Why are black girls the least desirable? (Page 3)

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Why is it that black girls are the most undesirable? (For non-black guys)I'm seeing a lot of negative things being said about black women in the media (mainly online). I even saw a forum thread dedicated to how black girls are the ugliest. Sure there are racist people that will say that other races are ugly, but black girls get the most heat. I've seen a lot of black girls ask similar questions, and people just think we're imagining things. I mean, look at the marriage rates. Black women are the least married race. I've heard people say that even black guys don't want black women.

This issue is causing my already low-self esteem to plummet to uncharted territories, even though I think I'm pretty compared to most black girls but not so pretty according to regular beauty standards (if that makes sense). My school is mostly white, but the few black girls that go there don't have boyfriends, and to me they are pretty and seem intelligent. Boys aren't everything and at our young age it's better to be more concerned with our academic and career goals, but I feel so discouraged when it comes to dating (keep in mind that I live in a predominately white area).  

In conclusion, I would like to know what it is about black girls that's so unattractive? (BE HONEST, answer anonymously if you must, and don't feed me any crap about "preferences" because in most cases I find that there is underlying racism behind this so-called racial preferences).

Anonymous · Answer

I'm a Caucasian male and I absolutely love my dark skinned black sistas... I have dated and been with many different beautiful African sistas that I loved and worshipped throughout my life. Black/African women by far are the most attractive and beautiful women walking this earth in my opinion. This is nothing new to me as I've felt this way for the better part of more than 20 years and I have a stronger preference for black women now than ever. To be clear, I like all types but I prefer black women above all. I cannot sit and speak for the white male population as I'm not the ambassador for all white dudes (I really don't like using white/black terms because we are all people). However, for this discussion and purpose I will use the categorical criteria in order to explain my perspective. My preference for black women has a lot to do with my openness and appreciation for different culture/people. I think Black/African women are far more exotic than say your typical European standard of women or any other that is dictated by the media and Hollywood. Black women have beautiful skin, especially dark skin and a black women's skin looks better. I love the facial characteristics of a black women like Haitian, Caribbean, Dominica Republic, Kenyan, Ghanaian, South African and West African women. Black women have the most full, supple and soft lips ever. I love black women's lips... The worship of black women continues with the full appreciation of their bodies as well. Black women definitely have a curvier, more voluptuous body with great hips, thighs and above all ASS. My God, I love a nice round, luscious dark thick black donkey ass - Best Ever... Nothing better than putting your face in between two large soft chocolate cheeks that just in gulf your face... The Hair: I personally like black women' hair. So many styles and it looks good. My last girl, who I thought was going to be my wife wore her hair natural and put her hair in twists. She would o

Anonymous · Answer

I honestly want to know where most of these guys are finding black women like this. I read some of the answers from the male section, and it makes very little sense because it seems that they are describing black women from the ghetto. Did they forget about the black women that actually go to university, and college, and do something with their lives. I understand that there are a lot of ghetto black women, but honestly what about the ones who actually do something and make a difference. And I don't understand why people can not keep their rude, negative opinions to themselves, there are ways around saying something rude that can be phrased in a way that it is not offensive. People seem to forget that everyone has feelings, and nobody likes to get them hurt. This is why it's so hard to move forward, and get past things. Why make someone else feel bad about themselves, you don't need to do it. And I'm pretty sure most people wouldn't want someone else to pick away at their own insecurities. Why do it, we all live on one earth and you're going to see people of different races, creeds, and ethnicities, so get over yourself and put yourself in someone else's shoes and think, would I like if someone bullied me or picked at my insecurities. And I am a black female from Canada who's going to university next year, and personally I like white guys, that's just who I am. But I would never bash black guys.

classifemme · Answer

I would be inclined to think that black women are the least desirable if I hadn't run a little "experiment" just the other day to see for myself what kinds of results I'd get if I specifically put it out there that I (a black woman), was single in search of a white man. I've posted ads on craigslist before saying something like "cute college SBF seeks nice guy" or something like that, and I'd get quite a few responses but ALL were from black guys. I kid you not, I posted the same ad with the same pictures and said "cute SBF seeks SWM" and within two hours I had 91 responses from ALL white guys. It was so bad that I had to take the ad down. I had some really nice dates too :) I think the guys here who say it may seem that way because they think black girls don't like them, or that black girls only want to date black guys may be on to something...

I also think beyond that it has a lot to do with media and population. There is a far larger pool of white people period than blacks, meaning there are more communities full of white people who have no knowledge of black people outside of the media, which glorifies negative stereotypes of black women AND leads to the assumption that black women only date black men. Sure, they may find themselves attracted to black women every blue moon, but if they work under the assumption that black girls don't like them, and there are 12,394,382,384 white girls running around to choose from... why bother?

ChateraMonae · Answer

the comments that you made are true,but I and all my friends, whom are white also(keep in mind I live in a predominately white neighborhood) and we all agree that black girls aren't supposed to be skinny and that the ones who are(no offense) are not that 'fabulous' if you will! we were made to have cellulite and  be thick in the thighs and body frame, just like Latino's and every other ethnic race. I feel our hair is what allows us to stand out! look at every race, there hair is long silky and "untame-able". I have friends that go crazy when I walk in the class with a new hair do that they could only dream of having, even if its just me jumping out the shower and putting conditioner in it to crimp it! they are 100% infatuated with black people and the majority of my girl friends confessed to wishing they were black, for the big butt, hair texture, SKIN-TONE, and our shape! every race envy's us (in there opinion). and like the majority of black women I find myself questioning why, men are "less attractive" to us as other's. I have guy friends whom love flirting with me, but wouldn't find themselves dating me, and like you I find myself pondering why, but I came up with the theory that we are so independent and self motivated to where we don't need a man to define us and as a result we show it!(not saying every other race does) and as a result men don't like that, they need someone to tell them they are the center of our world( from what I've observed from my fellow students) and I don't really stress over it to much (lease I don't try) I see it as no ones worthy of us yet, and they will all realize sooner or later! don't let it get you down too much IT GETS BETTER!

missispo · Answer

here's my advice:

1. be girly, sounds stupid but I mean don’t be loud, its quiet intimidating. Honestly, the key is to listen and respond. All it takes is a great conversation and people are usually hooked. Talk calmly and gently

2. relax, I mean don’t look like your in a rush, pull back your shoulders, ALWAYS look happy, the key is ‘confidence doesn’t come from sexiness’ unlike botox, confidence can't be bought and something of worth doesn’t have a price cause it’s never sold. Be open minded and don’t be defensive because it subconsciously produces this barrier between you and the person.

3. guys like to feel wanted, it sounds so cliché but if you take anything from this article this is it; majority of guys like to protect there girls, DON’T TAKE THAT AWAY- I really can't stress this enough-so tell them your fears, what ever they might be-be there damsel!

4. tease, this is the crunch factor. Teasing is an art-the key to this form of art is that the guy is kept guessing, like a seesaw trying to balance itself-its sometimes close to the ground but doesn’t hit it and sometimes it’s close to the sky but it doesn’t go all the way up.

