Guys, Is the following statement true about guy's sexual obsession with a girl?

[DishLady]

A guy told me the following. Lmk if you agree:

• A guy can get sex from whomever he wants whenever he wants. It's easy to find sex.
• If a guy is in front of YOU, he wants YOU. There ARE no friends, there are no exceptions.
• Once a guy has you "on his menu" it doesn't matter if he gets you NOW or three months from now or years from now. He will always want it and be nice to you till he gets it.

That seems insane to me, but the guy was very serious about it. Are all guys really thinking this?

[OlderAndWiser]

"A guy can get sex from whomever he wants whenever he wants." Does this guy think he is the king stud-muffin? No, every girl does not have sex with whoever propositions her. An acquaintance of mine from years ago (now deceased) once told me, "You've got to lower your standards if you want to lower your drawers," meaning that many girls will say "no" because they have standards. I will agree that if a guy wants sex and he knows how to look, he can probably find an agreeable girl. . . but not every girl is going to agree.

" It's easy to find sex." So why was he standing there, talking to you, instead of finding his next dance partner for the horizontal mambo?

"If a guy is in front of YOU, he wants YOU." That suggests that a guy wants to have sex with every girl he meets. Even when I had a more promiscuous approach to sex, I was not interested in every girl I met!

"Once a guy has you 'on his menu' it doesn't matter if he gets you NOW or three months from now or years from now. He will always want it and be nice to you till he gets it." This guy paints a picture of men as all being animals controlled by hormones and incapable of regulating their behavior. He may have been describing himself, but he wasn't describing all men.

[DishLady]

I think he was saying if he's spending so much on a gal (which wasn't so much bc I stuck to one drink and a pitcher of seltzer) that he could get "just sex" from a hooker or escort without thinking twice... and no need for caring or anything. I think he was saying he wanted ME (along with any gal he gives any length of time to), which is why he was standing there paying for the drink and shared appetizer.

Yeah "animal" was literally the first thing that came to now. I was glad to be on my way home...

[OlderAndWiser]

As soon as I started reading your account, I knew this guy had NO chance with you!

[HawkPerception]

Disagree on all counts.

1. A guy cannot get sex from whomever he wants whenever he wants and it is not easy to find sex unless you pay for it or you're in the top 1% of guys. Not sure where he got that from.

2. If a guy is in front of you, he MIGHT want you, but definitely not all the time. I'd argue that more than 80% of the time a guy is in front of a girl, he doesn't necessarily want her. Sounds to me like he wants to fuck the whole world and assumes all guys are the same.

3. This is also nonsense. If a girl denies me even once, I have some self respect and never pursue her again. If she's not attracted to me while I'm in my low state, she doesn't deserve me at my best. If a girl doesn't reciprocate interest, I'm immediately out. And I believe that's how it is for many guys.

The guy you're talking about seems pretty pathetic just based on what you've mentioned here.

[ryanrhino]

• A guy can get sex from whomever he wants whenever he wants. It's easy to find sex. ("Can" and will are two different things. Good luck with an attitude like that little boy. Intimacy is earned, not taken.)
• If a guy is in front of YOU, he wants YOU. There ARE no friends, there are no exceptions. (I had female friends before dating. Sorry, there are ALWAYS exceptions.)
• Once a guy has you "on his menu" it doesn't matter if he gets you NOW or three months from now or years from now. He will always want it and be nice to you till he gets it. (No, one's desires change and a man pursues what he truly wants, which may be altered at any time, especially to honor the woman he is pursuing.)

Sorry, this guy is a little full of himself...

[FunkyMonkee]

1. Absolutely NOT!!! I've been looking, trying and hoping for 30 years and had NO luck AT ALL until just over a year ago!! And even the 20 years before that got me next to nothing!! Most often, it wasn't what I wanted, it was what I ended up with!!
2. You mean, if you're in line in a grocery store and a guy is in front of you, he wants you?
3. He may be nice to you, always but, that doesn't mean he wants you or ever expects to get you but, he's just staying nice just in case you might notice and end up wanting him.

[spartan55]

First one is definitely false. Second one, mostly true, with rare exceptions. Last one, mostly true.

[DishLady]

So you’ve got a gal on your mind at some point you’re gonna have her on your mind till the end of time or till you hop into bed with her (#3)?

[spartan55]

Not me, but most guys.

[DishLady]

that seems odd to me.

[spartan55]

Which part?

[DishLady]

(The whole thing. I'll follow up on this later.)

[Twodogs0525]

Unless he's paying for hooker's, he ain't getting whenever he wants.

[DishLady]

Right, but I think his point is a hooker is a fixed price "on demand" action whereas a date is not a fixed price... and if you get the "order the lobster" gal you're stuck spending and presuming (but not really knowing) how the night will end.

[Twodogs0525]

Either way, I guarantee he hasn't gotten every woman he's "wanted" and it sounds like his defense of that is he would/could if he tried hard enough, you know, like twenty years from now.

[DishLady]

I don't know. I just backed away from him. I didn't like the whole predatory vibe.

[Twodogs0525]

I was actually gonna say that lol it sounds like he might have stalking tendencies and is delusional enough to think that's how you get women...

[exitseven]

this is not true at all. Mot guys I know are not into games.

[DishLady]

I don't know if he was saying this as a "game"... he was saying something that seems predatory.

[exitseven]

that woudl never happen with me.

[Daytoday79]

Where are you finding these guys? God, what a nightmare.

Not all guys think that way but there are certainly plenty who do.

[DishLady]

Guys here are super jaded. It's literally the reason I don't date the way folks think I should. Nothing is promising enough to listen to... this tripe was literally served up as truth to me yesterday. I get it... he was trying to get me to sleep with him on our first time out together, but I'm not that sort of gal, so he said all this stuff.

[Daytoday79]

I'm sorry, that stinks. 😞

[DishLady]

Meh. It just verifies that I'm not missing anything by not running around desperately dating.

[DishLady]

(It was a bit like trying to talk to a heat-seeking missile. 😂😂😂)

[Daytoday79]

Haha 😂😂😂

Unfortunately that's a very good description.

[ArrowheadSW]

The above 3 statements of some of the dumbest I've ever heard. Totally inaccurate. The 3rd one though, there might be guys out there who are that obsessed, but it does not represent the majority.

[Spencer10]

OK here is my view... this is mostly BS. Its a very simplistic view. Most guys do not think like this at all. This is predatory thinking. We have evolved past this.

[Mark987]

LMAO the first one is absolutely hilarious. It is by FAR easier for a woman to have sex than a man.

[DishLady]

How so? I've never seen that at all. Women who go around with guys however they please are immediately labeled... NEGATIVELY, no less. Whereas guys who sleep around are just called "players" and usually applauded.

[Mark987]

Not where I live, maybe 10-15 years ago it was like that. A woman can go out and meet any man, and majoirty of men will sleep that woman. Men I find have it harder to meet a woman and have sex.

[DishLady]

That sounds strange to me. Guys around here just have to call a number and an escort service or hooker or whatever is readily available. Women can't do that.

[Mark987]

That is different. You're paying for an escort.

[stratford]

He is insane and has a huge ego

[DishLady]

Yeah... noted.

[stratford]

However, I can imagine you have an effect on guys where you stay on their menu :)

[DishLady]

AAAhahaha. Good one. I don't know and I won't ask bc it sounds like it would dredge up some trouble.

[bowenw]

I don't believe any of those statements.

[DishLady]

Thank God. It sounded very... predatory. It made me uncomfortable.

[CubaPirate]

The hell no

[Anonymous]

All is false.