What does "we're good" mean?

[DishLady]

I'm either having a language barrier or the person I've been chatting with is gaslighting... In a nutshell, I know "I'm good" = "I don't need anything, thanks." But when I asked someone who had a tiff with me to meet up for coffee to change the energy (after he behaved very rudely), he answered, "No need. We're good." I've no idea what that means... Good how? Good to whom? It's odd... and rude. I'm not sure how to respond to this sort of thing.

[Orion84]

"We're good" is something two men will generally say to each other after a fight, or disagreement, to show there are no hard feelings.

Basically, everything's back to normal, and there's no lingering hostility between us. Whatever our previous friendship level was, prior to the fight, has been restored, as if the fight never happened.

Given the context, it seems like you're speaking to is saying the same thing. He's just invoking "guy language" to do so, which is dumb, because it clearly didn't convey the meaning he intended to.

He's essentially telling you that your tiff has been forgotten, and he isn't upset, or holding a grudge, any longer. He doesn't realize, or possibly doesn't care, that you'd like to talk about it. He considers the situation over.

[HawkPerception]

The fact that he responded like that means he's over whatever happened before. And the fact he said "No need. We're good." in that context means he simply doesn't want to put in the effort to meet up and sees it as unneeded drama, and quite frankly... I'd probably say the same in his boots. Guys don't generally want to meet up to "make ammends." It's either a chill time out or it's not.

[OlderAndWiser]

In this context, I think it means, "I understand that you are upset and want to talk so you can feel better, but I just don't want to make the effort. Your comfort isn't sufficiently important to me to motivate me to try any harder. So I'm just going to pretend that this isn't a big deal and hope that you'll leave me alone!"

[HawkPerception]

This was the perfect answer and my thoughts exactly

[whosnumber_1]

You respond to it exactly how you posed the question here.

What do you mean by that? Please explain - when you say we're good it feels like you are gaslighting me and it's a rude, dismissive thing to say.

That's how you respond

[worldscolide]

It really depends. Most of the time when i use that, its meant to tell the person "Okay we just fought/argued, but you're still my friend so its water under the bridge"

[Greatful]

Hard to tell im a pisitive person so we goid is we goid yet it can mea n novthanks , not interested as well sorry

[Cidknee]

Apparently wants to guilt you or get the last jab in.

[spartan55]

It means he is done talking about it.

[Godihateyou]

It means he is blowing you off. You are not good