5. make them laugh!

6. be seen with the right people, it sounds harsh but at times being seen all the time with a group of black women can be intimidating?

7. never wear lipgloss, by nature we have big full lips putting lipgloss on them makes them look even bigger and its not attractive, I put foundation on my lips, to give them an even colour and put on a bit of gloss, it shouldn’t look ‘greasy’

8. never wear fur, make sure what ever you wear either compliments your shape, your boobs or your legs and the colour compliments your skintone

9. I personally don’t wear braids cause it can whip people unintentionally! So I wear a weave but it has to look natural-really natural, like its your own hair.

Good luck

xx

dropping_k · Answer

I ride the DC metro every day. I'm Hispanic and I can tell you that not all black women are ugly, but many of them are. When I see black women on the train, I will say that I find about less than 15% of them attractive, the rest are not. Compared to white, Indian, Arab and Latina women on the train, I find about 50% of them attractive. I find about 70% of Asian women to be attractive.
The thing about black women is really their attitude that personally turns me off. Sometimes I see a black woman who appears to be somewhat attractive, but the way she carries herself turns me off. I know I'm generalizing here because this does not apply to all black women, but based on my observation that I see every day in and around DC... a large proportion of them seem to have some sort of negative attitude.
The next thing I can say what contributes to black woman being less desirable is a culture divide. A black woman from Dominican Republic, Columbia, or Puerto Rico looks more attractive to me than an American black woman. This has to do a lot with how Afro-Latino woman dress and act differently than American black woman. This leads back to my first observation... attitude. Not all black woman have a negative or LOUD attitude, but again a large proportion of them based on my observation do. The way they talks also leads to judgment. If a black woman talks to me like English is her second language and uses broken English... that's a big turn off.
American woman in general (black and white) tend to be heavier than foreign woman. But when I compare black to whites... black women seem to be the heaviest. This is a far contrast compared to black men in the DC area who seem to be very fit.
I know I am generalizing, but to me... a lot has to do with culture and attitude. I knew this one black girl who grew up in one of the toughest parts of DC, but she was very educated and well mannered... I found myself very attracted to her.

YaMez · Answer

I'm 6'4" 268lbs. I make $40k+ a year. I am a white guy born in Mississippi and raised in Louisiana. Race issues here are immense. My very first girlfriend was black. I've dated white, asian and italian girls as well. My wife is black. She is incredibly intelligent, very successful,  stunningly beautiful and loves with a passionate heat  that could rival a super nova. She is more important to me than I could ever get her to understand. The media, in this case especially, is usually full of sh*t. Don't buy into it. You deserve to treat yourself better. Be proud of who you are. Not because you are black, though do be proud of your heritage, but because you are woman.

samheartnellie · Answer

I don't know much about african-american matters, I live in a country where we don't have a lot of black people unless they're adopted. I've been to the States a few times and my impression of black women there is that they've been kind of rude to me for no reason, and that's the general "black-girl"-experience my friends have had when visiting the states as well.
I only know 2 black girls here where I live and they are nothing like that, super sweet, kind, smart, creative and sooo sooo beautiful, like UNREAL beautiful. So I'm not saying all black girls are rude, but maybe that's the general idea people have about african-american girls (?).
I really don't mean to offend anyone, I'm just sharing my experience with african-american girls and note that I haven't met too many of them.
Black girls are just as beautiful as any other woman and you need to own that, not let anyone else tell you different and if they do, you need to not listen to them because they are bad people. And don't measure your beauty in other peoples eyes, you are beautiful, the end.

Kiencomoyopa · Answer

I'm a Latino man and in my opinion the reason why a lot of guys tend to go more for other races its because of the cultural perseption of the black women.

No offence but I'm just trying to be honest over here. black girls are very beautiful but the media make us stereotype and see black girls as if they come with an adtittude, are more likely to be hood and less educated.

With that being said, its obvious that can be unattractive for a guy cuz we Dont want a woman that is gonna be more dominat than us, in the other hand a lot of girls like the tough guys with the hood back ground so that culture perception actually make the black guys look better plus we all know the steriotype about black guys. They got a big... Lmao

Ok last thing I gonna add is that I think the short black girls with the tight bodies look super cute but i tend to go for white or latina girls cuz here in boston most black girls r stuck up and a lot of them r too hood for me lol and sorry about the spelling errors I wrote this real quick...

Driver3 · Answer

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Lulu401 · Answer

First off I'd like to say that I am black women, from East Africa (cushite) and I find myself wondering is it is preference or race, and I'll be honest I'm still undecided. But what I have found absolutely galling is the stereotypes attached to black women. And scrolling down this thread has just seemed to make me more angrier and more frustrated.

I live in England and I've decided to share some of the stereotypes attached to other races of women.

White women :

1- like their drink, more so then taking care of their children or homes.

2- extremely easy...

3- they all want to be BLACK! With their tanned skins, plumped lips and fake breast.

Asian women:

1- submissive

2- A- sexual beings. ( found sexy in a fetish way)

3- Boring.

Now do I find any of these stereotypes to be true, NO. Could their be a white/Asian women who meets these stereotypes yes. But they would be few and far between. I can accept people saying they don't like black features or hair. But I refuse to accept your lack of attraction on stereotypes, now that I find racist.

Tellleo · Answer

Hello Dear!

Color of skin is just melatonin accumulated due to external conditions. we are all just humans on planet earth. Our genetical make up is identical and so it is our source.

Furthermore no race is pure. According to geneticists Greenlanders are the purest in the planet, and they have had many mixes as well.

We are all racially mixed humans with a small minority of other components. Having said this beauty is in the eyes of the beholder and granted we need to avoid the manipulated media that distorts that beauty, photoshops it and makes everyone that allows it feel that it is never enough and improper or unattractive, too fat, too old, to short, too white, too dark, etc etc.

If you agree/feel the same way, then do not support it, read it watch it.

Be yourself, I am sure you are beautiful and there are many out there that will consider that too. Love and be yourself the rest will happen organically. Maybe you just live in the wrong area, consider moving out of there. Blessings, love and light fellow human. I love the divinity in you. Cheers, Leo

fredhead · Answer

I can tell ya a few things that might shed some light on the subject . I'm pretty sure that black women out number their men , which is a very important difference as compared to the white experience ! Being that for a black dude ...women are easier to find , many blacks live in the city , they grow up with only a mother ( often ) so they are more comfortable talking to girls a lot of the time , they seem to share the same jobs as women , more often than than white guys do . Also ...I guess , ( as many times growing up with only a mother ) can cause them to take women for granted , not respect them , and maybe they just have it too damn good ( as far as women are concerned ) spoiled rotten ! just my observations , and opinion

Now if you're talking about white guys . I ( for one ) don't believe in race mixing ; Bad money ! Too much bad blood between black and white for that ! ( ya can thank the liberals and their freakin' shameless meddling for a lot of it ! ) But if ya are feeling " on the outs " with the whites guys ...Its because people are SUPPOSED to like their OWN better ! I know you are only young , and TV and the media try to make life out to be a certain way , ( but its not real life ,even though many people buy into it ! ) I'll stop there ( being that you are young ) I'm guessin' you're hatin' me already ...lol that's alright Just make sure that YOU like YOU , and everything will be OK in the end !

