If men love when women dress modest then why is there this assumption that women wearing revealing clothes is for mens attention?

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I noticed a lot of men say that women wear revealing clothing for male attention but how would that even make sense when the large majority of men are attracted to modesty? Wouldn't dressing for male attention be dressing modest instead of revealing since that's what men say they like?

If men love when women dress modest then why is there this assumption that women wearing revealing clothes is for mens attention?

Why do women wear revealing clothes?

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CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Ah yes, the classic cognitive dissonance of being a woman in the patriarchy. You can’t be a slut, but you can’t be a prude, but you’re not an old lady so show some skin! Oh but you’re too old for that kind of stuff, you need to look more mature to be respected. You’re not his mother but he needs to be cared for like a child, but you should have fun! But only with other women and only if you don’t have sex, but you can’t just sleep with one guy that’s weird and sad, etc., etc.

Men presume everything is done for them. The reality is we’re in an economic recession and when that happens people lean towards conservative values in order to ward off their fear of the new and try to go back to the “old and gold” ways. Just look up The Hemline Index and you’ll see what I mean.

Kaylani · Accepted Answer

The answers from men are really funny. Once faced with their own hypocrisy, the tumble o’ fumble is grand.

MisterWack · Answer

Men will bitch about anything. That is it.

”Women are insecure about their bodies if they wear concealing clothes hiding the female form”

“Women are attention seeking whores when they wear revealing clothing”

I say, be yourself and stay true to yourself. Don’t do anything for anybody unless the man or woman is your loving partner then who cares? Be yourself and stay true to yourself.

Also respect dress codes. Other than that, be yourself!

Rosexøxø · Answer

You know, I was 1,000 percent with you and this, in the beginning, but seems iffy now.

I think we have to establish the types of men. Anpu mentioned some good points around being strictly instinctual/primitive/physiological, but this can’t be 100% endorsed or denied.

I don’t know how true it is, if men actually look at women in reproductive ways, or if it’s in sexual fantasy/pleasure type of ways. (for Single straights).

But even if we consider it, either the reproductive biology one or the sexual pleasure one (horniness etc.), it could only realistically be applied to single men who just want to be “fuck boys.” They’d most likely be the type to look AT, and look FOR, provocative women. But then again, this still clashes. If it were to inseminate her (biology wise), then he’d have to stay and help raise the child/offspring. But fuckboys don’t become “dads” 99% of the time. So it would have meant that the single fboy just wanted to look at provocative women and get with them for the pleasure rush. Alone. Not for reproduction.

In either case, this means for married men, they specifically shouldn’t oogle at single provocative women because they will not reproduce/inseminate, nor just ‘one and done her’- cause he has a lifelong lover and sexual partner combined into one. ☝️

Truthfully, some men look, and some men don’t look. I think that is dependent on whether they are into a one night stand, or if that lady is not their cup of tea, even if she is half nude.

The married men who look are either cheaters, or they had a moment of weakness, but wouldn’t leave their wife for that.

I think there’s also two types of F boys, one who just mingles with the provocative singles exclusively, and then the other that doesn’t exclude modest singles, and in some cases either doesn’t distinguish the difference and just sees “pretty lady is pretty lady. All fair game.” (To flirt/ try and do a hook up). But then there’s the other portion of fboy that would like to go after the modest lady also, and try to pressure her into revealing more and doing more). Which is disrespectful and pretty much consistent with his horny f boy nature. Just 100% having no regard or morals, along with that nature.

I’m not at any comfortable conclusion here, though. Seems overall, tricky, to get to “serious partner phase,” with the different women, dressing for different reasons, and the different men, wanting different things at different points in their lives. Some of those men, will be into the showy lady, but then be ready to “settle down.” Later. And want the modest lady, instead. Some ladies will be into such provocative attire cause it’s just easier to work with and still appealing.

And of course some married men are cheats or not as committed decided/ self disciplined with their lady. And some are. Some men will not give a look to a real life “dancing, attention-seeking lady,” if he thinks to himself, “I’ve already got my prize and nobody will ever be like [her name:] _______.

I feel like what makes this question difficult is that it’s a good start and it calls for men to be: either consistent,* or extremely clear* on what they want sexually, romantically, short term, long term. Etc.

