How can I make my best friend lose weight?

[Anonymous]

First things first. She's big, but not insanely big. She's about 5'4 or 5'5 and she told me she is 225 lb. She doesn't look very big. Definitely "fat" with her stomach and love handles, but her legs are slimmer. She doesn't eat horribly either which is the weird thing. She's vegetarian and loves fruits, vegetables, whole grains, etc. She hates exercise though, so this is the only reason I could think of to explain her weight. I don't know about her medical records.

I really want her to stop being fat. She has a hard time with being comfortable with dating and guys because of her weight. And honestly, she's so damn beautiful. She has this exotic, really pretty look going on. I know some guys are still attracted to her, but even when they show signs of interest she becomes self conscious. I just know that if she lost some damn weight, she would be KILLING it. Literally. She's very intelligent and has that whole logical mind thing happening. She's funny and witty. She likes to travel and learn languages and do different things around the city. She's passionate about politics and activism. She's very pretty, nice skin and hair. She wears really cute clothes. The only big problem I see is her weight.

So how can I pressure her in the right direction? I don't even workout much myself really, so I'm not sure I could lead by example. Any advice?

[GrowStrong]

its something only she can do to be honest, its a self motivated decision to lose weight. things that encouraged me to lose weight was potential things i could do if i was slimmer. like going to the beach shirtless, wearing clothes i liked.

maybe you suggested going to the gym with her, doing it together you both might find it quite fun, its worth a shot. get a few day passes and see if you both take a liking to it

[Roarke]

It's not your right to pressure or lecture her, but you can help by educating her. Google anything to do with insulin and eating...'insulin resistance' 'blood sugar levels' 'glucose spikes' 'carbohydrate control' this is not to promote any diet, but to give her the foundation to teach herself.

[fitness_princess23]

Well maybe have one of your other friends go for a run with her or go to a soul cycle class with her etc. and when your with her just make sure you guys eat healthy and watch your calorie intake… But I also think your friends weight is her concern and if she wants to loose weight she should… However, I do think you are very kind to look out for your friends the way you are.

[yaddayaddayadda02]

You can't make people do things they don't want to do. Your best course of action is this. Say to her "I really want to get fit, eat better and exercise. I need a buddy, would you be interested in doing it with me and keeping me motivated?"

[Kshppatel]

You can't make her do it, she has to come to that decision on her own or else she will keep quitting and not go through with it until the end.