Anonymous · Answer

I'm Colombian, I'm 31 years old, and from my personal experience I prefer to be only with Colombian women, no cultural clashes, no conflicting views etc.  my problem is not with black females per se.  My problem is with the great majority of American Black females.  I had this professor from Jamaica in her late 40's and let me tell you, I was not the only guy in the lecture who wanted to to jump her bones.  Asides from being incredibly beautiful and sexy, she had the darkest skin I'd ever seen.  But it was the way she handled herself in the world.  The way she spoke, very softly and very proper.  She definitely gave all black and white girls a run for her money, andI remember clearly, she was married to a Scottish guy.  I think what you need to do is travel, as it was suggested earlier, inmerse yourself into other cultures, become a sponge of knowledge, and crave knowledge and learning new things as if it was the most potent of drugs.  My problem is really the Americanization of cultures.  The rest of theo world wants so much to be like this country and I don't really see why.  To me the biggest killer is the way many black girls speak.  If I hear just once the word "axe a question" out of your mouth, forget it, that will be enough for me to not want anything to do with you.  That to me is a big sign of lazyness and poor education.  Also, I understand there is pride in being curvy, and I commend girls for it, but a totally different thing is to have your gut stick out, wear high cut blouses, and call that sexy...  You kind of have an idea of what is it that I find unatractive.  Oh and before you call me a racist, married a black woman from the northen coast of Guajira in Colombia and we have twins.  Two little walking nuclear bombs.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think that what you're saying is true. According to the academic research I've read, women of all races have a much stronger preference to date men of the same race than the men do. In other words, it appears women care more about race than men. That's an empirical observation based on online dating preferences.

If that's indeed the case, then black women (in America at least) will suffer from a supply problem. That's because a disproportionately high percentage of young black men are in prison (compared to the population as a whole). That means there will be a "shortage" of black men and if black women as a group indeed prefer to be with black men, there will be a lot of unmarried black women (which you observe). When you say "even black guys don't want to date black women" I doubt that's the case. More likely is that they care less about the race of their partner than the women do (as appears to be the case for men as a group compared to women).

I know I'm coming into this question VERY late, but would love to hear others' thoughts.

kahlie · Answer

My take on this question is that as a African American female living in a predominately white country, you learn quickly that it isn't your looks that matter to people instead it is the reaction you give to them when they comment on them. Only you have the power to determine whether or not you're attractive and if you don't think you're pretty then people who have nothing better to do will naturally pick up on that and pounce on it because trust me it shows. So instead of asking this question, take it from someone who knows first hand how it feels to be pointed out on an almost daily basis and look at it from a different perspective. As a black woman, you are armed with a beautiful complexion that doesn't even begin to compare to the stunning spirit that is within you and someday a man will come along that sees you for the beautiful black goddess you are as long as you have faith. Keep your head up girl because as a black female there are plenty of people more than willing to bring you down than to bring you up. Hope this helps.

kadijajay · Answer

As a Black girls myself, I fully understand where you're coming from. When I was in middle and high school I struggled with this question as well. Now a junior in college, I've come to the conclusion that it doesn't really matter. There are so many answers to this question, that it's hard to try and have a right answer. One answer may just be preference. For example, I don't really find Asian males attractive, but that doesn't make me racist, I just don't have a preference for them. There is the race issue, but let me just say, if a guy (or anyone for that matter) doesn't like you because of the color of your skin, then they're obviously not worth your time. Another answer is the media. Now I know us Black people like to use the whole, "Blame the white man" card, but sometimes it's true. So many times on TV shows, movies, books, etc., us black females are portrayed as the "sassy black friend" or the "urban friend". While those traits aren't necessarily a bad thing, they are over exaggerated. So then, some guys ( white guys in particular) think that that is how all black girls are. Honestly, I know I could go on and on, but a lot the comments here are correct. As long as you love yourself and you have respect for yourself everything will fall into place. Don't worry they are a lot of childish guys out there, but one day someone will look past your skin and see you as the awesome and intelligent person that you are! Stay true to yourself and stay BE-U-tiful!

Kittycat143 · Answer

The reason why people think that black women are considered the least attractive of the races of women but I believe that the reason that statement is conceived is because of the fact black people were considered beautiful to our society before white people took us from our home and we were bought to the white community where their term of beauty in their eyes was their own kind because we were taken away from our home to become slaves where we were treated as animals and that became our mind set that we were animals as slavery became illegal and we move past segregation but the reason now we are still considered unattractive is the world is pro dominantly white and white is considered beautiful and the reason Hispanic, Asian and so on are considered beautiful is because black people have features the farthest from white people like our naturally kinky hair our wider noses and of course darker skin the white community have the complete opposite of our features and Hispanic Asian etcetera have features closer to white people also stereo typical comments directed to the black community is oh black people are so "ghetto" or comments mostly directed to black women that we have fake hair we are loud illiterate and the main reason ugly. First I want to comment on these most popular comments directed to the black community. The comment we are depicted as "ghetto" the definition of the word ghetto is urban, poor, and jury-rigged. Those are three different definitions for ghetto
and the way people use it as an insult is erroneous the way I figured on what they base that insult off of is because sadly some portion of the black community is loud and obnoxious but so are some people in the white community and Hispanic every race or culture has obnoxious or loud people in there community but for some reason because of a few people in our community act loud or obnoxious like that other races think it's ok to stereo type our whole race as well ghetto. Another comment

demedoll · Answer

Just would like to chime in.

I don't think white men find black women less attractive. That is sweeping generalization!

I've found, throughout my years, If you live in a progressive city or mixed community in general you will see interracial (black/white) couples and families.

I've lived in many places in the US. I've dated many white men (I am a black female) and have drawn this conclusion. I've seen, with my own eyes, white men with black women. Married, with multi raced children. Half our sons elementary school class are multi racial.

My partner/best friend/fiance is a white man, very attractive, owns his own business and is very alpha/confident. He is not the dredge of society or a white man trying to act black.

His preferences are black women or Latina women.

He has dated white women in the past but, according to him, he's always been drawn to non white women.

He further says that if you put a hot white woman in the same room with an average black girl he is automatically turned on (if you will) to the black woman. I am the same way.

I say that it is akin to being gay. You like what you like. You are what you are.

It's preference my dears.

For anyone despairing over "Are black women unattractive" who cares. All that matters is what YOU find attractive because, at the end of the day, YOU are the one coming home to THEM. Not the world and their perception.

So in conclusion. There ARE white men, Asian men, non Hispanic men and everything in between who find black women attractive. There are more than you know. The world and peoples views are progressing and barriers are coming down. This is not the 1950's anymore. That breed/mentality is dying.

