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Does confidence matter when you are ugly? (Page 2)
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Guys don't like women who are not confident the same applies for women
no it doesn't . Girls who are confident feel entitled to the top men . Guys don't like that
not true ya
Girls don't like when guys are desperate for a relationship because it makes us girls feel we are not good enough because desperate guys would date any girl and they will feel as a second option. Most of the time just live your life don't think too much about being in a relationship people get divorced all the time and people break up all the time just have fun with your guy friends and live your life. If you keep looking for a relationship it won't happen most things happen when you don't look for it girls hate when guys chase them they giggle because they think its funny you chasing some one that don't want to be chased. You will know if a girl likes you when the time comes so don't chase after girls who don't even want to give you the time of day because those girls will make you more depressed.
life is so easy for women , I wasn't born desperate , I was hated before I was and I'm hated noe
confidence is the best way to make people see ugly people look better "" it works out with ugly girls more than ugly boys "
Yeah because women don't have to approach men simply because they're women.
I have never in my life heard of women running away from a guy who is trying to just start convo with them.What kind of people are you talking to?
not run away . Just ignore me and barely reply until I have nothing left to say
Ugliness is a matter of opinion. Confidence is more important. Use your confidence to start a conversation with a girl who you like and shares similar interests to you, and become friends. Take small steps and things may happen from there.
BTW - Saying that you are ugly is a sign of low confidence. Think positive!
i try to talk to girls but they barely respond
Confidence matters even when an individual is fairly attractive.
in wish I was fairly attractive
i think the answer lies in becoming confident. Maybe its just me, but confident people regardless of whether or not there good-looking or not automatically become good-looking.
if there's nothing you can do about how you look , why mope about it , learn to love it and use your best features to your advantage. I seriously think the answer lies in becoming confident.
how can I use ugly nose , huge lips , big forehead , unaesthetic face to my advantage ?
go get surgery then..if not then stop complaining and become confident . show case your personality and maybe someone will look past your exterior and love you for you.
what you consider ugly ..could be someone elses beautiful ... and don't say that doesn't exist..ive seen this happen to someone I know
if a girl gives me a chance to show my personality I would love that , but they dismiss me so quick . +dont tell me "become confident " , it doesn't happen just like that . I don't get compliments from people to boost it .
For starters stop making your features look bad..seriously the more you hate your features the worse they look...putting that aside, make friends with the girl and work from there.
As for the one that doesn't give you a second glance; why would you even date such an arrogant person like that.
well if I can't get a girl to smile at me , I don't think I can get female friends . I don't even have a female friend :/ I'm pathetic
If a guy is confident but he is ugly, I won't be attracted to him in anyway. Appearence> confidence. Also I don't like delusional guys, it is better for them to accept who they are than try faking confidence, ths could even look ridculous .
I don't know what you mean when you say that no women will allow you to speak to them- could you clarify? Like, you walk up to a woman and say hello, and she turns tail and runs? Or you say 'Hi" and she, what, she screams "NO MEANS NO" at you?
its happened before . I say hello and she says no
SO- just so I am understanding- what happens is that you are somewhere, say you are in line at the bank, and you turn to the woman behind you and say "hi" and she says "no". Is that what you are saying? Or you're at Starbucks, and you are waiting for your coffee, and you say to the chick who is waiting on HER coffee "You know, I think they put crack in with the beans, because I can't live without my fix." and she says "OH, EW, SHUT UP!"? Is that about the gist of it?
i mean I see her sitting down , I go up and say hello , she looks at me and she says no
ive even heard girls call me "ew "
this might seem like an unrelated question, but where do you live? (It's not unrelated, bear with me.)
canada
hell, maybe they just grow 'em mean in Canada! that's counter to everything I have ever heard about the Sweet Canadians, but if you are serious about the reactions you are getting, that just might be the case! I can't imagine you are really physically grotesque to the point where women can't stand to be in your presence. I just can't fathom that. Finish college and come away from there, son!
