Don't lose weight/ Don't gain weight!

[Anonymous]

To everyone one whose goal is to lose or gain weight, you are adopting the wrong approach, because your genetic make up, metabolism and skeleton frame have lead you to your current shape.. Yes if you forcefully change your life style your body will change as well but will you still be the healthiest version of yourself, will you be feeling the best you can feel about yourself? If you're not doing it the right and healthy way, I highly doubt that.

You see I always tell people who wanna lose weight to not make it a goal to lose weight, make it a goal to be healthy; eat right, stop abusing your body with sugar and junk, exercise regularly (the type of exercise that suits your body best), if you have physical injuries start physical therapy, and so on, but don't make it a goal to lose weight and forget everything else cuz it's forceful and it might end up leaving you miserable because it gets really difficult to force yourself to do something your physical build doesn't accept.

Losing or gaining weight shouldn't be a goal, it should be a consequent to the main goal which is to live with the healthiest life style you can have.

Curvy girls are sexy, slender girls are beautiful and every figure has it's type of appeal and every individual has their preference, forcing ourselves to be something we are naturally not messes things up unless we do it the right way.

Generally every body should be the healthiest they can be cuz that's the way they can be the most attractive they can be and it's the way they feel best about themselves.

Finally there's an example of two beautiful public figures that are of very different body types.

Charli D'Amelio and Addison Rae. I believe they're both living super healthy lifestyles. And that's mostly what lead them to the type of attractive physics they have. They're very different, one is considerably curvy and the other is slender but they're both fit and I'm sure if they missed up their life style Addison would gain much weight and Charli would get even skinnier.. I know they both look pretty perfect but that's where living healthy gets you, although yes the genes play a huge part but you cut added sugar completely, reduce gluten to a minimum and exercise regularly for a year or two and tell me you haven't become an absolute beauty compared to your previous self, it's not possible.

Addison Rae

Charli D'Amelio

Together lol

[MCheetah]

"You see I always tell people who wanna lose weight to not make it a goal to lose weight, make it a goal to be healthy; eat right, stop abusing your body with sugar and junk, exercise regularly (the type of exercise that suits your body best)"

I see where you're coming form, but I disagree. I have hypothyroidism and my entire adult life i have tried to lose weight, and failed at it. I HATE being 300 lbs. I don't even eat too unhealthily and I ride my bicycle 4 miles everyday (2 to work, and 2 to get home) and I am already somewhat active. I go to the gym and do cardio a total of five hours a week. For a guy of my weight, I'm VERY active, in fact. But I still hate the way I look, and it DOES NOT align with how I live my life. I should only weigh, like 230-240 with how I eat and how active I am. But I'm not.

And to be totally honest, I'd rather look better than to "live healthy." That's hollow and cheap; "living healthy" doesn't make me feel as good as "looking sexy." I'd rather take the latter, thanks. But I see where you're coming from.

[myTake Owner]

What you're doing is great but, there's always room for improvement.. You can try fasting, you can try other things to get even healthier, more energetic more powerful less heavy and more attractive.
You don't know what will happen if you cut corners just to lose weight, it might not be as you imagine.. If you do it the right way you will be better in every way that's a fact, which is all am saying, always remind yourself that.
I really appreciate your comment tho and I wish you the best of luck to achieve what you're looking for, and I believe it will happen so long as you're always improving.

[virtue2332]

You have to be healthy you have to do things the right way or its going to be short lived. Me I was a little guy until I got out of the service and went from 140 up to 250. Adapting to civilian life was not easy. I was put on oxygen eventually. I had no energy to work out. When I did I didn't lose weight. I was miserable so I had some lab work done and realized I was also now diabetic. My levels where way out of whack. Insulin levels are what tells the body to store fat or burn it as well as many other functions. I had to monitor my levels and know when my body was at its best and capable of burning fat. Im down to 175 don't have to watch my sugar and everything is getting easier. They don't even consider me diabetic anymore. Lessons learned is you have to first understand everything your body needs to function optimally. Find out where you are and create a plan with realistic goals that you can accomplish. For me if I did it the wrong way it would have killed me. The way it worked before with eat less work out more was not necessarily the way to go. Now I had to check my sugar because working out affects ir. I also had to check the keytones in my urine because I could push myself into Ketoacidosis which is life threatening. This happens when sugar is depleted and the body breaks down fat producing ketones which is what we kind of want to happen right? Not if your sugar is too low. Too much ketones flooding the body could start a chain reaction causing me to lose more than just weight. Since I wanted to stay conscious I had to adapt. Our bodies are different but they all need the same basic things to function optimally. If you do it the right way you will feel better. You just have to find out slowing down the process and if possible fix it.