- In a relationship with my soul mate for 7 years

unbreakable73 · Answer

there is not a difference in physical features of any race and as far as hair every race of people have "good and bad hair". I've seen white people with tight curly dry unattractive hair and when white people's hair is wet it has a bad order to it and one some straight hair looks stringy and unhealthy. there are white people with wide noses and big lips and beady eyes, tiny beady eyes are not attractive regardless of color. Most white women do not look like Nicole Kidman or Scarlette Johanson. I don't think most people are superstar beautiful besides beauty comes from within. If someone is not attracted to your personality you do not want that person anyway. Stay focused on your studies to prepare you for a promising successful future. Have faith you'll one day meet a wonderful man to share your life with and you'll have a loving family. Just be happy and have fun. Falling in love young and ruin your life.

btw I do not have any chemicals on my hair and my hair is to the middle of my back and I think I have great facial features and I know many other black women just as beautiful if not more beautiful

ilovetowrite · Answer

My dear, I simply have one recommendation for you. "You need not think of receiving love from another, when you are lacking in the ability to love yourself and realize the how beautiful you are." Then and only then will you feel appreciated and loved as a black woman or whatever ethnic group owns you. Another piece of information you'll find useful is that an educated, smart, sophisticated black woman is desirable. Persons that stereotype personalities, based on race lack knowledge, because all races have women and men that are intolerable. Likewise, you'll find tolerable characters amongst the intolerable ones in every race, as well. The comments you get here are merely for encouragement and nothing comes of it, if you remain insecure about your character. We're all beautiful in our own ways, plus we're all imperfect. Make other things in life become your burden, like where do you see yourself in 10 years.

I'm unable to share personal experiences with you, being that I've never experienced such a predicament. When discussing racial preference, some persons that are discontent with life on a whole and their life experiences, feel it necessary to share their folly vices. Ignorance is a comfort to fools.

hofgdfghfdujgfyfghfg · Answer

Me too! I feel you girl they portray black women as violent, ghetto and undesirable and they portray white women (no hate guys) as beautiful, sophisticated and classy and if a black women acts like that they say " oh! she is so acting white" so black people aren't classy, they aren't beautiful? excuse me we do not have many baby daddys or we do not live in some crime-ridden ghetto place were we smoke all day long. NO! I am sick and f***ing tired of these stereotypes is 2012 people understand and appreciate everyone. I like white boys but in the back of mind I think they prefer white girls or mixed-raced.

I can't change who I am and if I can I will never in a MILLION YEARS. God made me the way I AM and the media can go f*** itself. Because lately the media is like acting as Hitler trying to create a white world with blond and blue eyes. Peh-lease this ain't Sweden.

:D You are beatiful. Black women are beautiful. Don't stop the growth of your self-esteem let it blossom darling.

Anonymous wise 14 year old bitch ladies and ladies. :D xxxx

qsgnbivb · Answer

1. It's scientifically proven that men find women more attractive when in red. Women who are darker, I'm indian so I have brown skin, have less red in their face. Their lips aren't as pink and their faces don't flush as noticeably. Pretty women of all cultures usually have lipstick and blush on to take advantage of the attractiveness pinks and reds provide.

2. Faces that are both symmetrical and in proportion are perceived as more beautiful. This is for both genders, not just women. For features that are larger, this is a case by case basis and does not apply to black women as a whole, but the generalized (not necessarily my) view of black American women is that they do have a larger nose and lips. Larger features simply have more area in which they can be asymmetrical. Also, regardless of color, proportion matters. You could have a really tiny nose and be considered ugly because it does not coordinate well with the other features of the face. An over-sized nose or mouth that is not proportional to the rest of the face will also cause a person to be perceived as ugly.

3. On a personal level, I don't like all of the types of natural black American hair. However, I don't really like curly hair in general. Some of the types appear dry and lack luster. They look like they would feel scratchy if I were to touch them. This type of hair is just not appealing to me.

When all is said and done though, I don't think it is race that makes a woman more or less desirable or dateable. I think it is a combination of looks and personality as well as how a woman carries herself. As for your self esteem, that should not be based on your looks but on your mind and your character. Those things will determine who you are, and that is what you should be proud of, not beauty which is determined by genetic chance.

sashamay · Answer

most of the time it is a preference but I do get what you mean. I am a black girl and I have often been told I am "pretty for a black girl"... now although when people say this I don't think their intent is to cause upset or insult. However, I do wonder how anyone could expect me to take that as a complement. I don't think black girls are less pretty I think we don't match up to the western ideal of beauty which I must say is white blond blue eyes... I'm not saying that's what everyone likes.

There is a significant difference in making a statement about the aesthetic value of a race as a whole and saying you have a prefference towards white girls black girl asian girls whatever.

and finally, you said "I think I'm pretty compared to most black girls" and I think that it is statements such as the one you made which are part of the wider problem. you obviously think that most black girls are not pretty or you wouldn't have suggested you were pretty compared to most of them... be part of the answer and not the problem my dear, you should look in the mirrow and question your own prejudices, do you think black people are less attractive, or do you think white people are more attractive.

Maybe it' because you have grown up in a majority white society and you see all the boys going for the white girls and not the black ones...that doesn't mean there ugly its just not what the boy you are around want, maybe they don't but don't know it..maybe they don't...point is it not about race its a bout preference and prejudice and stupid comments that people make without thinking.

and on the point about marriage...thats a whole different issue

kristen27745 · Answer

ya know, your a bit closed minded. and you might want to get off your high horse.i don't know if you live in a small ass town with no attractive other races than your oh so popular white skinny blonds but you need to go out and see the world. every and I mean every women is different. and some have physical appearances that make them very sexy to one man or the other. and if you are going off of skin color, facial features,and being fat your insane. yes black people are dark but they come in beautiful shades. and as for big lips.MANY MENY men love their lips and that they have an ass.now I do believe the stereotypical blond is hot but there is just something about a small smooth black women with thos pouty lips,tight ass,and perky breasts that is just so right.same goes for Asians. Now,they have the creamiest white perfect skin and with the contrast with their black hair. I have been all over the world and when it comes to any women there is always something attractive about them. sometimes it might be really hard to find, but its there. now this part was to objectivetruth.

but honey, I understand what you are going through, I am a black and white American. and I really only look tan but sense I live in the outback of the bible belt region I have to deal with racist all the time sense I was little. but as I grew up many changed there mind some didnt, but thos who did even grew atracted to me. don't let anyone put you down or you put your self down cas there are people like you and many who will like you =] growing up sucks but soon little things like this won't even matter to you.

pinkmac88 · Answer

I've wondered about this a lot myself lately. My boyfriend has recently started going to strip clubs, which I am coming to terms with. When I asked him if he thought the girls at the last stripclub he went to were hot, he said "Well, it was a black strip club." (A black friend of ours took him there.) I wondered to myself, "What does that have to do with anything...? Why do men consider black women's attractiveness differently?"

I think part of the problem is the beauty image that we're exposed to. Western society for the longest time has held women up to a certain ideal: light hair, light eyes, light skin, delicate and symmetrical features, youthful looking. We've only very recently accepted diversity as being tolerable, let alone a good thing. Though things are beginning to change, our generation is still feeling the effects of all the generations before ours. I think that it will take a while before our concept of what is "beautiful" or attractive changes. Fortunately you do see more diversity in the media now, which effects our opinions on what is beautiful.