But it makes it difficult to understand what people want, what morals they have, what’s okay and what’s not okay, the why, their sense of discipline/integrity, type of fetishes they may have, and on and on. It’s just a lot to consider if we don’t have 100% transparency for either side.

Humans overall, can’t dress TOO revealing cause then it’s not appropriate for public settings. We can’t be so comfortable we just get tired of wearing shirts lol. Men also can’t expect women to change their style of clothes according to their preferences- when he’s looking for a good time, and later when he wants something more quiet and slower in pace.

It’s possible that men may also think that they will naturally find BOTH modest and provocative women, so they will have no issues with their tastes and preferences in encountering women, in different points of their lives.

But some women, as men also do… at times, dress for male gazes. The opposite sex. So this idea of male preference in clothe wear and women, changing, isn’t convenient for the lady who does dress for the male gaze. It’s possible some of these women believe: if they attract first with looks, the chance (s) will be higher for him to stay later, and longer, for a long term relationship. A woman cannot, USUALLY, reel in a ‘husband material’ kind of man with her outfit, alone. That sort of thing (soul mate) would simply require social chemistry, and other things.

- in this type of woman’s case, her open outfit is like a fish net, 🐟 that would draw almost every type of man- even the ones who don’t want to stay with her. Nor the kind of men she’d want to stay with…

It’s like the equivalent of two lunch food trucks offering free food. One for a day and the other- every day. Some workers go by, and some will take from the free day offer, but not become lifelong customers, thereafter. They just took the limited deal. (Convenience).

While the lifelong-free food truck, will have some customers stop by and continue to do so, half who visited the first time or first week will not stay. They will dine elsewhere, where they prefer and enjoy the most.** They may like different food altogether, even.

Out of the ones who stayed, though. Half will stay until they get tired and also want to try something new, or go back to previous shops, or simply to other restaurants they always wanted to visit initially, and are willing to pay the price and/or ready now to pay that price. The remaining half will stay because they enjoyed the food always. Or tried the food and loved it ever since.

So if we equate the open wardrobe, of the lady who wants male gaze, for a life long partner. Her level of freeness will attract all sorts, but not successfully keep the right sort she had actually wanted. She’ll instead, have to find a more precise way to encounter the one she truly prefers in the end.

I know I seem a bit all over the place, but I really think it’s because of considering the different types of scenarios and people. People are all over the place. 😂 I think the avenue/idea of “clothes for soulmate” is a weak and 90% of the time, unreliable method. I think clothes can be a part of the “fun” and foreplay/ and allure for singles trying to have fun. But that’s about it.

And we can’t forget about respect and recognition, that some people will truly wear what they want, irrespective to what others want or like.

I just hope that people find what they’re looking for, to be honest.

And that committed couples respect each other, and stay loyal if that’s what they had initially chosen. And don’t rush into commitment. Make sure you get along with them, and they’re the one you want to stay with forever. This way cheating is eliminated. Or less likely.

In conclusion. We can’t generalize men and women. Everyone is at different places, with different goals, and tastes. I think everyone will simply notice the women dressing less, MORE, and the men who catcall or stare at them, more than we see the rest of the other variations. You know, the modest women being approached by disciplined men. Etc.

We’ve seen the f boy, whether successful or not previously- push modest ladies.. and some uninterested provocative ladies, and also seen others step in to push him off. That’s noticed at times.

But everyone remains different. I’d say the largest demographic IS the singles looking for a good time. It’s gonna be the bachelor/bachelorette generation/ age range, and they may be party goers or not. They will dress flashy/showy. And make flirtatious remarks. But bottom line, is everyone will notice them. Whether we ourselves are modest or not. Whether we are married are not.

Doesn’t mean everyone is like them, doing what they’re doing, or wants what they want.