but this is supposed to be the prime of my life
Oh, come on, Eeyore- just do your thing and stop being so focused on what you aren't getting. Yeah, I know you said you already have a hobby and you go to the gym and all that. But the vibe I am getting from you is a little petulant, and if you're coming across like that over this medium, I can't imagine the vibes you must be giving off in person. So, go on with that hobby. Immerse yourself. Your life is what you make of it. Do your thing. If you don't have a thing, get one.
because I already told you I'm depressed . Everything is going good in my life . My grades are good , I have no financial problems and I'm healthy . But I'm one the ugliest guys in the world and I'm never going to be accepted by a female is my problem .
I have read everything everyone has said on here, and I have read all of your replies. And it seems to me like you are hell-bent on being Les Miserables. You insist that you are the ugliest person in the world- you are like a dog on a piece of meat with that crap- so since you refuse to allow anyone to even attempt to make you feel better or really give you advice, I will say this: enjoy the rut you are in. You're choosing it every day. I'm out.
what so , if people who don't know what I look like tell me I'm not ugly . I should believe them ? You really don't understand a thing . You expect to throw a few messages at me and I should take them and start being happy ?
I don't have to know exactly what you look like to know you can't possibly SO bad looking that people are so incredibly RUDE to you. Dude, we got ugly people in South Carolina, too, you know- but not so ugly that manners fly out the window. I guess it's possible that you live in a place where bad manners are the norm, but I doubt it. I understand plenty, Sonny. I grasp the fact you are are eyebrow deep in victim-mode. Do YOU understand that? I think not. Maybe you'll grow up and out of this.
grow up ? So just because I'm ugly , its my fault ?
NO, BECAUSE YOUR ATTITUDE SUCKS- are you thick? I have SAID that I DO NOT BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE UGLY. You assured me that you are, but I doubt it. I think you are doing this for attention only- not because you wanted advice or tips or any of that other crap. Everything anyone says is shot down by you! You're just whining. Also, you are 20 years old- you posted that it has been 19 years that you have been getting rejected by women. You have only recently entered puberty! Get OVER yourself.
you haven't seen me yet to say if I'm ugly or not . YOu probably have a boyfriend so you think oh its going to be okay to just give me some cliche advice and expect me to take it in with no resistance and just be happy ? girls hate me . Why should I be happy ?
I can't even believe I'm commenting on this bullsh*t again- *I* must need a hobby. Talking to you is like pissing in the wind. But I'm going to do this sh*t one last time. NO- I don't have a boyfriend. I don't need one. I validate myself. As for cliche advice: even if you look like a methed out Steve Buscemi, your face is nowhere near as ugly as your sorry-ass pity-me attitude. No wonder girls run away from you. You don't want help or advice- you want to piss and moan on a public forum. GROSS.
pity me ? try being called ugly and going to die alone by the opposite gender . Oh wait a 36 middle aged woman with no boyfriend . Guess you're one of the girls who feels entitled to good looking guys and failed . I can see you living with cats in a few years
Dude, blackwaterhattie was trying to give you legit advice and was trying to be sympathetic and you were kinda a d***.
I'm going to venture from the description of you going up to women when they are sitting down that your approach is probably the problem. It doesn't work like in the movies. You have to hit on women while making it look like you aren't hitting on them. It's kinda gamey, yes, but it keeps them from getting scared off.
and how do I do that ?
Yes, confidence can help and make you happy, define "ugly"
ugly facial structure ( don't tell me get a new hairstyle , everything looks ugly on me )
Well, what you think is ugly, others might think its attractive...
still haven't seen one in 20 years
it takes time
why is your confidence based on what girls think of you?... true confidence is deeper than that...
NAGALT: Not All Girls Are Like That; and one is enough. Thus keep trying. But don't come over as desperate.
every guy gets dates. Why can't I ?