I really feel for what you're going through right now. As a white woman who has swung back and forth between what is considered ideal looking and what is not so much (makeup, diet and hairstyle can do wonders) I know it feels sh*tty to not be considered attractive by men. By keep in mind, all women are somewhat repressed by the need to conform to beauty ideals. Check out The Beauty Myth by Naomi Klein and Survival of the Prettiest by Nancy Etcoff if you want some more insight on this topic, it's really kind of interesting.

Have faith in yourself, confidence is the most attractive thing a woman can possess about herself. It's really true! Good luck!

JamesRM · Answer

The way you and the rest on here are going on, you'd think only white people are racist and that its not on either side. I'm white from England, and your so wrong about the " preferences ". My preference is and has always been black female's, from when I can remember I've been more then attracted to black femles, dark, light beautiful. We all have preferences, a look that sends us crazy, just what your attracted too and were all attracted to one race or another ( I don't like putting it that way ) one look or another. I'd say if more black girls opened up to White men, you'd see more relationship's with Black women/ White men. Black females your BEAUTIFUL and yes I'm a WHITE man! CRAZY SEXY!

Hunterboyz · Answer

I know I'm not who you are asking this question to, but I may know...

I think its something to do with the image black women portrait.

I love y'all very much, and I know the other females in other races aren't perfect, but some of the things we put up with is just uncalled for.

As far as y'all being unattractive to the males of other races...

Thats tough, because to me other females are always trying to obtain the features that come natural to you.

So I really think you have the wrong idea.

Yeah you'll find some people with foolish opinions, but don't let it make you think most of them don't want you, because you are very desired!

Don't let it offend you that chose to miss out on such a female of high quality.

Good Luck in your research of trying to find out why...

Sincerely,

A Loving Black Man

Anonymous · Answer

Not trying to be racist or anything. Just want to try to honestly answer your question from the white mans point of view. I don't think you are right about black women being the least desirable. I know a bunch of white guys who have fetishes for black women and actually prefer to date black women over white women. I think the black/ white cultures are different and there exists a stigma between them. If you are not comfortable living in a predominately white area I would recommend moving when you are able to. Also white guys may be afraid of dating black women because odds are you have previously dated a black man, And we all know what black guys are notorious for, their third leg. Whitey averages a smaller package and may be afraid that you won't be impressed. Lol. In all though we live in a technologically advanced society. We need to look at each other as being human and from earth. Interplanetary space travel will leave our species vulnerable if we are not united as Homo sapiens. Granted this a little ways in the future but we can't be divided as species if we are to thrive

Anonymous · Answer

If you think black women are victims, then it's no wonder you're single. Nobody wants someone with a "poor me" mentality. It's easy to blame your race. It's something you can't change, therefore it's beyond your control... so then it's just poor you then. "Sucks to be a black woman." Do you hear yourself?

Every time you blame your race, you are affirming the beliefs that further chew away at your self-esteem. I understand you were hurt by guys in your area, but whether you realize it or not you've adopted a very pessimistic view about how others percieve you. What does it matter who thinks what? You are not a mind-reader either, you know. Just let go of it.

You will find someone, but you have to be patient. There's no point in getting frustrated, or concerning yourself with trivial questions related to "Who's most attractive". I suspect you hope guys will express their views on how black women are the epitome of beautiful, so that you yourself will feel beautiful. But you don't need to look outside yourself to know that.

I hope you dissolve your victim complex, as it is the only thing holding you down. You need to roll with life, and accept the good with the bad- it's never exclusive. I meant to sound harsh because this question is self-destructive and sympathy on a matter like this is poison. There are great things in store for you. I mean, the universe is working for you, just be patient. And look on with a smile. You'll invite a happy future.

noniebryant · Answer

I am a brazilian guy and I find black women very very good looking in every way I mean their bodies their high cheek bones their full lips and their curvy as hell I would much rather date them then some nasty skinny flat assed white girl I mean white girls are plane .. I love black women but don't get me wrong their are many bad looking black women but most are good looking..and their are many good looking white women but most of them are weird looking they all look the same I can't tell the difference between them ..i like some italian girls..they have bigger butts and better bodies then plane white girls ... any guy that doesent like black women because they say they are ugly its they can't get one they are very hard to get not so easy like white women ..but I'm sure black women won't care if white men like them or not .. most black women don't like white men

anyways

Anonymous · Answer

Okay, I have been "with" many many black girls, and I find them to be really beautiful and fun to be with as long as everything is going well.

Then when something goes wrong, or they don't get what they want, or they feel somehow disrespected, they go crazy. Now I don't mean crazy like yelling and telling you off and walking away, no they want to try to Pysically hurt you, and they sometimes turn into unhinged rage monsters.

If you want respect, you must give respect, Right ?

I've been with the most beautiful girls and it's all good until somekind of competition comes along...another pretty girl...next thing you know she wants to kick off her 6" heels and brawl !

I can deal with loud and dopey ... saying the wrong things... yes , but these girls need to realize that no matter what happens you still need to act like a lady. That is going to send the loudest alarm as to what kind of person you are. Noone wants a Psycho time-bomb. As far as fat... I like a full-figure...but not a cow, that's a turn off. So sorry if you haven't found someone, Everyone deserves to be happy. As long as you act like yourself you'll be fine. Good luck to you.

Ciao...Anthony

Anonymous · Answer

Dear Beautiful Girl,

I say that knowing in my mature years that beauty comes from somewhere inside of us all. Your words describing such tender thoughts are compelling. As a black man, I used to think when I was a very young man aged 17, why black men were treated so inferior. I'd look on the television and see a sports figure like Jim Brown, or Muhammed Ali, and I'd say to myself wow, there the strongest, and the fastest and still that doubt somewhere along the way would creep back. When I joined the Marines (the best),I never saw any drill instructor make any mistakes in 90 days, black, white, or Hispanic. And you know what, it sure seemed like the black drill instructors had just a little more swagger. I studied Black History and found countless intellectual giants who were Black men.

In those days really not long ago, The '60's-'70's, we had a certain level of pride within our communities. It would be scandalous for teenage pregnancy, dropping out of school, or the disgraceful acts that have become so normal today. Part of the beauty of any creature is it's mystique.I'll never forget when Vanessa Williams won Miss Black America. We (me and my girlfriend) were watching very closely, the talent events 'she was the best', the swimsuit event,'she was the best',the interview 'she was the best', and class, man 'she was the best'. But you know, after every event in that contest, even though we both knew 'she was the best',that doubt would creep back and a quiet voice in my mind would say, ' she ain't gone win'.

Well she did, and man we were jumping up and down like crazy. Shortly after the contests a scandal broke, and Ms. Williams was stripped of her crown. It still hurts me a little to remember that disappointment.

Baby girl, maintain your dignity, learn how to appreciate the best things in life and different peoples. Get and keep a certain virtuosity about yourself, EVERYBODY LOVES A QUEEN.