This is all I can say. 🤔

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

"when the large majority of men are attracted to modesty" Okay, but it's not what I observe around me. What I'm looking at is:  some conservative men big on wanting/having women modestly dressed , I see these guys online, only online, as they don't seem to exist in my everyday life. And then I see the average man, in the real world, who's not talking about liking modesty or immodesty, it does not seem to be a topic of concern for him. "There's a reason why guys with modest girlfriend/wives worship instahoes and pornstars instead of worshiping their modestly dresses girlfriend/wives" Totally agree . It seems like a textbook case, a logical one psychologically speaking. When an ultra-conservative environment eventually breaks people's mind by submitting them to  ethical rules so oppressive that they're violating instinct . Except that this instinct wants to be free so... It finds its ways to be. To be released as a more or less ugly outcome. Then there is a bigger picture, how some societies may convince their members, men and women, that it's better for everyone to have women dress modestly. Because men would, supposedly, be essentially unable to exert self-control. In the most extreme cases,  it gives Muslim theocracies we know of, which punish womankind for a mankind's self-control problem . Cherry on the cake, these societies even convinced women that it is not men's responsibility at all. That it belongs to women instead. So clever lol

MrOracle · Answer

As almost always with women, you are conflating two different kinds of attention as if they were the same thing.

Men find women who dress modestly more desirable FOR RELATIONSHIPS. Men find women who dress more revealing more desirable for CASUAL SEX.

This should not be new information, nor should it be confusing. The problem is that women want it both ways - they want all the attention from dressing revealing, but they also want men to take them seriously as relationships partners. But men don't work that way and never will.

And most women, when forced to choose, simply can't bring themselves to go without the sexual attention, so they don't. And then they blame men for not taking them seriously as relationship partner, because it's impossible for most women to take any accountability for their own decisions.

Thankfully, there are still some exceptions in the world - both women who prioritize relationships and make certain sacrifices, and women who want the sexual attention but don't expect to be taken seriously for relationships and don't blame men for this, because they understand the consequences of their own choices.

Hal2002 · Answer

Any man that believes that women dress in revealing clothes for the their attention is deluding himself, women dress to impress and compete with other women. Women say this all the time, you get some that say they dress provocatively to make themselves feel good. Which is bs, every female I know that when she is not concerned with impressing or competing with other women. Dresses for comfort, loose cloths, no makeup, hair under a hat/cap.

If she was dressing for you the man, why is she in sweats when at home with you. But had to change and put on makeup when you are going somewhere that other women will be.

I am a typical man, when I am looking for a woman the have a relationship with. My eye will be drawn to the girls in the revealing outfits, that is what attracts us to you. Once we have become a couple, I want you to dress modestly for the most part. Especially when I am not with you, when we are together and out in public I don't mind if you dress a bit sexy. I have enough vanity that, I want other guys to see me out with my girl and wish they where with her.

But I do not want her in really revealing outfits any more, like she did when we first met. You are with me now, I don't want you showing off to other men what you should now be saving for my view only when I am not around.

The old saying, a man wants his woman to be a lady in the street and whore is the sheets is true of most men.

Communicationisking · Answer

I'll just throw this out there as I don't know if it is right or wrong it is just literally a thought that I had when reading your question... maybe most guys feel like if their girlfriend/wife or whatever dresses real nice and sexy then they will have to deal with other guys trying to pick up their partner so they say they like them to dress more modest.

Sounds like a viable reason to your query I think.

I think my girlfriend looks hot naked all the way to wearing a potato sack and everything in between.

Oh just thought of another potential reason... some girls take forever to decide what to wear then when they finally do they take ages to get ready, find the matching shoes, do the matching makeup etc. It all feels like this stuff could have had a bit of a trial run earlier and/or decided before the day leading up to the event and the guy just wants to be out having a good time with her and is less interested in what she is wearing and more interested in just being together out having fun.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Men are pretty simple, but we still have facets and phases. When men want to express their sexuality with someone they expect won’t judge them negatively, they look for someone who is expressing their sexuality similarly.
When men are ready to settle down and start a family, they value women with modesty and wifely attributes.
It’s really not that difficult to understand. Especially since women do the exact same thing. I suspect that the people who complain about these things are just upset that finding the right partner isn’t easy, ever. It’s not easy to just get laid without getting your feelings hurt or catching some communicable infection. It’s not easy to find the ideal lifelong partner without getting your feelings hurt and losing bits of yourself along the way, sometimes the whole lot all at once.
But pointing out one quarter of human nature without pointing out the quarter that compels it and remains complicit despite the drawbacks is pure hypocrisy. Nobody likes hypocrites or liars. I find it best to avoid both.

