Do guys get afraid of falling in love with a woman?

[Anonymous]

Some guys seems to run from love, why is that? When it’s day intense and passionate. If it’s maybe a bit complicated? Why do you see guys seem to end up with women who are easier/safer but maybe like but don’t love.

[Anonymous]

It can be a foreign and powerful experience for some. I have certainly felt some pain from developing strong feelings for one girl who crushed me. However, I don't think I would ever intentionally end up with a girl unless I felt similar feelings towards her.

[Alex-Snow]

I would not be but I'm just enjoying a friends with benefits at college and do not want a relationship yet... Just some fun sex

[Asker]

Fair enough

[Finchie40]

Not necessarily afraid , just a harder time trusting , especially nowadays with all the drama and gossip that goes around with relationships and marriages failing and statistics shows females’ are 70 percent the reason for divorce. Guys’ do not want their heart shit on by a girl that changes her mind , or ends up betraying him because she is selfish. And sadly females’ received a reputation of being selfish by thinking grass is greener on the other side. And yes guys’ can be selfish as well , so they assume what’s the point of giving their heart so a girl that is more than likely going to change her mind and no longer love and commit to him. The other thing is Females’ benefit more from a divorce than guys’ do , A guy can work his ass off , provide for his family , the best he can , doing every he can to keep his family safe and secure and then all of a sudden his wife or partner decides this isn’t the life she wanted , she starts to think she needs to be living like like her friends’ do and then decides her husband or boyfriend isn’t good enough for her anymore , so she starts resenting her husband or boyfriend like he is all a sudden a POS to her , one thing females’ tend to do more than guys’ do , is compare ,, Females’ compare way more than guys’ do , thinking she needs to be treated and catered to like a princess at all times and thinking of her husband or boyfriend n can’t give her that lifestyle , she automatically resents him and starts looking elsewhere. She no longer is his partner , she becomes his enemy , by criticizing him , belittling him , with. holding intimacy and affection from him when all he wants to do is be close to her , but she pushes him away because she isn’t receiving what her girlfriend is receiving. I am not saying every female does this but sadly a majority of them do. i know guys’ that worked their asses off , stayed loyal and faithful to her , bought her a nice home , nice car , gave her the babies she wanted , treated her like gold , did things for her constantly to show his love to her , and then she turns around and spreads her legs to some other guy that she feels she can benefit more from , I have witnessed females cheating on their husbands or leaving their husbands because he lost his job and no longer making the money he use to make , or she cheats because he works too much and feels neglected. Guys’ that cheat mainly cheat because she starts to neglect him , by making him feel unvalued , unwanted , by criticizing him, belittling him , comparing him. Most guys’ will not cheat on a girl that treats him like Gold that does t hesitate to be in his arms , Guys’ want to feel loved and appreciated, and if he isn’t feeling that with his partner anymore , he is either going to leave her or cheat on her with a girl that admired him and adores him for who he is. Females’ don’t realize the damage she is doing to a relationship by neglecting his wants and needs and making everything about herself , Sadly a lot of females’ are users , if he doesn’t match up to her expectations, she loses interest in him and become vulnerable to another guy that just wants to bend her over thinking he is going to save her because she can’t save herself

[serious]

Yes of course they are scared. The reasons can vary though. To love and to be in love also means to take risks. A man for whom protecting himself from getting hurt is more important then of course he will not take things forward. He will stay away from love.

Some other reasons can be, he knows that he can never be the man the woman would want so he will stay away from her or distance himself. If the man is very ethical like he does not want to do anything that would signify as either using the woman in any way or leading her on then this can be another reason as to why some men run away from love.

[OneViewpoint]

Men aren't afraid of falling in love. They are afraid of the risks of falling in love.

• There are about 625,000 divorces per year in the US.
• The divorce rate hovers around 50%. That's a 1in 2 chance of divorce.
• 70% of divorces are initiated by women. That's about 440,000 per year.
• Most of those women have a backup in place before they file for divorce. Which means she was cheating on her husband.
• It's usually men who end up paying alimony.
• Women almost always end up with custody of any children. That means men end up paying child support.
• If you marry a single mom, you're spending your lifetime earnings raising the kids of some baby daddy who isn't in the picture and can't be located for child support.

Think of it from a guy's perspective. Especially a guy who has already been burned and is living through it after a divorce. Many decide pussy isn't worth the price.