Anonymous · Answer

To be honest, a lot of black girls (not all) are loud and ghetto and make scenes wherever they go. It is a huge number that do and that sort of behavior makes nice black girls look bad to everyone else. I am a Hispanic female and I grew up in a predominately black neighborhood and all I came across were black girls just being straight Ghetto and ridiculous.  Now, everywhere I go despite what neighborhood, special event, etc, wherever there is a black girl, there's drama.  I cannot grasp the concept as to why they must feel the need to make a scene wherever they go if things are not going their way.  A LOT of them seriously just don't know how to behave.  Also, their body odor is horrible and you can smell them from a distance...especially when they're on their periods hence why a lot of black men will not perform oral sex on black women but will certainly perform on women of other races.   A lot of men...black and non black find these particular characteristics to be complete turn-offs and quite frankly, I don't blame them.  Black men prefer non-black women more than they do black women and that is a shame! Funny because my best friend is a black female and she agrees with me on this 100% and she doesn't even have many black friends for these reasons.  Whenever we go somewhere and there are black women, she gets discouraged and its only a matter of time before she asks me if we could leave. My boyfriend, who is black, would not date black women all.  He has dated them before and just got tired because according to him, they keep nasty and dirty houses, they have bad body odor, and they make ghetto and loud scenes in public and private.  That sort of behavior and image is the kind that is projected to the rest of society by black women unfortunately which inevitably makes black women the least desired by men in general.

MyLastOne · Answer

Ok, I'll be honest even though I tend to withhold myself.

I find most Black girls (my experiences with them around here) tend to have a bitchy attitude, and I don't know, I tend to think they're aren't in anyone other than Black guys.

But I have found some Black girls attractive, sometimes, I'm guilty of being racist and not taking a second look when I see a Black girl. But I found dark Black girls can be attractive. I tend to like lighter skinned girls though. Lighter skinned Black girls are definitely included in that.

I'm sorry if I sound not like a bad guy, there aren't many Black folks here.

Anonymous · Answer

It's weird that I'm answering this since I'm a girl myself =S

It all depends on where you are really, maybe it's different because you live in America, but I'm from London and where I'm from black girls have no problem with dating, whether it be black Chinese Indian White men... But I do find that light skinned girls or Black/Indian girls get more...attention then darker girls, although this is just my opinion. Not saying that dark girls are ignored, because they are not. I do know though that there are areas in london, probably where there is less racial diversity, where black women have the same problems you do. But where I'm from there is so much diversity so I'm not really aware of the problems your talking about. I do think the media gives a bad name for black women, and some people do stereotype against black women making it difficult for you to be approached. But don't let the media fool you, making you think that you may not be pretty and that, because there is no clear definition of what beauty is.

Anonymous · Answer

It's funny looking at some of the post.   I am a black female, and I find it the opposite with me, I only attract white guys because most black guys think that I am too "white" whatever that means.  Everyone thinks I am mixed, but both of my parents are black.  Now we do have; French, American Indian, Spanish and Caucasian in our family tree, so I picked up some of those features.  My mom was a school teacher and later worked to educating young kids about food and nutrition. (My mom has her Masters in Agriculture and her Bachelors in Elementary Education)( My dad had his bachelors in business, and worked as a  postal manager).  So I guess that is why my parents were able to take on vacations, camp, let us take swim lessons and expose us to different cultures and races.  So I think it all comes down to how the person is raised, how there attitude will be, as far as features...genetics.  I am married to a wonderful "White" guy now, but I still get hit on by "White" men, and now I get hit on by "Black" men, but I think it is because I am with my husband.   I understand that some of my people fit the stereotypes, but those are the one the media shows the world.  You need to go out and see for yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

*the following is MY opinion based on MY preference so it makes it neither right or wrong, fact or fiction*.

As a half white and Hispanic male I have found African American women least attractive for a few reasons. I don't like the color of their skin that separates the bottom and top of their feet or how thick the soles of their feet can be. I don't like how ashy their skin can be. While they have great butts their legs and arms can be quite masculine to me. I do find their nipples and areolas to be very sexy because of size and color. I also found their way of speaking made them appear less intelligent and not really attractive TO ME.

Now notice how I said "African American" women and not simply black. This is because I once met a black woman from London and her personality, views and accent because of where she was from and where she was raised TO ME made her incredibly sexy and totally differentiated her from the typical, sassy, head shaking , attitude, can't tell me nothing type of women that I see black women to be here in the USA. I couldn't not get enough of that very dark British Black female. I then realized that the prejudices I had against the way black women looked was highly exaggerated because they were "African American" with all that entightlment attitude I see them as having.

So IMO black women and all their imperfections I saw in them would shrink to almost non exsistance for me if the black woman was not African American.

Anonymous · Answer

i asked my cousin what girl he likes and he said if she's hot of any race because in each race there is both ugly and pretty people. Like he said asians,indians,white,hispanic but he said no black girls unless they look like beyonce. my other friend said the same thing, if she's hot illdate her unless she's black exceppt if she looks like beyonce then I'm fine. If a black girl has a much more foreigh look then I think its preffered its just when you think of black girls I think the ghetto steretype comes to mind where I live that's the area and a lot of them are kinda loud and obnoxious and looks aren't as classy but that doesn't mean there bad, its just the way they present their qualities.

Like they can have be very bold and courageous but the certain ways some black girls expreds them aren't as attractive for example they yell randomly, rather than speaking sternly in a polite manner for what they beelive in. But this doesn't apply to all black girl just a select few who end up giving a stereotype that all are like that cause there are many respectful freedom fighters who are black female.

Ive also noticed that the look many guys find attractive can be pulled off by white,indians,asians and hispanics but not blacks that's prob why adn when the girl can pull off she is most likely mixed but has predominatly white features

Partytyme247 · Answer

Funny thing is you asked the question and said the answer... MEDIA.

If you tell a lie long enough, loud enough and often enough, the people will believe it.-------Adolph Hitler.

Check out what the media says about black girls, hell remember the white girl that got missing in aruba or some place like that, look at all the media coverage, but I promise you if that girl would have been a black girl, she wouldn't have got nearly as much media coverage, why, because it's understandable if a black girl would run away from home, but a white girl, God Forbid...she came from a good home, she did this and did that, oh and by the way she was beautiful...thus indirectly, people will see this and decide that beauty looks like this. Beauty is in the eye of the camera.

loverorbestfriend · Answer

I'm a brown guy (Indian) and I have dated many black girls (in fact, I lost my virginity to a black girl!). I have also dated Asian, White, Latina and of course, Indian girls too. I don't discriminate because then that cuts down on the variety of girls I go out with and I am really into variety...I like girls with different personalities, backgrounds, religions, like to learn about them and stuff...

As far as the stereotypical 'ghetto bitch' girl, well, manhandle those bitches and they'll allow you to take control, if that's what you want...but personally, I don't like the 'ghetto bitch' type because they're too loud, not feminine enough, and they tend to be chubbier...just not my thing...I like normal black girls (and African girls too), they're sexy.

