How would you feel if your boyfriend cried while watching a sad movie with you?

Question

While watching Titanic or The Notebook for example, would you find it cute that he's not afraid to show emotion or find it weak and be ashamed of him?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm a feminist and I like to date whole people, not dumb ass sexist caricatures. I'm not going to act that way and neither should he. If you want to cry, cry. I don't mind. I like when guys express their emotions. If you can't cry in front of me, you probably won't be comfortable talking to me openly about how you feel, about how I make you feel in negative ways, about how other people make you feel, about too much of anything and you'll probably just be the type to bottle most things up inside, aside from the "manly emotions". who wants to date that? I definitely dont. I love my dad, he's a great father, but he's kind of like that and my parents marriage fails tremendously in the communication/emotional connection side and its kind of beyond fixing at this point. that's a whole other can of worms, but it does relate to not being able to show emotions in a direct, constructive way. when you bottle the truth up, it always comes out, and sometimes in really nasty, destructive ways that will make your partner hate you in a lot of cases (like my parents).

I definitely am not into the guys who think its not "manly" to cry.

no, no. definitely not for me. I know some women love the macho guy though, the one who doesn't cry over things like this and really only breaks down when things have gone to an extreme.

loveisbeautiful · Accepted Answer

I would think it was sweet, it shows he has a heart and can feel things like a human being

should.

And, I just have to say one thing, that whole "real men don't cry" bit. Here's how I see it,

I think that "real men" do cry! Because, it shows that he is confident enough in himself

and his masculinity, that he doesn't have give into that whole stereotype.'Cuz, he knows

that he is quote a "real man" and crying doesn't change that. Besides, it's kinda sexy, in

a werid way when a man cry's. Because they don't do it that often and in that moment

they're sensitive and vulnerable and that in it's self is attractive. Especially, since men

try so hard to be strong and brave, it's nice to see them let go and show emotion.

xobrowneyedbeauty · Accepted Answer

not the notebook ugh lol but titanic, eh maybe. it's sweet when guys are sensitive but unless the movie is really sad he better not be crying because even I don't cry over many movies! lol but I said A. I don't think crying makes him less of a "man," but I also don't find a crying guy all that attractive unless it's something big. if that makes sense. OK now I'm rambling.

goldgunsgirls · Accepted Answer

Most women would probably find it cute if he tried to hide it but would probably be like "wow he's needy" if he did it very openly and looked to the girl for comfort.

I myself cry at almost nothing. The only things that make me cry in life are serious family messups, which happen once in a while but even then almost never make me cry (maybe once a year lol). Last time I cried it was out of anger in June or something, and before that I broke down in the shower after my parents really ripped on me the whole day for something that wasn't even my fault at all. And that was because of built up stress from months of hard times at home, including a whole bunch of having me try to mediate fights between my parents.

Other than things like that I never cry. I don't understand why something like a movie would make someone cry - it has nothing to do with their life. If it has to do with their life (for example, a movie that reminds them of a deceased love one), sure, that's understandable. But all the other movies that people cry at, it doesn't make sense to me haha.

thesnake13 · Accepted Answer

I won't cry but I will let some tears fall in a sad or touching movie (alone or with a girl...NOT with friends but I'd want to) It doesn't bother me what people say or think about me because I could turn it off quick and break their neck.There's nothing wrong with it, it shows you have emotion and a heart.

Goddabkiddin · Answer

Cute. I would honestly gain more respect and love for him if he's that comfortable around me. However, I would not say anything to him about it or mention that I even noticed, unless he were to bring it up first. From what I've noticed through out my life, is you aren't supposed to acknowledge  when a man is crying. lol.

jesstacia · Answer

My boyfriend cried whilst watching the Titanic. His crying really only made me love him the more. I just felt like cuddling with him even more.

I think that a guy shows courage and strength if he is able to show his emotions. It shows that he is not easily influenced by societal norms and is confident in himself. :)

Shameneyes · Answer

Honestly, if he cried during watching the Titanic... Well, I cried when I saw it, but I was 7 years old (>.>). Wow, that would just be so awkward if he started crying during a movie. I mean guys can cry and stuff, but over a movie; really? There have got to be some deep seeded issues or something more going on behind the scenes on that one. Like instead of thinking about the love story and how the character died. If he were to put himself in the shoes of the character and that was the reason that he cried it would be understandable, because no one wants to loose a loved one. Either way, I would still comfort him as he would do for me, but we are going to talk about it the next day :p

I'm not voting, because I don't think it is cute and I don't think he is less of a man, because he could seriously be disturbed by the fact of someone close to him dying.

