Why do guys have to impress their friends?

[kezytrouble]

I've noticed that a lot of guys are more jerks when they are around their friends. I wanna know why that is and what's the big deal about it?

[OpenClose]

In this society, we are judged much more by our abilities, our jobs, our income, and our status. There isn't a whole heck of a lot of intrinsic "you're a good person" talk going around in guys' general direction.

I used to feel this all the time. I couldn't just "be me", because no one else would have respected that. It's as though I wasn't worthy of respect as a human unless I had "proven myself" and "earned" that right.

It's like they say, girls can become women by reaching physical maturity, but boy aren't considered "men" until they've proven something. Some utility they serve to everyone else.

It's like this in many cultures, usually much worse in old or tribal ones. It's where we get the whole "initiation ceremonies" and "right of passage". In these cultures, a man has to prove himself in a specific way before anyone will actually recognize him as a man.

[animalwithin]

Guys in general feel like they have to impress everyone, especially women, which always backfires. Guys today, deep inside, are very unconfident and feel like they need to impress the world in order for the world to like them and approve of them so they go about doing stuff to make them look cool. Women pick up on this and find it unattractive. Real men don't have to impress anyone. They know that who they are speaks volumes about themselves so they don't have to go out and do stupid sh*t to make them look macho.

[sephora]

so true, its so obvious when a guy goes out of his way to impress someone.

[Stacyzee]

You are speaking of the young and immature. They want to fit in, and think sounding like a "stereotypical" guy is what allows them to blend in

I remember this guy told me, that all of his friends were the type to check girls out and say "I'd hit that." even though, he isn't that type of male he told me he acted that way towards women (looked at them as a piece of meat along with his friends, and said inappropriate things) just to feel a part of the group.

Its immature and stupid if you ask me. If they're really your friends they will accept that you're your own person.

[obligations]

SImply put. Becuase the other guys start it, so guys do it back and some how it's become a social norm among men.

Like how women are satisfied with being gossipy (though I think men gossip more)

[Musical546]

Group mentality. Guys want to impress their friends and to be the alpha male, you know? And that's what sadly happens as a result. I would even say some guys think they are more attractive to girls if they are the life of the party in their group, even if they are jerks.

[Nomoremrniceguy]

Think about dog packs. Guys are very similar to dogs (and girls more like cats) so as a pack we pick on each other to get test everyones strength and figure out whose cool and whose not. Watch the dog whisperer and he will teach you a lot about packs of dogs.. which are really similar to the way guys behave.

[dudeman]

because that's how men communicate with each other women are attracted to a man for being a man so I don't see a big deal at all, when he's around you he trust you and may be more "real" with you and open up but around other men there is no need for that seeing how through the history of mankind that's not how men communicated or bonded so appreciate it

[Anonymous]

You are not looking at it correctly, ma'am.

I thoroughly believe the question you intended to ask is 'why are guys not jerks around girls?'

You are welcome for pointing out the fundamental flaw in your question. You can thank me if you would like. Next time do a spell check when you are posting questions on here. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

The ones that turn in to jerks around friends are just Pathetic little boys, don't waste your time on them. It's not something real men do.

[CasaNorba]

to keep their friends approval. chicks do this too

[Cynthia325]

girls really don't do this near as often as guys...they do it more secretly if they do it, not so open like men do.

[SlickRicky]

"the do it more secretly...not so open" so pretty much they just lie about it?

[somnambulated]

Not lying, it's just more passive and subtle. A different way of communicating, just like guys are on average more openly aggressive and girls are on average more passive when it comes to confrontations, the same thing goes for girls trying to impress someone.

[somnambulated]

I meant *passive aggressive not just passive.

[Xx_DRE_xX]

Only the ones who seek approval from others.