If they don't find you attractive it doesn't really matter how confident you are.
do you have a part-time job? It gives a good opportunity to meet girls and they have to talk to you usually to carry out work tasks
as of now no . Full time student . I had a job but women avoided me there as much as they could
when you have a large holiday break (like over summer) just get something like working in a shop or behind a bar. Any job where you have the opportunity to interact with lots of different people has to increase your chances of meeting someone surely?
when I was a student I had a part-time job as a chef which I did every weekend...it was hard work but I had the opportunity to flirt with all the waitresses and have a social drink after each night shift
Yep. It does matter. Guys who are less obsessed with their looks tend to have a better personality which is why you often see the beautiful girls chose a less attractive guy.
Very rarely do beautiful girls choose a less attractive guy. In fact it almost never happens. (excluding extreme's of wealth and status)
You have to find someone that finds you attractive. That's about all you can do.
so noone
I didn't read but I will tell you it is more important.
i guess it does...it doesn't matter if your ugly or pretty is how you feel about yourself that matters...just be yourself someone is always looking for someone,so don't give up live life.
19 years
19 years? Of whAt? If girls treat you bad is because they are dumb. Anyways having a girlfriend or boyfriend is not everything in life. Do whatever you want, travel, hang with friends. And I don't consider myself pretty,but I love myself because I know I am here to live my life and enjoy it no matter what people think of me.
i barely have any friends and I barely see them .
idk honestly, "im very pretty" but no guy likes me because I'm not smart and obsessive they probably all think I'm a whore when I'm not, they probably think you're a player
but still , players get girls
im obsessive*** and they think I'm easy if I approach them*
ive never seen a girl approach a guy :p but if some girl did it to me , I would be more excited than think she's a whore
do you believe in god?
well yes I do
well since you believe in him I recommend you to stay close to him & just forget about women I'm sure god will bless you with someone special it's better to stay close to him and not worry about ladies for now cause either way even if a girl were to give you attention chances are things won't really work out unless she's good, cause now days most people are crappy & just throw love away as if it were garbage, just focus on yourself
no that's called giving up
ot really, it's called getting close to god and waiting for the right person to come along.
the more you try to look and find a girl the harder it will be and it will make you feel more low about yourself so it's best you focus on yourself and try to be happy on your own or else you are going to be stressing your whole life good things come to those who wait
then why does every guy get dates until he meets one . and I don't get a thing
dude how old are you?
almost 20
im 20 too..
it sucks doesn't it . I'm worthless :/
well I thought the same about mysself but god keeps me company so I can care less about males.
A lot of the girls I've been associated with don't care what's on the outside but what's in the inside.
i am opposite
Quit crying and go bang some prostitutes. or are you too ugly even for them?
do I look rich
oh please dude you can't afford $100?
i can but then I can't eat for 2 weeks
you'll live then. do it.
You need to be more confident it will help a lot trust me I would never want to really talk to a guy with no confidence.
give yourself a makeover. I can't think of anything else. so yeah. be strong don't give up there are many ways to be beautiful in this world.
what else can I do ?
i already work harder than many guys to try to look less ugly
nobody wants an ugly guy. itll almost never work for ugly guys. ask out ugly girls and you may have better luvk
read the question
already did. keep asking out ugly girls. or go uglier
im asking everyone now .
asking everyone what? if you're not cute don't expect a cute girl. date ugly girls and one day you'll get lucky
im not going after cute girls . I'm not worth their time . They can get better than me
ok. or don't focus on girls right now
then how will I get a girlfriend?
you don't need one
why don't I need one ? Can you live without any guy liking you ?
yes I can live without a guy liking me. I would love for a couple guys to not like me
ya keep saying that to yourself. You really don't know how hard it is to be ugly
but I can imagine
completely different thing
whatever. I'm done with this pity party.
pity party ? you told me go for ugly girls I said I do
you're not looking for help or advice. you want someone to pout with you.
Define an ugly person what do they look like to you?