[sage2021]

Sometimes a man cannot help himself from falling in love.
I remember my late boyfriend when we were falling in love saying "It's like I am falling off a cliff and there aren't any rings to grab onto to stop it". So he continued to just fall.

[placid_storm]

100% It's caused because we have been burned before. We are afraid we will fall and fall straight on our face. We put on a good show and act tough but for the right person we will let our guard down. Just do your man a favor and be honest with them. Don't let them fall on their face if you manage to win them over. If they are hard to win over, know that you have someone who has been hurt and they are letting you in. Appreciate that, they will worship the ground you walk on if you let them.

[MannMitAntworten]

How would you define, “intense and passionate”? I mean if it is a positive I can’t imagine “running”. If a negative like a lot of passionate fighting, I would feel ending things would feel like a weight lifted.

[Asker]

Like nothing you’ve felt before you have a real intense connection, it’s not safe like you’re compatible with someone and they are nice, it’s more than that, but sometimes circumstances can prevent it from happening, wrong timing etc.

[MannMitAntworten]

Sounds more like a none match than too intense or bad timing. Just where my mind goes.

[rtj1211]

The more intense love is, the greater your need to be able to process strong negative emotions. If you can't do that, then love may actually become bad for your mental health.

Maybe the guys you refer to are instinctively aware of deficiencies in their emotional skill base, so subconsciously protect themselves from 'unhappiness in love'?

[exitseven]

When you allow yourself to fall in love with somebody , you are giving them the ability to rip your still beating heart out of your chest and stomping on it.

[Asker]

So that’s why men might get terrified?

[exitseven]

Yes, it's a scary thing

[Asker]

Fair enough

[ProbablyClueless]

Of course we can get scared. Usually it happens when we see that the woman is unreliable or can't be properly trusted.

[Anonymous]

Modern life is all about confirmation at purchase. Relationships force you out of the digital era. Relationships are timeless. They require effort and care. Most young people grew up with this instant satisfaction that tech gives you. Then realize being in a relationship does not fit that frame of mind.

[WhitneySnow]

They’re afraid of commitment and afraid of the intensity of their feelings

[Asker]

This! Yes I wonder about the intensity and if it scares him

[Anonymous]

The older we get we realize the juice just isn't really worth the squeeze. We're not afraid of love. We just become increasingly aware the older we get the less likely it exists. And at that point we just seek peace.

[Asker]

But what about if you do find it, but circumstances don’t allow or wrong timing, you’re with another person etc

[Opinion Owner]

1. If you're with another person? Why are you even looking elsewhere. That's toxic behavior (this response illustrates my previous point).
2. You find it but circumstances don't allow it? If she wanted to, she would. If she doesn't, that clearly shows her lack of interest.

[Asker]

Circumstances as in if you’re with another person, you don’t just leave them to be with another, but then you can’t help who you fall for.

[Opinion Owner]

You're making an excuse. You can't fall for someone that you're not entertaining.

[Opinion Owner]

This is b. s. woman logic that they use to justify toxic actions.

[Nikki1989]

Maybe immature, socially awkward ones do.

[Asker]

Yes this 🙌

[Redgreenwood]

Its an extremely unusual and unique thing and can be daunting for most men when it first happens

[Asker]

To fall in love? Yes I think you could be right

[lostghost]

No one is afraid to fall in love... It just happens.. but when it happens then guys are afraid... Whether they will get love or will it remain one sided love

[SotiCoto]

No.
Now I don't have to see this stupid anonymous question plastered all over the "Discover" page every single time I click on it.

[Emmytexrex]

Yh some people don't have the maturity to handle relationships you know they are scared to commit to a relationship and just want to play around

[Emmytexrex]

It's about maturity and knowing what you want and knowing how to handle relationships

[jahaims]

That would depend on the guy. We don't have universal personalities lol

[dragoblack]

With all of the common abuse, manipulation, betrayal, and toxic behavior, of course we are scared

[Celticwolf78]

Well I've been single for 46 years because I'm tired of some women playing head games and I don't like rejection

[Finlandman69]

We are often afraid that we'll just get our hearts broken

[beefcakebradybatson]

Getting my heart busted.

[MasterKS]

No, i dont believe in love.

[DishLady]

Yeah.

[Cheerfull009]

They may b important