting your ego on the line.

[MrChinaski]

Sometimes yes. Sometimes no. I don't think you can infer anything accurately.

[Anonymous]

Some men are just flirts and flirt with everybody , I don’t understand it. I wouldn’t wanna have to talk to multiple people at once , I don't know how they multitask like that.

[Anonymous]

They wouldn't flirt if they did not like. So ya he Def likes

[Asker]

Ah interesting thanks

[jahaims]

People that flirt for validation can't connect with others enough for a healthy relationship

[Babebytheshore85]

You answered your own question. Ladies you have to start using your brains.

[WonderingManII]

I get tired of people using each other.

[Asker]

Agreed

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy. Personally - I never flirt, because I really don't know how.

[DCVsMarvel2]

Didn't you just answer your own questions

[Asker]

Not really, I mean it sounds like some guys flirt with girls for an ego boost they don’t find unattractive at all, so I dunno.

[DCVsMarvel2]

Ya never know. But, i think you did

[Asker]

Well I mean I have my own preconceived ideas, but I’m not a guy, so it’s always good to hear different perspectives.

[Mulcair]

Yes, they are dating after all, right?

[Asker]

No not dating.

[chocolatetwopointo]

nope, usually js finds easy bait

[beefcakebradybatson]

Sometimes.

[Asker]

So he might flirt with with someone he doesn’t find attractive but still gets an ego boost?

[beefcakebradybatson]

Why not?

[Asker]

Because I’m wondering why that would fulfil someone’s ego, if you weren’t physically attracted to him. if a guy did that to me who wasn’t attractive I wouldn’t feel anything.

[lyrem04]

Well obviously not

[Godihateyou]

Nope