Anonymous · Answer

Just awww is all I can say. That would be so adorable to see a full grown man in a bumbling cry every time he watched a sad movie. It would probably give her that safe feeling & wanting to protect you, take care of you instead of the other way around.

I was just trying to imagine how sweet it would look... & sound, to walk into a packed theatre to see every man balling & the women comforting their men.

I sure wouldn't want to be around him if his pet turtle died though. Being around someone who is screaming, crying & in a uncontrollable state makes me uncomfortable because I wouldn't know what to do...but still adorable.

toulouse · Answer

i don't see myself watching the titanic, or the notebook. not my thing. a documentary on the titanic, sure.

if he cries, he cries. if I'm dating him I already like him. I'm not insane or frivolous. doing one thing can't change me entire view of a person.

anyways tears are good for your eyes.

i don't cry, but I wouldn't have a problem with someone else crying. blubbering.. well,maybe id need to give him some space for a few minutes.

JustWondering36 · Answer

If a guy I liked ended up crying while watching a movie with me I think my heart would melt due to the heat of adoration within it. I would feel more comfortable around him since it does take a large amount of security for a man to cry around a woman. In other words, for him to cry with me around, he would have to be comfortable with me.

MilaPohstro · Answer

One PLEASE stop watching The Notebook, so overrated...two I never finish the titanic because I get so pissed.

YO girl quit being selfish, YOUR ON A DOOR, let your boyfriend hope up on it. She killed Jack.

Two it's sad (kinda but I would rather watch a documentary on it).

I wouldn't be aww but I think it is really sweet...as long as your not talking about the notebook :P

well as long as it is worth crying over, don't be too sensitive though.

MaryLane · Answer

I'm not sure I mean it would depend on exactly what he was crying about and if it were just tearing up or actually like crying.. but to be honest the only reason I'd be okay with it is because it shows that he has the same feelings but to be honest I don't want to see those feelings I just want to know they're there... so if he can express with WORDS how something touches him rather than in tears like a female. I'd prefer it lol

typicalscorpio · Answer

I chose b..

im emotionally detached I guess lol.. I hardly ever cry over real life sh*t that effects my life let alone a movie.. If my man cried over a movie idfeel unbelievably uncomfortable and honestly wouldn't look at him the same..

Unless maybe the movie hit really close to home and pulled out some burried emotions from his past

but if he's crying over the movie id be disturbed and embarrassed

vishna · Answer

We will not watch The Notebook together (I detest it) but if he cried while watching Titanic or another sad movie well I would just fawn over him all night :) that's so sweet <3

He would get so many awwwww babe it's OK *hug hug hug* I love you

Haha that's just one of the cutest things a guy could do

However...sometimes when a guy cries...well I..I don't like it

In this instance it would be adorable

justme20 · Answer

men are so caught up with thinking they are tough and not show emotions and women honestly love and adore to see that side of her guy. My boyfriend has did this so many times. He hates it and claims he is a "bad ass and doesn't cry" but I think its cute so I give him hugs and kisses for it

siquetumeamaste · Answer

I would find it a nice expression of emotion and try to cuddle up to him. I wouldn't find it weak, my dad does it too haha. I think that maybe a lot of guys do this? Like for some reason they are more emotionally affected by a sad movie than something sad in real life. But I think because of that maybe the sad movie triggers other feelings or something? Maybe I am overanalyzing haha. But I would certainly find it cute and it's always nice to comfort someone when they're sad.

cazza3 · Answer

My fiance cried while watching hatch I and I was glad. We have 3 dogs that run our lives and it shows he had a heart, who wants an emotionless prick "I am man, man not cry".

