Too fat to be anorexic too thin to be obese?

[skinnylovexbirdy]

Im 18. 130 lbs. 5'4. I have such huge thighs. And a flabby stomach. Fat arms. I hate wearing pretty clothes and going places. I can't be myself. I hate my body. I've been cutting down on food and tomorrow I will start running. But I need to lose weigh. I wanna go to my old church a new person. I don't wanna be ugly anymore. I wanna buy cute stuff and wear skinny jeans. My goal is 100. Everyone is forcing me to eat. I don't know what to do. I like being empty. I want my hip bones and collarbones and a thigh gap and ribs. I want beauty. I love pain. people say "guys don't like bones" guys don't like me anyhow so fuck off. I will like me. I just need help. Im tired of crying.

[thetundrawolf]

What are you comparing yourself to?

And unhealthy, unrealistic worldview?

My bet is yes.

Your weight is NOT bad for your height. In fact, genuine guys like girls who do not fit into the tiny, skinny, unhealthy mold this world holds so high.

Your fat content is not what makes you ugly. A proud, contentious, angry, hateful heart makes you ugly.

You can weigh twice what you weigh now, and if your heart is soft, pliable, sweet and caring, you are a beautiful person. I mean that. Too much fat is unhealthy, but you are nowhere near that.

[billy420]

Learn to love yourself and just embrace who you are, it will be hard but if you try hard to keep that mindset it will eventually stick and you won't have a care in the world. But if you really wanna change try different diets everyones body is unique so maybe you're not using a correct diet, What are you after anyway? Someone who wants you for looks? or someone who wants you for you, who you are.

[Prettygurl12]

Don't shoot for 100.

I'm 5'4 and am currently around 105 lbs. If I got any smaller I would literally lose all the feminine characteristics.

If you lose too much weight you can actually become infertile. My friend had a very bad scare with this. She too felt she was too big so she hit the gym hard all summer and dropped 28 lbs. Then her period just didn't come. It's currently 50 days late. Like, it just stopped.

Being fit and in shape is one thing, but don't be unrealistic. People our size just aren't meant to be 100 lbs.

[Azara]

its not that thin.

[Prettygurl12]

It's pretty thin. Not many people who are 5'4 can pull off being 100 lbs without looking like a skeleton.

[Silverware]

How much you weigh will not determine your level of happiness. When I was 18 I had an eating disorder where I weighed 100lbs and I'm also 5'4" . I was miserable and depressed and I still wwsnt satisfied with my body. Now I'm 125lbs and way happier because I worked on fixing my mental health. I love my body now

[G-Daz]

Are you freaking kidding... If that's you in the picture, wow? You're very attractive!! Some of us are attracted to thick thighs, it's actually something that makes you even more feminine and sexy. Please don't go down in weight. Your current weight is perfect

[Anonymous]

Ride a bike more, swim more and do more outdoor activities. Diets do not work. Eat less late at night and eat more in the early part of the day. Get on a good sleeping schedule and sleep enough every night. Good sleep is essential to a good looking and healthy body.

[Tokana]

I would cosign with @mutedaisy but for some reason she blocked. caloric deficit (eat less, lose weight) and strength training (maintain muscle). by the way judging by your profile i'd say you're pretty.

[mutedaisy]

Running just makes you flabby. Strength training is what you need.

[Azara]

you're 18. hop one can make you eat.

[atomique]

If they are "forcing" you to eat avoid them.