[Ascarymanasks]

The whole point of eating healthy and what not is too live a healthy lifestyle. My dad (a personal trainer and physical therapist ) says that diets are the worst way to lose weight as they are SHORT TERM diets are usually used to go into a hypo caloric state for a short period of time to lose weight. But the problem with that is many people will lose muscle mass, gain the weight back, or just even live unhealthy, the main point of a healthy lifestyle is to eat healthier and treat yourself better. So counting calories is usually a short term plan. (A calorie is the measurement of the amount of temperature raised per kilogram of water) (hypo means less while hyper means more. For example hypothermia means less body temperature, so hypo caloric means less calories). The long term plan is where you eat healthier by eating less refined sugar, fake sugar, honey, fruit juices, maple syrup etc. limiting overly processed foods. Eating enough and keeping healthy by exercising. Many people think that losing fat and going into a hypo caloric state is very difficult and you will starve but when you live a healthy lifestyle you can literally be in a hypo caloric state for extended periods of time where it is manageable and long term. So what I’m saying is many people have the misconception on health, diets foods, etc and that long term plans are always better than your 3 month short term one.

[Xylem1992]

I bid you hello my good sir and a complete and utter disagreement:
"because your genetic make up, metabolism and skeleton frame have lead you to your current shape"
Incorrect! Genetics is the just the framework, your activity level and diet are what make up your current shape within that framework. Changing those isn't slaying a Kraken. It's actually very easy once you force yourself for just a week. Which you seem to completely disregard. Also the limitations your genetics enforce are pretty loose and generous.

At my height of 5 10, I can be 120 pounds or 200 pounds. I was 120 and I was healthy but I didn't like the look. Now I'm 160 and I'm a lot happier. I'll be even happier if I'm like 180.

Different body shapes are attractive for different people. But If you you're slender, and want to be curvy, you shouldn't go "Oh slender girls are attractive too". That's an excuse. you should go after what you want. And its not illogical or unreachable goal.

[hannahjo022]

I've always tried to eat healthier since I was a teenager and still do. I eat healthy because my body needs the good vitamins and minerals it needs to function properly. I exercise because it clears my mind, helps reduce stress, and I personally enjoy it. I do weight training because I want to be stronger since I'm so weak and its great for your overall health. I don't try to lose weight or gain weight. I will gain weight here and there when I have cheat days but I lose that weight fast. Plus exercising helps slow the aging process so thats a plus as you get older ;) People get shocked when I tell them how old I actually am and most people think I am 25 when I am 30! Plus having good genes too

[myTake Owner]

Hahaha are you trying to get someone to ask you out or something? xD

[hannahjo022]

Um no?

[lolman95]

Good take, not so good writing. You want to say "don't go for beauty, go for health". But it kinda reads as " Weight loss/gain ain't shit and should not be goals" Which is kinda missing the point of goals. People make goals for the sake of achieving/fulfilling a purpose. People don't lose weight for the sake of losing weight. People lose weight to look good, become healthy, due to sport etc. Saying that should be a byproduct strips you off any indication of progress and motivation and you'll end up losing direction. If this philosophy works for you, great! But advising people to downgrade goals to by products is a terrible idea for the majority, though some people could use that.

[myTake Owner]

I think it's shallow to want attractiveness over health, I believe the by product should be attractiveness and the goal should be health. Attractiveness is shallow being healthy, flexible and strong is what's important. The goal is to live as healthy as you can to live as long as you can to do as much good as you can in this world. If your goal is just losing weight or gaining weight to look pretty then I believe you have a lesser chance of succeeding to achieve it, cuz you're aiming shallow and low.

Same concept with getting rich it shouldn't be a goal, it should be a by product to something bigger. But whatever works for everybody you know, that's just my insight

[lolman95]

I got that. The thing is it's not well expressed in the take. This reply you wrote is written much better and clearer than the take. Hope to see more takes from you though.

[myTake Owner]

I'm @Aassem I have over 30 takes here

[lolman95]

Cool! Why anon now?

[myTake Owner]

Wanted to just test the audience but then I found out it was featured and I by the admin of GAG and I couldn't Deanon it

[lolman95]

Oh ok cool

[TremorJay]

It's a good take, but I think people need concrete objectives. On the surface "Be healthy" is a lot more complex than "lose 10lbs"

How do you track progress? Taking pictures?

[myTake Owner]

Based on how I feel, my energy level through out the day.. If I'm feeling naturally (without caffeine) good and energetic through the day without ups and downs, then I'm at the top of my game 👌

[TremorJay]

Hmm, naturally energetic. Yeah I would definitely like to feel more like that

[myTake Owner]

Go sugar free and caffeine free.. It will be difficult for a few days and then your body will adapt and you will know what I'm talking about..