I hated titanic so I'd sincerely hope he wouldn't cry, the notebook, blah, but I know he found atonement depressing as f***

Caramell · Answer

Unless he was the one who wanted to watch that sort of movie, we wouldn't watch it in the first place. I have a strange, unnatural dislike for all "romance" and "chick flicks" movies. Therefore, if he decided to watch, I would find it natural if he cried. I would think it's cute, and I wouldn't think its weak.

dimples1327 · Answer

Better hope you guys don't get ran up on by someone with bad intentions.. he might cry!  And to all you girls who say you would hug him and your heart would melt you are bold face liars! This girl is asking the question because her fantasy became reality and she was turned off..real men cry when their girl is not around!

shygirl813 · Answer

My last guy was emotionally the woman in the relationship... he just talked about a sad movie and would get misty eyed. I didn't cry ever (well, sometimes yes. But compared to him not ever. ha.) but not at movies or anything. I always wanted to comfort him and felt bad because he was crying. But at the same time I was kinda like... "really? Its fake, I am not even crying."

katg4560 · Answer

Well since I don't cry during sad movies or really ever because they always leave me with bad migraines... I'd be thrill that I didn't have to try to be the emotional one in the relationship. You always need one person who's very connected to their emotions and one who's not so much I believe to make a relationship work.

TheGodEmperorLeto · Answer

I don't cry during those movies, tbh they really don't do the emotional thing well to me. But there are other movies that can get me to tear up. Many things that I think do the playing of emotions a lot better. Things that have the music set better, the acting better, etc. Not sure what I could answer. But I don't think I've ever full on cried. And I'm not really ashamed of it. It is what it is. I'd rather feel than not lol.

ImaginaryReality · Answer

Well, regarding your two examples (Notebook and Titanic), I've never seen either of those movies, so I can't comment there.

However, I will say that I have cried from watching movies. The two that immediately come to mind are "The Fountain," and the Grey Havens scene near the end of LOTR: The Return of the King. Every time I watch ROTK (I've seen the trilogy several dozen times), I tear up during that scene.

And I have NO SHAME admitting that.

suzyy · Answer

I chose A because guys rarely show their emotions. I like when a guy shows his emotions because it tells me that he cares and has feelings too. Now I just read your update..haha that would be hilarious! We would both fight over the tissues. I prefer him to cheer me up when I cry but that doesn't mean it's a turn off when he cries with me.

posted · Answer

I think they like the idea, but if he was a really sensitive guy all the time I think it would get old quick. I'm pretty detached so yeah..

DutchAtheist · Answer

There's crying and there's crying.

I cried after "In the name of the father". Not hysterically (that must be really unattractive) but tears were definitely rolling down my face. I don't care what anyone thinks, that story just made me really angry (it's a true story) and I just had to let it out.

But to be honest I surprised myself because I hardly ever cry.

Arcano · Answer

I certainly wouldn't be ashamed or wish that he were "a real man"... I just am not emotional in that way, and cannot recall ever tearing up while watching a film. It might make me silently uncomfortable, because I wouldn't know how to react (if at all).

lottierose · Answer

Maybe not those films, but I would find it kind of adorable if a guy was actually affected by something like that. I hate it when guys act like they don't have emotions cause they think it makes them macho, a bit of (appropriate) sensitivity is a real emotional tug for me and would make me feel closer to him

kdizzleforizzle91 · Answer

I've never liked The Notebook, and Titanic is toooo long and the love story part of it is kinda ridiculous. If it was actually a decent chick flick and he shed a couple tears or sniffled, I'd probably say "awwww" but giggle a little at the same time. It would be more sweet if he'd somehow compare compare us to the couple in the movie. lol

TangerineFire1 · Answer

I would think it was very endearing.  It would make me love him more.

helplessromantic92 · Answer

I would really rather have a man who is willing to cry than an emotionless brick.

Anonymous · Answer

Well, with the 2 movies mentioned - I would think there was something wrong with him! A movie about Pearl Harbor and a tear shed, or Saving Private Ryan - okay!

LovelySerene · Answer

not sure about those movies, I didn't even cry to titanic...and never saw The notebook...but I cry so hard to the Korean Horror movie A Tale of Two Sisters, it's not really scary at all but the story is amazing, but very sad, based off of a Korean folklore...that's a movie worth crying for

Anonymous · Answer

Oh...honey? Are you okay? It's just a movie.

But it'd be adorable. My boyfriend is very open with his emotions. It damn near breaks my heart when he gets upset and looks like he's trying not to cry. I just want to hold him and make it all better. But I can't. Because he is 6'5 and I am 5'4. And he would squish me. :)

If I were crying and he were crying, I assume we'd just hold each other and cry together :)

may04 · Answer

I picked A because I don't think crying during a movie is a turn off, HOWEVER I don't get all emotional during movies so I might laugh at him...but not to be intentionally mean, it would just slip out...I'm a d***.

lace1228 · Answer

I think it is weird for a man to never cry. If something is sad it is perfectly fine to shed a tear or two. Guess what it is called human emotions. The last time I checked men qualify as being part of the human race.