In conclusion, I think it's the 'ghetto bitch' that people get turned off by, not regular black girls...

Anonymous · Answer

"(BE HONEST, answer anonymously if you must, and don't feed me any crap about "preferences" because in most cases I find that there is underlying racism behind this so-called racial preferences)."

I don't see why this is feeding you crap? Is it so hard to believe that someone can have preferences in who they perceive as attractive? Maybe someone likes tall girls or short girls maybe with black hair maybe with blonde hair. I mean if you really want honesty like you say that's my honesty. How can you explain attraction? It is like trying to explain why you like one food more than another. You can't explain something subjective that you just FEEL. If you want me to be REALLY honest this is my personal preference Asian>white>hispanic>anything except black. I like short girls with black hair as well. " Racist = a person who believes that a particular race is superior to another." I don't believe in any special superiority this is just a subjective opinion on something that's simply not your fault and you can't change. If you want to try pin it on my "racism" then you don't actually wan't an answer just a soft pillow for your insecurities.

Anonymous · Answer

As a light skinned black woman, I have personally had darker skinned black women say to me "you're the type of black girl white guys like", which i think is false. I have come across plenty of white men who preferred darker skinned black women to me. I think one issue is that racism has caused black people to think of themselves as less than, which in turn, dictates our thinking process. I am a victim to this thinking myself. I went to penn state for undergrad and I was shocked by how many white men were attracted to me. And i automatically thought to myself, oh they only like me sexually, which redirected my mind into thinking negatively. I'm saying all of this to say that we as people often think this way due to history and where we grew up. A white man who may see an attractive black woman may immediately switch his thinking to the negative, thus, causing him to never approach her due to a subconscious justification in his mind. Some people are also just timid when it comes to the "unknown" or what may seem as taboo, so they just stick to what they know-- meanwhile, they suppress what they truly feel. Ok, I'm done blabbering lol.

Anonymous · Answer

hello! I'm a 15 year old mixed girl from Canada. I spent hours reading the "opinions" on this page and it honestly just makes me sad. I'm half black half white, I have hazel eyes, very long loose curly hair, I'm very tall, big lips, feckles, and an athletic build. I previously used to look down on black women, and black men. I thought about the term "ghetto" very often and associated it with them. Then I woke up! I have been in a white based society for my entire life and I realized how ridiculous I was being and thinking. I've always wished I was white because I desire white men. Now I know how ridiculous that is. I think black boys are cuties but in the end, I want to be with a white man. Just a preference. But honestly, I doubt that will ever happen. The stereotypes in the forum are utterly ridiculous and I don't believe that many people will ever be able to look past them. It's true, the black culture is different from the white, but so what? No culture is any better not worse than another. I for one, have been told that I act "too white" and that I should "embrace my inner ratchet." I was so shocked when my supposed friends told me that. Stereotypes have taken over our sad, sad society and are sadly here to stay. So overall, I am honestly just sad. Sad because of the stereotypes. Sad because I was born into society where black people are still viewed as a "downgrade." It's sad that men and boys want us to "act white." I can't even believe somebody would say that. ACT as YOU. This is very long so I'm going to end this with one word. Sad. It's a sad, sad world we live in.

Anonymous · Answer

I've read a couple of the comments below and some of the things that were said are very true. A lot of men don't find African American women attractive because of the way that they carry themselves. In some cases, it's not about the looks because there are plenty of men of every race who do find African American women attractive. It's their negative attitudes that repel them. I myself am a 17 YO African American female and I have seen how so many African American girls and women carry themselves in a very unfeminine way. They act exactly like the stereotypes on television. They walk around with this bad attitude and act like they want to fight someone if they think they're looking at them the wrong way. On top of that, they don't speak proper English and handle themselves very similar to the way an undesirable man would. Now, I am NOT saying that this applies to every African American female out there; just a great majority of them.

I am proof that not every African American woman out there is the same. I do not carry myself the way many others do because I respect myself enough to not want to be that way. I find it to be extremely undesirable.

I have met and dated several guys of different races and plenty of them told me that I was different "from the rest of them". So, is it really a matter of race? It's not that African American women/girls are the least desirable. It's just that a majority of them make a bad name for us because of their undesirable attitudes.

Anonymous · Answer

The truth of the matter is yes racism exist, but more than that reality exist. People only know what they are taught and what they have been exposed to. I think what is true is that men are attracted to their mother's and women are attracted to their father's, father/mother figure or a protector of some sort. I am a black women who has always been attracted to black men. I grew up in a black neighborhood and that was all I knew. I found some white men attractive "to be white", but I would never have dated one. I have been exposed to other things in my adult hood and I married a white man. The marriage did not work, I still find some white men attractive but mostly I am attracted to black men and I want my next husband to be a black man who can relate to me. Attraction is generally a preference based on what we have been exposed to. On the occasion it is ignorance, and any race of man or women who do not date within there race (based on ignorance) I would question their love for self and their ability to love anyone else. What men and women both like is confidence, start loving your self and men and women will flock to you. Desperation is a repellent, don't listen to it or allow it in your world. There is a lot of good things and bad things said about all ethnicity's and nationalities, you just have to choose what you pay attention to.

I think because you are feeling vulnerable about self you tend to hone in on the negative things said about black women. Change the way you think and the world will change, I guarantee it. It's all subjective and the only truth is what you decide..Good luck in life and love.

Anonymous · Answer

Most Black women don't marry because the men (Black men) aren't on their level in terms of education, finances and morals.

Sad but true.

If you notice MOST White women are NOT married to Black men either. Unless, he's an athlete or musician with a lot of money the majority of white women and Asian women won't marry a Black men either because on average Black guys have noting to offer.

What is a man if he can't uplift you spiritually but instead degrades you?

What is a man if he can't be a provider as nature intended but instead tugs on the lint in his pockets and calls her a golddiger when he doesn't even have a penny for her to dig for copper?

What is a man that has no education whether self-taught or otherwise and he sits around using vulgar language to describe women and situations?

What is a man that has feminine emotions are argues with women as if he were a woman?

It's a so called Black man and for most sane women those characteristics are highly UNATTRACTIVE.

Who would marry that?

Anonymous · Answer

I know how you feel. I used to go to a school that was mainly white. But know I don't and my school is pretty much evenly distributed with race. I have low self esteem and how black people are portrayed lowers it. And it's mainly because of stereotypes. And I have read some of these comments and they make it sound like its black people on general. And I must say that I don't fit these stereotypes. I don't wear long fake nails because I don't need to. I don't have a really big butt like what people associate with black girls. I'm not really loud. I'm more of the shy quiet type. I don't have fake hair I mean yea my hair is chemically treated. I get perms and my hair isn't nappy. Not even know when it is all sweated out from Cheerleading and I'm not overweight. I like to keep up my image. And I'm also not dark skinned and my mom is black and her skin color sorta looks like a light yellow um light tannish color I guess. I don't know but she is super light skinned. Yea sure I have sorta big lips and I am sorta muscular because I workout. I just think its unfair.

