Everybody is telling me to think positive because my friend juat told me he might have cancer?

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My guyfriend told me he might have cancer. I thought I was going to pass out and I started to cry. Because im in love with this guy, even though I rejected him in the past. He was crazy in love with me. I feel bad. Like I dont know what I would do if I lost him. So now im going to check on him more and basically be there for him. I was thinking about creating a healthy diet for him. But im praying that he is ok. My question is, was this the right time for him to tell me before he got the results, because I have to wait days for the results, and im stressed and I been crying all day and I can't sleep. Am I going crazy, if I dont know if he got it or not?

sirspauldo · Accepted Answer

I'm a cancer survivor, had brain cancer at age 14, I am 21 now, 6 years in remission, so I've been there. You think you're stressed? Imagine how he feels, imagine the burden it is to have that immensley stressful information stuck in your head, that you MIGHT have cancer. You must be very close to him for him to open up to you about a stressful situation like that, that he is unsure of, sometimes its hard for somebody to hold a burden by themselves, they need close friends and family to help them carry it.

The unknown can be very scary, the thought that he may have it is terrifying, either way, even if they find cancer cells, he is young and therefore most likely has a very strong immune system, chances are he will be fine if they find something, so do not worry about that he'll make it through it. The hardest part about cancer is not physical at all, its the emotional emotional and psychological parts that are troublesome.

Its great he has such a good friend like you, stick with him throughout the whole process, an emotional support group of friends and family is key and extremely helpful. Simply just be there for him, be someone he can vent to, someone he can cry with, someone he can play board games with, just simple things, yet some of the most important things if he does have cancer. At the same time he may not, either way it will be a learning situation for everyone, stay optimistic, even though it is easier said than done, and most importantly turn to God, you may end up hating God for allowing this to happen, but trust me, he is the core way of understanding this situation and where things may go, he will teach you the meaning of life and you will learn that there is a much bigger battle going on than just the medical issue at hand.

I'm praying that its just a fluke, but where ever life take you guys, turn to God,, whether you are a believer or not, all you have to do is simply open your heart.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Accepted Answer

You are borrowing trouble. 1) You don't have an accurate diagnosis 2) you don't know the survivability of what kind of cancer he has. Cancer is scary, but not always a death sentence.

kangy · Accepted Answer

I think u need to calm first. It might not b negative outcome

Anonymous · Answer

In my opinion from family members with the big C telling someone before you know is kinda unusual. But to each their own.

performerwannabe · Answer

I think you should tell him now.

Klaatu51 · Answer

damn... just hope he doesn't

Everybody is telling me to think positive because my friend juat told me he might have cancer?

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