What does it mean when a guy's friends try to get him to talk to you?

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There's this guy I know and I found out some of his friends have been trying to get him to talk to me and they tease him whenever I'm around. When I defend him they smile and laugh going "Awww". I know he has low self-esteem, but he's so sweet and I like that he's sensitive. Does he have feelings for me or are the guys just messing with him? I have feelings for him, but I'm afraid of letting him know... They wouldn't try to get him to talk to me if they didn't think he was attracted to me, would they?

75superman · Accepted Answer

It could be either way. He could like you and his friends know it and they are trying to encourage him to talk to you. I know that I was a shy guy in jr high/high school and didn't talk to many girls that I liked. When my friends found out there was a girl that I liked they tried to get me to go and talk to her. Sometimes I did. Sometimes I didn't. Or his friends know they can tease him if they knew that he isn't into you. If you like him, it looks like you are going to have to start talking to him to see if he likes you or not. Assume that he likes you until you know for sure. Again from a shy guy at that age, if he doesn't say much when you talk to him, don't take it bad. He likely just doesn't know how to talk to girls. It may take a few days of casual conversation from you to him to open up to you and start to come out of his 'shell'.

Anyway, I hope that it works out for you.

fraaaannnnn · Accepted Answer

I definitely think he's into you! What I think happened is he told them he likes you (or thinks you're cute), and most guys will try to hook their buddy up i.e.: trying to get him to talk to you.

The problem is, guys tend to do it in immature ways like laughing and teasing him around you. But it's just brotherly love!

I speak from experience, so I have a good feeling about this.

sammy_31 · Accepted Answer

Yes, he has feelings for you & is too shy to approach you. If you like him then you should start approaching him & make little conversations with him here & there :)

WhitneySnow · Accepted Answer

They want him to talk to you because they know he likes you. But they’re guys and they’re probably not very good at it lol.

Raiden · Answer

You got that right! I myself having a blackbelt in being shy, can tell you that he is afraid of letting you know too, but the worst part for him is when you give up on the guy because he doesn't make a move (because you may have more offers as you wait for his magesty to grow a pair lol) and another thing is highly likely to happen is for him to chicken away if you asked him if he was interested or if you asked him out chances are he will shy away and pretend he is not interested (this is because he doesn't know how to handle the situation. Why? because he is not programmed to yet to handle such situations yet).

Being shy is a complicated business, they want it but they feel embarrassed to ask for it, so I think there should be some kind of a course for shy people to come out of their shell (but I doubt any of them will attend) make sense? lol

Konnour · Answer

Most likely they're just trying to have an amusement by trying to force him to talk to you - seeing how he would 'mess it up' as they're aware that he probably isn't good at talking to girls.

Maybe he said to his friends something good about you and they 'overreacted' and the end is like that, you know?

My friends also used to tease one guy, telling - "Hey, go talk to those chicks, they said you have SO strong arms!" or "You're a jailbait only for one more year - nothing to lose!" (that pal is 17)

Gawesome · Answer

Awww...how sweet! XD It's obvious isn't it? Sounds like a wolf pack looking out for the little one! If they're a tight group, they'll know that he likes you. It's just friendly ribbing and a friendly push if he's the shy one in the group.

I'm surprised one of the friends haven't talked to you yet to tell you to initiate things. Good luck! :)

Tacoman113 · Answer

well this is an easy one yes he probably thinks you are cute or something and he might have mentioned that to A friend but the guy mean no harm they are trying to get him to talk to you.  If you want to help the guy out talk to him online and then when ever you see him around friend for sure just start talking to him BUT yes we most likely likes you

WeaponZero · Answer

His friends either know or have reason to suspect that he is into you and they're trying to "bully" him (in a friendly manner, if you can imagine that, nothing harmful about it) to go do something about it.  If he doesn't they won't let him live it down for a good long time.  It's very common among guys.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah he likes you. What he did is he told his friends that he likes you and now their trying to convince him to talk to you and that's why they are acting this way around you. This is why if I like a girl I don't usually tell my friends cause then they go try introducing me to her when I'm not quite ready. I like to do it on my own. Yeah he's obviously shy so you may have to talk to him first to let him know you're interested. Shy guys sometimes need a few more obvious hints than the so called "bad boys" but don't worry we have good intentions and you won't be disappointed:)

yopyopyop · Answer

There are very high chances his friends are going to bother him too much about it after a while, and that he will close down, resulting in him avoiding you.

If you plan to talk to him, don't wait, and especially, make sure his friends aren't close.

Tony90 · Answer

If you like him then you should start approaching him

Yeahhbro · Answer

omg are you actually asking this question? It is so obvious its not even funny.

Love_is_in_the_air · Answer

Honestly, at hishschool guys used to mess around like that with me every time a girl everyone made fun of walked by.

shahab00x · Answer

Yeah he likes you. Text him or talk with him on the internet.

CasaNorba · Answer

he might be a little shy and wants his friend to initiate the relationship

Ryan762 · Answer

He likes you and he probably talks about you around his friends

In_Trance · Answer

If you're 12 It's perfectly normal at 34 it's ridiculous

LonelyandInTheDark · Answer

oh puh-leese. do you really have to ask this?

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