Anonymous · Answer

Asker, honestly, I don't see why these answers made you feel bad. To be honest, 9/10 most of the  answers didn't say they found black girls unattractive or anything like that (but it IS to be expected that most people are ONLY attracted to their race) the biggest problem is that they found black girls/people fit into their stereotype personality-wise a little too much; loud, aggressive, mean, etc. & You asked somewhere up there. "What could you do about that?"  You don't have to do anything about that. Not that you could, in the first place. I don't know if you've ever seen the Breakfast Club, but one of the lines from the movie is, "You see us as you want to see us, in the simplest terms, in the most convenient definitions..." That rings true for everybody at some point, in every situation. So I say just keep being the unique, person who you are and you'll stand out in a crowd and find someone who likes you for who you are.   For the life of me, I can't understand why anyone would need someone else to validate them in the first place or let something like this eat away at their self-esteem, because you don't have anything to prove to anyone but yourself...

Anonymous · Answer

i'm a half black female, 21. beauty can be found every where and in every race. anyone who says they don't find black women attractive is an ignorant f***, who is unconsious,  and is utterly conditioned by the media. they are so conditioned by the media that they internalize all of the messages that the masses are bombarded with on a daily basis and believe that it's their nature or 'preference.' I'm clearly a young black woman, I grew up in a predominantly white area. I can honestly say that I can have any man I want wether he is white, black, yellow or brown. beauty truly comes from within, any intelligent, cultured and open minded man (which is my type, regardless of color) would realize that. the rest of you are jst puppets on a string who are slaves to your false desires (of which are inherently temporary and unfulfilling), these desires are created by the media and the media orgs are all run by the few corporationsl which are owned by a small group of white conservatives. switch off your technology and go to africa and broaden your tiny little white, conditioned perspectives. black women, I mean educated, dignified black women, we all know our worth, a lot of us have over come so much. Don't even waste your time on ignorant, narrow minded people!

play-wright-boy · Answer

Black girls have a big PR problem, and since most social circles are quite racially segregated, many guys will never even befriend a black girl in their lives. So all they have to go on are the immensely negative stereotypes.

If it makes you feel any better, I like black girls.

armyguy176 · Answer

im from south carolina. There are a lot of uneducated people and a lot of black people. So the combination provides the given stereotype that black women are obnoxious. I went to the mall earlier today, there were black girls making a scene. Obviously not all are like this, but the ones that are are like ignorant children, EXTREMELY ANNOYING. Now, I am going to talk about the last sentence in your last paragraph. I ONLY date why girls, because that is the ONLY color I am attracted to. you ARE wrong for assuming there is some racism in that. I don't find dark skin attractive. It is ENTIRELY  preference.

RattlerGirl · Answer

We are told what is and what is not beautiful. The media is sending out subliminal messages to the black community that we are ugly and less of a person than someone of European descent. Black women are portrayed as gold0diggers, jezebels and any other negative thing that you can think of. Black people in general are portrayed as uneducated, "ghetto" behaving hoodlums who speak slang and Ebonics. Look at Maury and his baby daddy-shows, any judge show, the news ,etc. These images, among other things, cause many of us to internalize these beliefs, in turn creating the deep rooted self-hate that is currently present in our community.I could go on forever, literally, but I'll stop here because I can feel myself getting out of control.

hatethegame · Answer

Half the reason is the media, you don't really see black women on TV (minus Oprah and Tyra).

The other half is nobody knows anyone dating a black woman, so nobody thinks they're worth their time.

I know these generalizations sound bad, but that's just my theory. Exposure really does change your perspective.

If you didn't grow up around blacks, or whites, or mexicans, or Asians, or Native Americans... it's hard to not only break through the culture barrier, but also the attractiveness barrier.

Newport100 · Answer

ohh how strange, I know a lot of white guys that like black woman only and they complain that they get shot down a lot by black woman. what a strange world we live in eh?

I say don't have that idea in your head that somehow you are inferior to this or that. Be yourself and you'll attract a guy that best suits you, don't occupy your thoughts on who you think shouldnt/couldnt/wouldnt like you.

the irony of me reading this question is: I see an ad for an interacial dating service called: afro-romance and there is a sexy black woman with a half naked white dude in the ads photo. No lie, very ironic.

Enickols12 · Answer

Think about your question this way:

Problem #1: You think that women of African descent are ugly.

My Solution: There have been 8 African American Mrs.USA winners and there are approximately 309,834,000 people in the USA as of 2010 so they can't be the least attractive race.

Problem #2: School is predominantly white

My Solution: Interracial relationships take much more commitment than other relationships, so you will more than likely have trouble in that effort.

Problem #3: African women least married race

My Solution: Think about it like this, the African predominant countries are for the most part in the third world. For them food is more important than making their relationship official.

MoonFight · Answer

Didn't have time to read all that, but I'm a woman, and I think it's MEDIA INFLUENCE. I was told that black guys were "ghetto" and speak ebonics or whatnot. Just like you for sex and are pimps. They are also usually the "bad guys" in movies or "funny outrageous" types and they are associated with slaverly sometimes.

Source: Truth and the internet

Unlike white guys, they have a reputation for being "handsome" and innocent, but they also have their share of bad stereotypes don't get me wrong. like they have asian fetishes and are pedophiles, etc. But I think what you're looking at all boils down to preference as well.

I for example, if I saw a hot looking black dude and he was mature and well mannered, I'd definately consider dating him since he has the qualities that I want (some of them).

You know what else is sad? I was told by my parents that filipinos or asians they like white skin and look up to that, and look down on dark skinned. It's just a type of mentality. Sadly.

dangibbs · Answer

I think that Black and Indian girls are the most beautiful women in the world. I would choose a black lady over any other, nearly every time.

Black women have the most stunning facial features, and often stunning bodies. Also black ladies have fantastic hairstyles too, much more alluring than white ladies I think (just my opinion).

For me the most gorgeous celebrity women on this planet are all black - Beyonce, Brandy, Tyra Banks, Naomie Lenoir, Alicia Keys just to name a few!

AmongTheApples · Answer

Because people like those who like, or seem to like, them. Most white guys have the same problem that most black women on here have: they believe that the other isn't interested. If you show a white guy (or any guy of any race) that you're interested, then, if he's attracted, he will ask. Now, it might take longer for him to get the hint than it would for a black guy, and you may have to be more direct, because for a while he might believe that it's all in his head and you're just being nice, but he should eventually get it.

mmike0 · Answer

To tell you the truth I am a black man and I feel like black women look for the wrong things in men. From my experience black women do not know about true romance. I am a young black guy (20 years old in college) and I am actually thinking about saying forget black women. I find it disturbing also that divorce rates are highest among black couples and I know I'm looking for a relationship but been getting pasted over lately and I think it due to the fact I don't draw attention to myself like other black men. Matter of fact most ( I feel safe to say 90%) of black men in college are single. I have a question for you, I feel like nobody wants me while I am going through the storm but everyone is going to want me when I get out the storm and I have a fear that I am going to be "stuck up" in a sense or I will be heartless, how do you feel about that?

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