DonaldDarko · Answer

Men like modesty in women they're actually serious about. Blonds in bikinis aren't serious girls , they're just girls men like to look at. Women get this confused a lot. They think that taking thot pics on the internet and having men simp over them is the same as a man actually respecting them and wanting to marry them. Few things sillier than some dumb thot with her boobs hanging out looking smug about it like she's doing something. There will be a bunch of men acting like apes, raving over how hot she is etc but not a one of them would date her, they'd laugh in her face. It's confusing, it's contradictory but men are not as simple as a lot of women think they are. They'll hoot and holler over some party girl but few will take her seriously or consider her as relationship material. They want a respectable woman for anything serious. To a man it's two different things entirely. There's the stripper that you oggle while you drink with your buddies and there's the girl next door that you actually have feelings for.

Shiprex · Answer

Men like to look at women dressed up because they're nice to look at. Men are told this is degrading to women to "like" so are shamed by women for "objectifying" them (for men it's what they like and are shamed for things they like by women who don't want men to like the things they find attractive because it makes women feel creeped out or jealous or/and insecure depending on the man's status in their life).

Men know other men like looking at women dressed up. They also don't like to have women they're responsible to and for being in positions where they end up being creeped out or in positions where they will be approached and possibly attracted away from them by other men because women have been known to seek upgrades in their biological necessity for reproduction with higher status or genetically superior men. Call it competition that men already have with each other in status and resources that they'd prefer the women they commit to didn't expose themselves to.

So if women could demonstrate their loyalty more thoroughly men wouldn't have a problem with them dressing up for any reason when they'd committed to them.

The ball is in your court ladies

Grond21 · Answer

No no, you are missing something. Men want their woman do be freaky and sexual and daring, wearing riske clothes and more. But only with them. Because they know how intensely appealing that is and they reasonably want it as part of their private relationship. Thus a woman who does that, but maintains modesty in public, is a rare treasure. She knows her worth and only shares it with the man who is worthy.
But if she is displaying herself for all to see, it is still visually appealing but it doesn't make her person more attractive. In fact, it shows she doesn't see her own worth because she is sharing it with even the worst of men.

We don't want a woman who displays herself for all men, nor do we want a woman who is not willing to be sexual with anyone, including us.

A wall around a city is not to keep all people out or in, it is specifically to let in only those who are supposed to be there. Same with a bank vault. Locked doors, etc. And it's the same with a woman's clothes

PeachyPie93 · Answer

Men will always fuck a slut.. but that doesn't mean he wants to date or marry that slut..
Men are attracted to woman's bodies period. If he can look at it he will, they still like seeing woman's bodies even if they are protective over their woman they chose to be with. Why do you think so many retarded men will pick a modest girl but constantly look at Instahoes with barely any clothes on? It's about control and the fact they don't want other men looking at or fantasizing about what they "own". Men are pigs in general that is why I don't show my skin because no man has that right to see it except who I want to see it.

ChristianMaeTorres · Answer

I only like guys that don't like women who dress modest. So I like the kinda dirt bag/shallow/cocky guys because they like women who wear short ass shorts and really cute kinda revealing shirts or dresses, type of clothes. I don't like guys who are interested in modest women. I was modest for 28-29 years. Shirts up to my neck, no low cut, never wore shorts, hated my legs, never wore anything that showed my stomach cause I wasn't a size zero but as I've gotten more secure with myself and don't have this idea that I'm fat anymore, which is what made me never wear the cute things I wanted to, now I love the way I look and I don't think I'm really overweight anymore, even tho I never was til 2019-2020 I blew up so bad but now I'm getting back to normal. Now you can't make me wear long sleeves and full jeans.. I want to be seen and noticed now.

matchrestore · Answer

I don't really care if a woman is dressed modestly or immodestly. What usually catches my attention is how well "put together" their style is, not how covered (or not) they are.

For example, there are some one piece swimsuits that drip style and can honestly be more attractive than a thong bikini.

