Would you women be offended if we asked you to lose weight?

[cardioman6519]

Now, let's say your slim and trim. Over the years you put some weight on or even sooner. To me, I don't care about a little weight gain, but I see it that the woman doesn't care about herself anymore, She was not the same person whom I met. I mean, let's say she took care of herself and years go on or months and she doesn't seem to care anymore and she gains weight. Second, it becomes a health issue. Is it wrong for a guy to think this way? Is there a max weight that you say to yourself, "yes, now is too much and not acceptable. I need to lose weight!" I know we need to love you the way you are, but what happens if you gain 100 pounds, yet it is in your control to lose it?

[Miss_A]

To be honest I would say I think, but I would do it subtly. I would suggest maybe both of you going to a gym and satin that "we should eat more healthy I want to cut down" because if you both do it together she will not feel like you are telling her that she is fat and needs to loose weight, you are saying you want to be different and healthier and you think it would be fun and a team effort if you did it together :) If you do something, she will feel she should as well. Well that's what I would do. Just remember(if you take my advice)

1) Do not make her feel like you are telling her she's fat, suggest it as if you are talking about yourself Eg, " I think we should join a gym I wanna tone up, would be fun do to it together" Even make it a competition to see how many calories you can burn in one session!

2) You have to do it as well (if you do this my way) you know, also eat healthy and buy healthy food she will if you are.

3) Do this subtly and not like you are telling her to do it. And do it together, she will need help, someone to push her and also you will get benefits :)

I duno if you want to try it this way.. but I think its the lemroe sensitive way. :) Hope I helped :):)

[loveLIFEgiveLOVE]

I think that it depends on the way that you come about saying it. Weight is a VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY sensitive topic when it comes to women, so you have to make sure that you approach her the right way about it. Don't be too blunt and even, don't be too honest. It may make her feel better if...and this may seem like torture to you...but if you decide to put yourself on this kind of semi-diet...only getting foods low in sugars and fats and stuff...pretty soon, SHE may catch on and want to eat the same foods that YOU are eating and it may help her with the weight loss. Also, try making it a "date" by going to a gym once in a while. Maybe every weekend or whenever you guys are available, go there. Hey, even walking around the neighborhood/block can help and plus it'll be a great chance and opportunity for you guys to be together. Try to make a positive ways to go about telling her that she needs to loose a bit of weight, but go about it without telling her...if that makes any sense at all, lol. Be subliminal about it...but show that you CARE for her and her health.

[regular-guy]

Just be careful about how you go about delivering the message. The direct route is not always the most effective.

[Shlei3]

I wouldn't be offended because most likely, if I let my weight get that out of hand I'd be thinking the same thing. So no, now if your delivery was, "Damn girl you are fat. Lose some weight cause it's really unattractive and unhealthy" I would want to kill you.

[Anonymous]

It depends. If I gained like 10-15 pounds I would be really offended and probably dump him but a serious amount of weight yeah I don't think its wrong for a guy to want you to lose it. Maybe there is something going on with her internally. I'm sure she realizes that she is not the same size that she once was, she probably knows she got fat and feels really bad about it so if you do tell her do it in a nice way.

[yasie_xoxo17]

some women may take offense to it. it just depends on how you approach her. don't just come out and say, "baby, I love you, but you need to lose weight" (not saying you would tho). maybe try changing your lifestyle (if you need to that is) into a healthy one and chances could be that she'll get into it too.