Who Would I Be Without this Shadow? (Page 2)

[lernulo]

Start with basics:
Hot water is a good and easy one
(if you don't believe me, try to get a shower just with cold water).

About someone who defeated depression yes, I have known, it's very normal.

If you are with a professional I prefer not saying how, so as he can work better, but I will say you are not the only one, and I know people who have done it.

[bulletbob555]

I'm always trying. I do t think I have a clinical case though. I try to tell myself that was then and this is now. It hurt me once don't want it to hurt me anymore.
I also try to do my best to not have regret. I gave it all I could so therefore it was out of my control. I only feel regret when I feel I didn't do everything I could.
I hope you can beat it or at least learn to live with it.. You seem to be a nice person with a deep understanding or outlook on life.

[Valnac]

That’s nothing to ignore, get help if the school won’t, get it outside.
I was depressed after losing my job, I went to my doctor and got on some meds.
They worked, so I stopped taking it. After some time, I couldn’t see a benefit wether I lived or died.
I got scared and went back to the doctor. She put me on three meds just to get me normal.
Please, if you do go to a doctor, do exactly as they say.

[mywildadventure]

Yes, I work with a lot of people and have seen many overcome depression. You can do this!!! It does take work and is emotionally draining, so what you are feeling is normal. Make the best use of time with your therapist.
I try to look both outward and inward when I look at myself. I’m average but content with my looks. I love people and I like that about myself. How about you?

[Anonymous]

I use to be very depressed. I would let my anger/sadness out on others unknowingly, I wouldn’t care about my wellbeing, I just didn’t care. I would cry and cry about how I’m alive, how im feeling and how I just didn’t think these feelings would ever go away. I was hopeless. I came to realization I was hurting the ones around me, People cared for me and I didn’t realize that. Slowly and Slowly i came out of the sadness that held me down for so long and I’m doing much better. 😊

[PrincessGrail]

I suffer from anxiety and depression. I’m smart, I’m pretty and I’m empathetic.

[myTake Owner]

You are! I can see those things from you.

[ManOnFire]

I think this is a good post, and I've been through very depressed times before. It can be very crippling and be a cloud over your head.

I do want to say - and this is not your fault but the admins - that I find it unfair that you posted a poem here and your Take got featured, but none of my poem Takes ever get featured or even promoted @GirlsAskGuys.

[GirlsAskGuys]

It is not just a poem but it is a myTake about depression enriched by a poem.

[JohnAlaska43]

To beat depression you need to find your happiness.
Easier said then done.
It can happen but at the same time you have to let go of the past.

pm me I know a lot about depression maybe I can help.

[ultimega]

Lovely my take.
Mental health and your wellbeing is just as important as your physical health.
And of course you deserve to be happy ~
One thing that used to help me a lot was just writing my feelings down in a journal as an outlet..

[Anonymous]

I’m going g to therapy for some stuff

It’s been hard at times. I’m very self destru

[Opinion Owner]

... destructive

I’ve written several letters to different people that I have affected and one to a person that nearly ruined my life.

I walk away with a new task every week or some new reflection and it has helped me grow a little in my life for sure and maybe be a little more forgiving of myself and others. I’ve been going nearly weekly for almost a year. In that time I’ve had two significant improvements that have helped me but I’m not freed just yet. I don’t know that I ever will be but I’m hopeful I’ll get enough that I can pick up and fight another day for every day as long as I live.

I have never cried so much in my life as I have since I’ve gone to therapy. It’s taxing and painful at times , rewarding and refreshing at others.

[myTake Owner]

Thank you for sharing this. Did it help you to write the letters? Did you send them? Or is it more about just letting it all out?

[Opinion Owner]

I still haven’t really dealt with the core issues but I’m getting there.

Been working on relationship skills. Have learned a few little things that I feel like are helpful to me. You write down a thing every day about yourself. Well, I say three things every day to my SO, things I appreciate about him. Have done some emdr for trauma, willl be getting back to it shortly. Had some difficulties the first few times, so they backed off and tried some other stuff for a bit. It’s likely I’ve get 18 months or a year remaining

[Opinion Owner]

Funny I’ve seen your posts around , we’ve exchanged opinions on some things would never have pinned you with depression.

