Would a guy avoid being alone with a girl he has a crush on/what should I do about him he's super-confusing?

[Anonymous]

basically I really like this guy a ton and he's definitely shown signs that he likes me back. we flirt and joke around and make fun of each other all the time and we get along really well. he lets me hit him, touch him, etc. playfully without resisting at all. we make eye contact a lot and for way longer than normal people should and it feels super-intense.

so the other day we were gonna go pick up lunch we'd ordered for our group and he really wanted me to come along too (there was gonna be more people going). then things changed I guess, because no-one else wanted to go along to pick it up, and suddenly he just wanted to go alone in his car and he clearly didn't want me to come along anymore. (it wasn't in a rude way, but yeah.)

he also gets weird, embarrassed, or quiet when I take things too far and say something too, um, filthy/dirty towards him when we joke around, but he doesn't mind it at all when other people say stuff like that. (sometimes he turn really red when I do stuff like that too, or when someone makes a suggestive comment about me and him. one day one of our friends said she was gonna say something about me and him that was gonna make him blush, and he told her it was best not to say it because when he does that it's 'because it's something true.')

so ummmm yeah. I have no idea what to do about him. I can't tell if he's reserved/shy about his feelings or if he only likes me as a friend. I really wanna be with him and do bad things with him for real you guys. :|

thanks so much in advance for any advice!

-tiff x

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+1 y

we work together, so that the reason he didn't want us to go alone together to get everyone's lunch last week because other people might start rumors.

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+1 y

we've known each other for six months now at work but we have mutual friends as well. I'm 20 years old and I moved to the usa from germany when I was 17 so I don't have a lot of friends and I've never had a real boyfriend before, so I don't have much experience with this kinda thing.

[AnAnonymousPerson]

My personal opinion is that he likes you, but he may be a little timid, shy, or unsure of himself. I have done some of the things that you've described except the "avoid being alone" part and I can personally say that I probably gave the girl mixed signals. In this particular situation I was unsure of myself and thought she was "out of my league" and couldn't figure out if she was actually flirting to get somewhere, or if it was just friendly flirting.

Maybe you could make the first move and ask him how he feels or ask him to lunch just the two of you?

[shyguy89]

sounds to me like your the aggresser in this which is a hard role to play cause your so open minded and he's not he's the girl your the guy.. I think you should hug him more but longer there's no way he can get out of this...unless he's gay hug him hold him feel his heart beat then ask him about it but look him in the eyes when you say this I have never tryd this but its sounds good on paper..good luck