How would it make you feel if a guy kept asking personal questions about your mother?

[Anonymous]

I went on one date with this guy last weekend. Yes he was nice at first but he started asking me a lot of personal questions about my relationship with my ex ( which I kinda understand I guess) and about my mother. Mom and I are close, we share a house and she has health problems so I take care of her. And on top of that I mentioned on the date that I was taking my mom to a free concert and fireworks show. He invites himself to go to the concert with us (which I said no to because I only went on one date with him, I didn’t know him well enough and I knew that would make my mom uncomfortable). The night after the date he’s asking me all of these questions about my ex: how long did you date for? Why did the relationship end? What did you find attractive about him? Etc, which I felt a little uncomfortable answering but I answered anyway. That ex hurt me and I figured maybe he just wants to be sure he doesn’t repeat what the ex did, so I answered. Then he’s asking me things like how old is your mom? I asked him why and he said “well your mom is an important person in your life and I can tell that you’re really close, so I want to know more about her” (again no big deal, but he could have asked me things like “what’s she like?”, “who’s her favorite actor?”, “what music does she like?” Etc) but instead he’s asking me personal information like her name, age and date of birth. And how she was enjoying the concert (which would have been fine without the other questions)

It was making me really uncomfortable. She heard him ask that and was also uneasy. I told him that it was a little bit weird he was asking me for that information. I told him it was a bit weird and he got defensive. What would you guys think?

Updates

10 mo

I’ve just never had any of my exes or anyone I’ve been on dates with ask me questions like that about my mother. I’m only asking because I usually have a tendency to look back and second guess myself after situations. Would you think this is weird too or was I overreacting?

[Finchie40]

That’s definitely weird AF and he sounds like he has some serious insecurity issues that he should go seek counseling for , If a girl questioned me like that on a first date , that would be the last time I saw her crazy ass. Sadly some people ask way to many questions like they are writing a book on you and it usually stems down from their own insecurities, someone you shouldn’t continue dating. I went on dates with girls’ like that before that assumed her and I were boyfriend and girlfriend from the first date and inviting themselves to tag along with me that I mentioned. Or wanting to meet my kids’ immediately, I would look at her like she is friggin insane I was still polite to her but I knew after that date I was t going to see her again because I wasn’t calling her. Some people are just desperate for a relationship and want to jump into one without really
Getting to know each other. They will ask a million questions thinking that’s all that needs to be done for us to be together , people can be weirdos

[Asker]

This is my thinking as well. I told him it’s not going to work because he’s asking too many personal questions too soon, especially about my mom and he was like “well people are gonna ask about your mom on dates because you’re mother and daughter and you live together (which we do because I take care of her). Meanwhile I’ve never had anyone ask me personal questions about her on dates. I answered “you’re right but that’s something you ask later down the road when things get more serious, not after only one date” and he just said that was a matter of opinion which sounded like he was annoyed that he got rejected and was trying to justify it

[avery58]

Why does he need to know her date of birth? Yeah that's kind of weird.

[slatyb]

That's weird AF. Sounds like it's one and done with him.