[Opinion Owner]

I gave one letter to my parents. I had some bad moments with it tbh. Got way off track and did some stuff that was not good. I shared a lot of things with them that I never thought I’d tell them. It’s been a learning experience and I’m glad I was able to do it. They’re getting old and although we got along fine I think it helped to explain why some things happened the way they did. Relieved my guilt, put them at ease. I’ve git a few more I’m sitting on One I’ll likely share and another I’ll likely not I don't know yet. It touches on the main reasons I’m in this spot so it’s a hard one with lots of anger and quite frankly hatred.

[Opinion Owner]

Point is... I’ve come to a spot where I don’t think I’ll ever be unburdened completely. And it’s oddly relieving to be ok with it. Cuz I’m pretty damn sure I’ll get what I need. You can’t akways get what you want, but if ya try sometimes you get what you need. And I’m good with that.

[myTake Owner]

That's what my counselor says-- one good thing a day.
She says I may have had a childhood trauma. I had a lot of relationship instability in my childhood/youth. Struggled with eating disorders since 14. Had major trauma in my early 20s and never saught help. When my mom was dying, she asked me to figure out why I hated myself so much and to be happy. After she died, I sunk into a deeper depression. I joke and put it off to people in my personal life that I'm just a "hot mess" but my self hatred runs deep. I recently found the man that I'm meant to be with but I don't want to mess this up or mess him up because of how I am. Plus my daughter is only getting older (8) and I don't ever want her to feel this way about herself. So now, I have to work on this.

I'm not sure who you are (lol) but I found gag because I needed help. So this is my outlet and also my reaching out.

[myTake Owner]

How do you know how much time you have remaining? I keep asking my counselor if I have "exited the program" yet. Lol

Thank you for reaching out.

[Opinion Owner]

The entire reason I went to therapy was to not mess things up with my so because of how I am ... I can really identify with that. I love the guy to death yet I can be self destructive and for me this is primarily about keeping me from destroying a really good relationship with him. I tried once and failed fortunately and I’m trying to keep from doing that again.

And now I remember, we talked about your daughter putting a smack down on one of her classmates I think.

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t really know. I’ve just done some research had some discussions about what they want to do. I’ve slready tried a few things that didn’t work out for me, like group etc etc I’m estimating really

Me, I just got involved in an abusive relationship years ago and I did a lot of stupid Shit cuz I didn’t know how to deal with it and caused myself more problems

[Opinion Owner]

I actually came to gag a couple years ago. To figure out how to get my SO back after I broke up with him. The community here was actually zero help in that lmao. Like if I’d followed their advice here I’d probably be dead in a gutter in Mexico somewhere lol.

I come n go here. You apparently popped in during one of my absences cuz I don’t really recall you being around before but I could be wrong.

[Opinion Owner]

If you ever wanna blow off steam or seek a little help or exchange thoughts you can always message me...

[myTake Owner]

I sure will but I'm still not sure who you are so youd have to message me first. 😊

[Opinion Owner]

Oh shit I forgot lol, I followed you this morning but can’t message you

[myTake Owner]

Does your username start with an I?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes... sorry for the hassle

[HOAAH]

Be ok with who you are, know you are still learning how to love and growing.
Be thankful.
Read self help books, focus on a few mantras.

[Kayla45]

I beat depression in my teenage years by seeing a psychiatrist and being prescribed medication to help me deal with it, in addition to my autism.

[TheGentlemanlyBeast]

I mean, I'm at a point in my depression where I've accepted that its a part of my life and its just gonna be there as a part of who I am. I've been depressed for close to 6 years now.

[TonyMetal_86]

The most lethal cure for depression is true love, when you have a man who truly loves you and takes good care of you, you will feel that your heart is smiling from inside and that your depression is transforming into happiness, marriage, becoming a housewife and creating a happy family will eliminate all the negative feelings... trust me 😊

[CharlieDuos]

It's hard to see your way out of depression when you are in it, but it is possible. Listened to a good book recently : anxiety relief by John Crawford.

[monkeynutts]

Every one has bad days, weeks months and sometimes years.

[biffthewonderdog]

A day in the life of a single man without ties to anyone but he's veracious appetite. Lol

[Dav1ss]

I feel the same right now there aren't any positive things about me great mytake

[Secret6620]

Congrats girl 🎉🎉🎉

[myTake Owner]

What did I do? Maybe you read something positive!

[Secret6620]

For your fight against depression. ♥️💜💙

[myTake Owner]

You know, I didn't really consider that as a positive thing, but it is in itself.

Thank you ❤❤❤

[MoneyBeets]

Depression is Satan.

Forgive your parents for how they raised you, so Jesus can be your father.