DebiPie · Answer

Well, I cry during some of them, not those two movies...at all. So why wouldn't a man get choked up once in awhile? I would hope that he has some kind of feelings. Now bluppering every movie? I wouldn't like that from man or woman.

FrozenFire782 · Answer

If he is flat out bawling or crying kinda hard, I'd just feel wierd. I'm the feminine one here, you're supposed to be comforting me... If it was just like one tear or for just a short time, I'd find it cute.

hoodratsk8r · Answer

now when you say cry women you think it is sexy what about a man who does cry but hides it because he feels it makes him look week like I do.I have old Ideals where you cry you are week.In my mind that is how I think.So you would want to see me cry?

Freetobe007 · Answer

I'd laugh, if not out loud, chuckle like a mad woman deep down inside lol

toulouse · Answer

lol  So.. so far  4 Women respect a guys natural chemistry. And 2 guys want a _real_ Man ;-)

XxkittyninjaxX · Answer

awwwwww so cute <3 my boyfriend cried alil nd so was I whn we watched I am legend lololol we don't normally cry hardly but I don't know it was just the whole he had to kill his dog part I guess I get emotional over animals dieing like tht in movies ha ha nd 4 my boyfriend it was the whole a man nd his dog thing but yea a man showing his emotions is manly lol but he's only tht comfortable to do tht around me =^-^= hahaha

GGSTUNT · Answer

Personally, it is a turn off because I don't even cry on sad movies; However, if he cries I wouldn't stop him, laugh nor say anything.. In a way it takes a lot of... courage to express ones feelings so openly...

hazuki-chan · Answer

I don't cry when I watch chick flicks. I only cry at movies that have some sort of significance. I cried at the end of Schindler's List. That kind of thing. But, if my boyfriend showed his emotions, which he does, I would think it'd be cute.

RedSmartie · Answer

I mean, if he tears up a little bit it's kinda cute but if he all out cries then that's just pathetic.  Plus, guys are ugly criers.

Hey-you · Answer

I would find it so ridiculously adorable, it would break my heart and then I would start a huuuuuuuuge make out session to cheer him up. True story.

PoeticNinja · Answer

I would giggle and stop watching sad movies with him.  It's movie.. Although, if he was crying due to a loss or something more personal. That's different.

kmhco · Answer

On one of our first dates, my boyfriend and I went to see 50/50. He tried to hide the fact that he cried during it but it was really cute.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

I would prefer that he not do that. OK let me be completely honest, I'd be looking at him like WTF I don't want a guy who is THAT overly sensitive

vishna · Answer

That was so sad :(( Gosh man...you should have put a warning WARNING: Link is incredibly sad, watch with caution, you will cry :((

Modernman2006 · Answer

I cried at the ending of Saving Private Ryan. So am I not a real man?

jpinka · Answer

idk who said eww >.> but a real man can show his emotions.

MrEM4N · Answer

Yo. Real talk. I teared up a little when they died holding each other at the end of the Notebook. That sh*t was raw.

steffyswan · Answer

I think a man who isn't afraid to cry is one hell of a man I'd be more than fortunate to have!

swisschocolate · Answer

Its cool, lets me know he is a sensitive guy. I can accept that

FruitsPunchSamuraiG · Answer

I always thought weakness was not appreciated in front of others.

pixiestix123 · Answer

queston update: no it didn't make me cry or even think about crying

obligations · Answer

i put awww but it depends on the guy.    soem guys look worse if they cried. I just can't picture it. LOL

Anonymous · Answer

i may cry in front of women... if my football team wins or loses football tournament.

blackberries27 · Answer

I don't cry hardly ever and the notebook was the movie that did it to me ..if it's sad it shouldn't matter shows he has a heart

awintergirl · Answer

Aww I would think it was sweet! But then again, I'd probably be crying too so we'd have to keep a lot of Kleenex on hand!

jesstacia · Answer

I would just want to cuddle him as we cry together haha. :)

Anonymous · Answer

There is nothing sexier than a man who is not afraid to show his emotions. I'm not talking about the type man who cries about every thing but a man who is not afraid to be vulnerable.

heywat · Answer

it would honestly make me feel so much closer knowing he's also emotional! :)

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