[myTake Owner]

Also reduce gluten to minimum.. I mean reduce it to 30% or lower..

[TremorJay]

Thank you for the advice. I'll see what I can do

[bamesjond0069]

I mean this is good advice but its not really helpful advice to most people. There is tons of confusion about what is healthy diet and exercise.

You literally have 300 lb people who say i took 1000 steps today and am vegan so im just built this way because im already super healthy. Thats not exercise and veganism has almost no relation to healthy eating.

So i think for many people getting a reality check by counting calories is helpful. I also think lifting weights is a must for any and all body types, it cannot be avoided for optimal health. Neither can some real cardio. If you dont sweat or run out of breath it doesn't really count. So to simply say you must lift some weights, you must run till you sweat, you must eat this range of calories... is going to have a bigger change than just telling someone to "be healthy" and expect them to actually do it right.

A quick dirty rule is more useful than a 10,000 page book with every detail.

[The_Maphio]

I never read so much bullshit in one single post in about... 10 minutes, on these here boards.
Metabolism can be influenced into changing. Genetics has nothing to do with fat accrueing but only in basic body shape. If you have large shoulders you can't do anything about that, but if you grew a belly because you eat, drink or do both too much you can indeed put a patch on it. You can work on your body as you please, and even if some people by genetics won't grow muscles as much as another who was luckier, your strength would still increase. And your metabolism would increase in efficiency, as well.
Excessively skinny people can put some meat behind the bones if they eat more, fat people can and should slim down for the very word "overweight" includes a veiled negative meaning to the word, not in terms of looks but health.
You can change your body and its efficiency no matter what your starting point is, don't listen to this guy.

[myTake Owner]

You're wrong buddy..
First off, I didn't say that you can't influence anything, you obviously didn't read the whole post, cuz if you did you would know that I said your body will change physically based on your life style, which is inevitable.
Secondly, the metabolism is different for every person and it's based on their genes, naturally some people tend to get fatter than others with the same type of food they eat, they're not naturally as energetic to be active.. And that can change too, but with a proper dieting plan, sleeping plan and exercising plan.

Why come to contradict with this negative attitude man, I mean I didn't claim that I'm a doctor, but I have seen people doing diets purely to lose weight and they end up losing it quickly and then gaining it back and more.. and that's because they didn't approach their weight loss the right way.. Obviously they have discipline because they managed to lose it over 3 months or so, but it didn't work still because it wasn't the right discipline..

[yucychan]

I agree. I think the main goal is to be healthy. Eat healthy, have a positive mindset, be happy, etc.

[Juicyred921]

But guys don’t find “healthy” girls attractive. They find thin girls attractive. I’ve lost over 75 lbs and still it’s not enough. I’m still not thin enough to be considered attractive.

[myTake Owner]

Not all guys, mostly unhealthy unaccomplished guys.. good guys want healthy confident women.

[Juicyred921]

Good guys want beautiful women

[myTake Owner]

Beautiful women are neither hot women not skinny women, and there are not thick women either.. although they could be any of these things, but what they are for sure is healthy women mentally and physically.. anyways you live your life however you want don't listen to me, but if you keep trying to change yourself to get a certain type of guys approvals you will never be or feel enough.. always be the best version of yourself not of anybody else..

[karaspara]

So a skinny person shouldn't do weights and a fat person shouldn't run? I have probably completely missed the point

[myTake Owner]

No they should cuz being physically fit is part of being healthy and I mentioned exercise a lot in my take as it's very important to health, thus attractiveness.

[es20490446e]

Just realize that healthy food taste equal, if not better, than junk food.

[Grubhub]

The crazy thing with me is I’m 6”4 and the doctor told me I weight like 278. I don’t look it at all. I’m in the best shape of my like. I’m not even too bulky either, I’m not on any performance enhancing drugs or anything

[RingOfFire]

Problem is that for the vast majority of Americans, being healthy MEANS losing weight.

[myTake Owner]

There's a disaster called the standard American diet, once that's handled losing weight would be no problem for most

[RingOfFire]

I don't think so. It's not only what you eat, but the quantity you eat. If you swallow more calories than you expend you gain weight. And Americans are so successful and prosperous that they can indulge in constant eating.

[RingOfFire]

And don't need to break a sweat.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

I still want to gain weight. It would make me look better.

[myTake Owner]

Your skin would stretch, cuz it's not your nature, you probably will end up looking less attractive, you can't know what will happen. Build muscle if you wanna gain weight by a healthy high protein diet and weight lifting and most importantly good sleep, you will gain healthy weight then.