It also can be about how much confidence you portray. If you're look comfortable and confident in revealing clothing it will look more attractive than if you seem uncomfortable wearing it. Same with modest clothing. If you walk into a room looking confident and charismatic wearing a modest dress, that's still going to be attractive as hell... If you look timid and uncomfortable, its not going to be attractive.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

I’ll put it this way. Many men prefer their significant other to dress modestly - if they have one. However, many men (both attached and unattached alike) still enjoy seeing a lot of skin exposed on women. Women who like to feel ‘sexy’ and enjoy the harmless glances by men are aware that men get something out of it to by her doing this.

This was never a mystery. Granted if people would socialize together like we used too there would be a lot less mystery of the opposite sex for both men and women alike… but since both sides rather fling shit at one another with the growing, “It’s women’s fault/it’s men’s fault … “ rhetoric. Well, the common knowledge will sink deeper into mystery.

The sexes used to complement one another and not hold each other with contempt.

ohsheeT · Answer

That's because so many men are selfish and everything is about them

Men do not understand each and everyday when a women gets ready for work or gets ready to go out that night in that moment she feels this mood of wanting to feel a curtain way. And that the way she will dress or do her make up if she wants to feel sexy that's the way she going to dress if she wants to feel closed off that's the way she's going to dress.

Most men that have to have Any excuse for everything will blame the girl for dressing. How she dressed because it was to reviling he says that because he can't control himself and needs an excuse for his actions

meepmeeperton · Answer

The idea would be that revealing clothing attracts men's attention against their will. But they would prefer to actually have a relationship with a woman who doesn't desire attracting other men's attention.

In all honestly, though, I don't buy that most men are quite as attracted to modesty as they claim. If their girl was actually in a burqa 24/7 they'd find it boring.

WonderingManII · Answer

I'm attracted to women who dress either way. But the immodest one's draw my eyes to them quicker, and I feel hornier when I see them. I'm sorry but a woman's reason for why she dresses the way she does, is really hard to figure out. It seems that sometimes women show off to get a man's attention and sometimes not. But it's hard for me to tell when she is doing it for attention or just cause she thinks she looks cute that way. Also some really religious women will dress modest to try and help a man not to lust. Lust is a weird thing because a lot of people think lust is connected to sexual emotions. If it is, then a man will lust 100 percent of the time, or at least whenever He feels horny which is a lot! Of if Lust is a man thinking to himself, I would have sex with that woman if she allowed. Then there are lots of times I would tell her no even If I'm am horny. Why? Because I don't love every woman that makes me feel extra horny.

HawkPerception · Answer

Men will always notice girls dressed provocatively. They're literally not hiding their sexually appealing features. And the guys that want to get with those girls generally only want to fuck them. Girls like that attention that they get regardless and that's why it feels addictive to them.

Girls that wear dresses give off a more modest and elegant beauty. Those are the types of conservative women that men would happily die for and are happy to be with in a relationship. They get a different kind of attention. The right kind.

marish01 · Answer

It is only an issue if she doesn't meet society's beauty standards.

Hot women have free pass as they are eye candy.

Women who wear reaviling clothes and have bodies average or lower than average then they are deemed by men as classless.

RandomUser1000 · Answer

Most men who are in a relationship with a woman would probably like to see some skin.
But many would prefer their girlfriend/wife to be naked or dressed sexy when it's a private setting. When it's just the two of them.

That they enjoy seeing their partner naked or dressed sexy is not the same thing as they want other men to look at their partner that way.

Now there are guys who would take it as a compliment if a guy flirts with their girlfriend and some even enjoy watching their partner have sex with others.
But others would rather keep things more private.

It doesn't have to be a contradiction between wanting/enjoying seeing their girlfriend naked or dressed sexy and not wanting others to give their girlfriend that type of attention.

BonzoInBitburg · Answer

I wouldn't want my wife to dress modest like the Amish and I don't want her dressing like a hooker. I have zero fashion sense so I'm not picking out her clothes but I appreciate that my wife dresses classy and sometimes that includes clothes that show off her body a little.

Tarifa · Answer

My wife can dress the way she wants. Sometimes she will prefer a classic look, other times more revealing. Never too revealing, but that's her choice. It depends how she feels that day and if she wants to feel especially attractive.

She will sometimes ask my opinion before we go somewhere. I always say she can wear whatever she likes.

