Your Mental Health Comes First

[Anonymous]

I've always been a very "chill" person. I go with the flow of things and I try to conform to fit other people's needs. I try to help anyone that I possibly can, and everyone knows that if they need something they can always come to me. You can talk to me about suicidal thoughts/tendencies, abusive families, friends, or relationships, eating disorders, depression, drug abuse, etc and I'll talk to you and try to encourage you to seek help. However, I will not put up with being manipulated, and neither should anyone else.

I have that one friend who takes everything to the extreme. He will date a girl for several days, dump her, and then use it as a pity story to get with the next girl. He attempted to do this little trick on me and I rejected him. This is when he began telling me about his "suicidal thoughts". He would constantly bring up how he smoked and when I mentioned my dislike for it he would say," Well the sooner I die the better." He would then go on to try and get things from me. This is pure bullshit. No one should have to deal with this, and I sure as hell wasn't going to.I told him that he harmed my own mental health and that if he didn't seek the help he needed or stop talking like he did then I would have to cut our friendship short. He got angry with me, threatened death again, so I blocked him. Here we are 2 years later and this boy is still fully alive.

Suicide can be a dangerous game. You never truly know if someone is lying or not about their suicidal thoughts or actions. You should tip toe very carefully around this subject, but remember that your own mental health comes first. You are not a health professional and you shouldn't take on the burdens of people who refuse to seek help. If you hear of someone talking about suicide, talk to them and after hearing their side of the story you need to take it to an authority that the two of you both trust. This is your only duty in the situation, you talk, you listen, and you encourage the person to seek help. You do NOT need to bend to the will of this person.

[Spiorad_Aisce]

Yes he definitely sounded like a manipulator and an attention seeker - My belief is that it is the ones that don't talk about it and who seem to be suffering in silence are the ones we should particularly watch out for - That said as you say a lot of people talk about it (unfortunately the people who are crying wolf are blurring the lines of the genuine cases), it is harsh but sometimes you have to make a judgement call and say I have only so much to give - Like you I am all for opening up about your problems but be extra careful, don't make threats just for attention and cause us to take our eyes of the ball of the others who may actually follow through on self destructive thought processes. It actually annoys me, you see here when the issue of suicide posts being removed here, I would say one of the main reasons is to stop attention seekers and hoaxers flooding the feed. People in genuine trouble are being denied an outlet.

[lolatyou]

Nice advice.

You're a smart girl, especially at your age. A lot of women who are fully into adulthood can't even see through that.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you, I appreciate that

[Conrad_Kelsiven]

You know, I didn't look at this take yesterday because I thought it was something different than it was. Glad I glanced back.

This is excellent advice, especially for people who haven't been around that kind of mentality before.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks for coming back to read through then! :)

[Spirit_Is_Free]

I agree with an awful lot of what you say - I agree try to help as much as you can but not at your own expense - My own feelings is take it case by case and decide on the best course of action for you to pursue in each individual situation - As you have pointed out there are so many variables in the world of mental health, at the risk of repeating myself I just analyse each occasion as it arises.

[FilthyPervert]

When you're self harming you can tell others, when you're a full blown psychopath your mental illness is something you have to be scared shit to tell others.

[YourFutureEx]

This was a very good advice :)

[myTake Owner]

Thanks!