[sixtyeightplusone]

i've never seen a woman who would look better by gaining weight, never

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

I've already put on some weight over the years, it has made me look much better.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

@sixtyeightplusone So you've never seen those stick thin girls, who are literally underweight? They look better when they gain weight. I was one of those girls.

[myTake Owner]

Good for you Tiara and you are right, what I said was about gaining too much weight over the years..
But you seem to know what you're doing so congratulations

[sixtyeightplusone]

Stick thin girls - my favorite

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

@sixtyeightplusone Being sickly and underweight may be your preference, but it sure as hell is not mine.

[sixtyeightplusone]

fine, be a fat ass

[Diaforos22]

@sixtyeightplusone what's your body type preference? Do you like boobs bigger or smaller? What about hips/butt? Smaller or rounder/plump

[Diaforos22]

@sixtyeightplusone oh I just noticed the rest of your comments. I've never met a guy except one who had a preference for skinny. Most tend to think that a a good waist to hip ratio (birthing hips) with a handful to grab in the chest and rear is optimal and some prefer chubbier girls too. Rare to see a guy like a flat ass- can I marry you?

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

@sixtyeightplusone Nah I'm trying to be a normal weight and curvy. Or maybe you think I'm trying to be your version of "fat". Yeah anything that isn't an emaciated skeleton. Byeeee.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

@Diaforos22 You want to marry a guy who thinks any girl who isn't underweight is a fatass?

[Diaforos22]

No I was exaggerating honestly. I'm not underweight and never have been. But I wish I found someone who didn't think it was gross like he does- not the part where he thinks everyone is normal weight is fat

[myTake Owner]

@Diaforos22 if you're petit you're attractive to most guys

[Diaforos22]

Well then, that's news to me. Most guys I know , both IRL and online have a preference for thick girls. And when I say thick I don't mean fat, but the hourglass shape body type. And it's been actually proven with science too that a waist that is 9 inches smaller than hips is ideal. I have the slim/petite down, but everything is small so I'm like a rectangle shape 😩😩

[myTake Owner]

@Diaforos22
Yeah I know what thick means, but really I have seen polls here that proved that more guys are into slimmer smaller physics like it's 60% to 40%

[Diaforos22]

I mean there must be a reason why there's a golden waist to hip ratio for females. all my previous partners liked me in spite of my figure, usually preferring petite woman with some boobs/hips. And well, after spending a lot of time on here, I'm not so sure I'd base any poll on here as significant. That is cool though! But I find that I tend to get much more insight and feedback on other platforms. Seems a lot of people here write ops without experience.. or just to troll. Don't even really read any detail to your questions. I regularly have to tell people, hey you clearly didn't read this part of my question and they get rude 🤣🤣🤣

[myTake Owner]

@Diaforos22 Well I assure you I read everything you wrote.. I wanna remind you that sizes are different for guys too, there are small figured guys and thick hunky guys, and some girls prefer skinny over beefy guys and vise versa, it's just a matter of preference after all.. in any case really the best thing we can do for ourselves is to be the healthiest we can be.

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

@Mytake Owner I’ve seen a lot of polls on here that preferred a slim thick body type over a skinny one. I remember being very thin and I was picked on by guys for not having curves, now that I do have curves I get treated better

[TiaraGlitzNeon]

@Diaforos22 Yeah I understand that. I’ve always been called disgusting and unattractive for being skinny and flat in the past

[123lucy]

@sixtyeightplusone You know being underweight is a thing?

[123lucy]

@sixtyeightplusone A fat ass? If someone is *underweight* and they gain some weight so that they are a healthier weight, they're not a fat ass you moron.

[_no_one_]

*goes to gym* to stay in shape cuz its therapeutic for me and i like it. It benefits me both mentally and physically so why shouldn't i?

[kevyhanma]

What are you a doctor?
wheres your degree?
...#🧢

[NightHawk99]

You can't satisfy everyone.

Solution: Satisfy yourself. Everyone else is irrelevant.

[captain_voidwalker]

Thats bull shit. there's a well know connection between bieng over weight and a multitude of health complications such as heart disease and diabetes.

[Birdlegs]

He’s not saying be over weight he’s saying be healthy. Losing weight to this guy isn’t the goal although it will be a by product of leading a healthier lifestyle.

[MrReliable12]

“I always tell people” 😂😂😂 what makes you think you’re qualified to give advice to so many people

[Hxxxxmx]

Being actually happy should be the goal.

[Syrian_survivor]

You can't be happy without being healthy unless you have an illness you have no control over