Kaneki05 · Answer

Because men who say they like modest are lying. Probably only 1% are being honest and they are monks living in solitude somewhere rural. The rest just umm go into their porn history. It says it all.

soe11 · Answer

Modesty is in mind and heart, rather than outfits. My girlfriend and her mum wear revealing outfits with purely clean mind, did not care anyone how their perceived.  I personally like my girlfriend wearing revealing outfits in public. It's indeed absolutely her personal freedom to expressed and exercised. I respect their choice as well endorse and encourage.

Geo1970 · Answer

Little bit convoluted, but I am going to have an attempt to answer it.

an example of women dressing modestly:
1, Women with possibly do so because they’re, for example had a busy day at the office, having to wear very smart clothing to look business like, maybe even a female suit,
Now, when she returns home, after a rather stressful day at the office , they would either want to wear jeans and a T-shirt maybe, or subsequently wear a dressing gown and just chill out.

2, if they are going out with friends to a nightclub, for example, a woman who naturally looks very tidy, If you understand my reference to using the word tidy, well, in this circumstance she might possibly be on the pull, Oh no, that she is a looker and is going to Tea’s as many men as possible.

In General, I think if women have got it then why not flaunt it? I am most certainly not going to condemn it as it’s rather pleasing on the eye, to say the least!

RavVid · Answer

In the real world, mutually contradictory perspectives can be equally true.

Men like seeing women mostly naked. It's a joy. We also like all aboard sluts because we can get easy sex. What man wouldn't like this?

Men also like modestly dressed non-promiscuous women. Why if we like scantily dressed hoes?

Quite simple resolution. We like the hoes for sex but we like modestly dressed non-promiscuous women for wives or girlfriends.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Women show off skin not only for mens attention but for womens attention as well.

What's the point of revealing when you also say you feel cold all the time if not on beach or summers.

It's not about the clothes, it's about the reaction they get from both men and women.

To show off their body which makes them feel good about themselves.

Obviously for straight people the males opinion would matter more or the way the men look when they wear such clothes.

If I have to show off something just because I feel nice that's basic but if get the attention for the effort that is put in then I would need the attention it's just how the attraction works.

And also so many women admit they wear such clothes to garner attention nothing wrong with but then if non asthetic women who wear such clothes women are the first to criticise them then why is that?

chrissykerdock · Answer

i wore miniskirts because i didn't like pants per se

alice55 · Answer

Because men love both at the end of the day so

AndrésC64 · Answer

Who says that the majority of men are attracted to modesty? And what do you mean by modesty in the first place? If you're talking anything like in that picture, I don't know how many men would be attracted to the Little House on the Prairie look. I'm certainly not.

TwoToTooTutu2 · Answer

Men love both. Any man who says he only likes modesty is a fucking liar.

Women typically dress in a way they like and feel good in. They dress for themselves. There are certainly pick me attention seekers, but I think they are a minority.

Pohjolan · Answer

It's a dichotomy. Men dislike too much and too little while it's contextual at the same time.

Like a bikini is totally fine on the beach but wearing just as little downtown would be slutty.

Or a skin tight neoprene suit is not slutty because it's primarily functional as is a flexible merinowool sweater that covers much but shows curves at the same time.

Or going fully naked in a mixed sauna is not slutty because it's more hygienic.

Men also like it if she wears revealing clothes when a woman is trying to seduce them specifically.

To sum it up, men like contrast.

If you eat cake all the time it's going to get dull after some time.

LiamJHayden · Answer

A lot of guys are hypocritical. They want their girlfriends or wives to be modest in public, but many of those same guys are fine with other women dressing in next to nothing in public.

Miristheiss · Answer

Women dressing like sluts gets SEXUAL ATTENTION. Guys looking to get laid and nothing else will see a hot body that is a loose woman.

Guys that want wives and want to fall in love and to have a long term girl who isn't showing it off to all men go for modest girls.

This isn't rocket science.

glennos89 · Answer

If you wear revealing clothes but say you don't do that to get male attention you are definitely delusional! Nobody is going to walk around half naked when they dont want attention from the gender they are attracted to! We are all attracted to seeing someone naked that's the ultimate fantasy right?