Go for ugly girls ya that's really going to help his self-esteem you're basically calling him ugly idiot.
well yea most of the time the inside of the guy is what appeals to you and you think is hot and sexy
a girl will like you for you trust me they will
its been so long though
that kind of sad it never to late try. Just be you and someday a girl will come when I first came to America from Africa I was supper loney too I was supper shy,but later a male friend talked to me he wasn't good looking but he was acting like him self. he's still my best friend actuctlly is my only friend just act like you . I think you are cool <3
well he talked to you . I talk to them and I even joined clubs trying to meet women they hate me
you are just like my brother he's not good to talk to women but woman like him even by my big sister's friend I don't know what they find in him.anyway I think he will give you a good advice.and mybe girls don't like you because they don't know you. first smile at a girl then tell them that hair is pretty then walk away. The first thing girls need is respect be helpful to them
i complimented a girl once and she called me a creep . What should I help them with when they need no help?
wait my big brother could help let me call him
a girl will come
thats called giving up and being less of a man and a loser
Confidence is key to that
No. It really doesn't matter at all. Sorry.
Confidence is for yourself not for others
so women are going to hate me forever and I'm never going to have a girlfriend ?
I like the phrase and that's how you should "see" it but in actuallity, usually its both. It will change you first, then the change in you will change the way women react to you.
it does,big time..no doubt about that
It really doesn't to be honest.
thats a good answer
Yes after a while it should
define UGLY!
ugly facial structure
Come ON man! just because some girls around you told you that you are ugly and won't talk to you doesn't make you ugly, but hey thts what I think
as for your answer confidence cutts down 80% of ugliness or whatever that is! its my experience
ok whatever you say
Anyone who looks like me...
wow I'm good xD
maybe your jus awkward not ugly soYa id say so
so you assume I'm a social failure
You assume that. She just said you might be awkward.
@Cyhhgg thank you!
And only reason I say that is because I'm awkward and pretty but guys don't stick around long. I seem to repell them.
And awkwardness doesn't mean social failure, just means one isn't comfortable. A person is capable of talking normally around close friends and family but with strangers it's a different story
I get it. Had a talk with my sis the other day, she says I have a beautiful personality. I laugh because of two reasons: it's not beautiful and she says this because she feels she has to. She's my sis. Lol
But yeah, I'm handsome and awkward and hardly anyone sticks around. Then again I've been single most of my life and I'm used to it. I never actually get depressed for not having found someone to be happy with. I realize its nearly impossible, so focus on other shit.
Luckily I shine in other areas. :D
As for you, well, if you're pretty and a woman, you already got me beat. All you have to do is wait and someone will take you as you are. Guys are way more leneate towards awkwardness than woman are. Men have to be not perfect, but kinda bordweline perfect. Hell the fact that you're pretty means you have a good chance. Not taking away from your other dimensions, just referencing the ones that help out the most in the initial approach.
post a pic of yourself.
ill send it to you in private
but I need something to send it to
blancabori@yahoo.com
well none of the guys on the picture are ugly, however they look like Geeks...maybe girls think you're a geek that's why they reject you, well apparently us females love bad asses but don't change who you are for anyone I'm sure a good girl would like you, go for geeks...and those 2 girls on the picture are gorgeous...well anyways, do you have female friends that are very close to you? maybe one of them is secretly inlove of you
no female friends . I never had a female friend . I'm the guy in the red jacket . The other guys were just promoting the girls to vote for them
ohh well you're not ugly...
ive been told that "youre not ugly" means you're not hideous but you are very unattractive . Is that what you mean ?
It really won't hurt me if you say yes , I've been told that many times
no it's just you're not ugly, the only thing that makes you seem "unattractive" is the fact that you look like very geeky/nerdy maybe socially awkward lmao but you are not ugly...i've met many good looking people who look and act so nerdy that it becomes unattractive and they seem so desperate to find a girl friend
in other words you are good looking, but seem like an awkward person, but don't stress it I'm the same way except I go for bad ass Hispanic guys
nah its not nerdy . + I was doing this face for the camera
then idk
something tells me it does
Overtime the looks fade away
Better than not having confidence.
its hard work and to not get anything out of it just pointless
Nope