Joshydavid25 · Answer

That doesn't make a lick of sense.. The whole point of modesty is to not draw that type of attention to yourself, but to dress in humility and only show the good parts to your SO.. Dressing provocatively is meant to draw attention.. Most men prefer a woman who doesn't want to draw that attention to herself.. Unfortunately, we are attracted to women and our values don't always align with our hormones.. That doesn't mean we ultimately want a woman who dresses revealing though..

NYlatefun · Answer

I’m not sure if men want women to dress modestly except if it’s for religious reasons. But I want a woman to wear comfortable things semi sexy and then dress provocatively for me.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Men want a match. A safe place, matching desire and a little bit of positive challenge to keep life interesting. The rest playing games are confused and or hurt.

WindAtMyBack · Answer

Maybe they are not the same men?

SOME men like modest clothing.
SOME men like revealing clothing.
SOME men like revealing clothing to fuck but not marry.
SOME men like revealing clothing in the bedroom but not in public,

These are very different things.

Not all men like the same thing. So don't get confused if some men like different things than others.

uncleBobbyb77 · Answer

Its the difference between dating material and wife material, the difference between "I'd do her" and "I'd take her home to meet my mother". Your appearance/style is a projection of your mentality. If you don't want an immodest woman don't date one that dressed and acted immodest when all met.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Because the social signal is that she doesn't feel the need to draw attention to herself that way. Ironically calling men's attention to her lack of need for male attention 😂

The good old "I'm not like other girls fallacy that men always fall for."

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Revealing clothing gets a man's attention, just like a naked woman walking down the street would get his attention, but that doesn't mean that a guy wants to date or marry such a woman.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most men are hypocrites. They will say that while drooling over a woman in a short dress.

NathanDavis · Answer

once again... these are not the men these are boys... immature and insecure ones, as well...

Ariesman81 · Answer

God those three women are hot! I wonder what's underneath those loose fitting modest clothes.

larry69 · Answer

Just because women wear revealing clothes does not give men a right to more than a glance

Bricealan · Answer

@apple1996 I am not attracted to modesty... if a girl wears blue jean shorts cut off up to her arm pits'... I ogle them like any guy.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Are we really though? Maybe it’s, you can’t dress down a bangin’ bod, and the Puritanism of trying to “dress modest” just makes us want to get all up in there even more

Mark987 · Answer

I like women that dress in business attire if they work in the corporate world. In summer wear floral dresses... and if they feel comfortable a bikini by the pool.

beenherebefore · Answer

For a serious, long term relationship most men would prefer a woman who carries herself in a modest elegant way.

Most men will obviously look at a woman who wears revealing clothes but chances are they won't take them very seriously.

avery58 · Answer

Most of them like revealing clothes on women, they just don't respect it.

Shy_Steve · Answer

Because we either want you to dress modestly or be naked, When you Girls try going in between it looks dirty, lazy and unattractive.

Because when you go in-between it looks like your either doing it for yourself which is selfish or your doing to get multiple men's Attention which is worse than being selfish.

slatyb · Answer

That's a big if. A lot of men... yes, those who are unsuccessful and long to control women.

ManOnFire · Answer

That doesn't equate. Men like it when women dress modest but women still wear revealing clothes for men's attention. That is going to happen regardless of what men like.

Anpu23 · Answer

Its this, guys notice, its biological, I have spoken about how breasts are sexual indicators and straight guys notice them. Now a lot of guys who prefer "modest women" are upset with their own responses to this biological process.

PaleDale · Answer

I don't mind if girl's dress modest or choose to wear more revealing clothing. It's their call and not for me as a man. I might get aroused but I will hide it

Sam1133 · Answer

That's fine honey  But why did you deleted your pic? Specially that cleavage pic. I was like 😍😍. If you have OF then I'm your first client lol

AaronKrieger · Answer

Generally, men look for women who dress modestly for serious relationships and for hookups, it is the opposite.

Samantha_17 · Answer

Wearing mini skirts shouldn't make me a whore. They're comfy and good looking that's why I wear them.

worldscolide · Answer

The comments from men and women both are funny here.

If men love when women dress modest then why is there this assumption that women wearing revealing clothes is for mens attention?

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