What's up with all the weight hate?

[heart_of_gold]

Goodness gracious! What is up with all the hate on thicker people. I've been seeing so many posts lately of so many people hating on bigger people. It's ridiculous. Rather it's talking about curvy girls just being fat, or the so called "fat acceptance movement". It's not the fact so much so that bigger people are the topic, ANYTHING could have been the topic. If direct hatred is involved, its a no go for me. Things like that really irritate me if you can't tell, and I don't get upset easily. It's like bullying almost. People have enough body image issues without you talking about them like they're less than human on social media. Humanity is truly disgusting. The same people who will easily cry, or feel bad about someone committing suicide, are the same ones who will cause it to happen. Now I'm not coming on here saying, "Being obese is healthy." We ALL know it can be bad for your health. But who am I, or anyone else to judge? I know how hard it is to overcome body image issues, even though I have now, I know there are people who still are. I used to think there was something wrong with the way I was built because I used to do ballet, and I was one of the few black girls in there, and I was always the one with the biggest butt, the biggest boobs, the costumes wouldn't fit me right, my waist was too small, but my thighs were to big. My instructor used to call me fat, I've always had toned arms, because I also took, and still do take martial arts, so the girls would call me manly, butt my thighs and butt had a little giggle to them so then I was fat again. Plus I am tall for a girl, so then they'd call me a freak. Mind you I was 3-15 taking ballet. So can you imagine what was going on in my mind? I was strong enough not to let their words define me, but everyone can't so that. When will people learn words hurt? Words kill.

[Prof_Don]

I read what u wrote. If you've noticed, the people that are genuinely happy in their lives, don't attack the "weaker" people at their weak point, just to do so.

Pure evil, that is.

[heart_of_gold]

That is true. People will do anything to lift themselves up. Disgusting.

[JackKerouac77]

I don't understand why we all can't get along and play video games?

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And it's good exercise?

[heart_of_gold]

Okay then...

[Anonymous]

I don't hate people, I hate they don't take care of their body and health.

[heart_of_gold]

But isn't that something you should not concern yourself with since it is outside of your control?

[Anonymous]

If words can kill, then there are bigger issues than your diet. Honestly, if you're so insecure that you want to kill yourself because some stranger says they don't like fat people, and you happen to be fat, well you're more than just fat, you're weak. And that isn't meant to be hurtful. Just stating fact. If you can't handle internet banter, stay off the internet. If you're scared someone will say anything and hurt your feelings making you want to kill yourself, avoid it. Same as you would avoid walking in an area you felt someone was going to rape or kill you.

[heart_of_gold]

That's not the point Mr. Anonymous. Not the point AT ALL. Just because people SHOULDN'T let words hurt them, and SHOULDN'T kill themselves, doesn't mean they won't. Words shouldn't hurry, but you and I both know that they do. When people get fed up with stuff and feel like they have no escape, they commit suicide. I disagree with suicide, I think its 100% wrong. BUT I also understand why people do it. You don't know what that person is going through, and you calling them day, as I'm sure they've heard many times before, in all different forms might be the straw that breaks the camels back. Km suite the majority of people are familiar with the saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."

[heart_of_gold]

*hurt, fat, I'm sure*

[Opinion Owner]

Anonymity is a feature on this site. So of course it will be utilized when available. As for the other stuff. Yes words hurt, however, if you hate yourself so much that someone pointing out the obvious about something that IS possible to change makes you want to off yourself, then the burden of guilt lays with yourself. Changing yourself is hard. Directly when that change is personality flaws rather than physical flaws. I know. I've almost killed myself over my personality issues before. Then I woke the fuck up. And realized I needed to change it. Not succumb to it. If you don't like it, change it.

[Prof_Don]

If someone is known as "weaker", attacking the weak is cowardly and inhumane. Unacceptable.

[PhiOmega]

Wow, if u don't have the strength to empathize with others and feel their pain, U R THE WEAK ONE

U can seriously sit there and criticize someone over the reasons y they killed themselves?

No matter their strength or weakness u criticize the pain they felt, (regardless of y, they were depressed enough to take their live) and u make light of the loss of a sister, brother, mother

It's fuking disgusting when I come across a human without humanity

[heart_of_gold]

These other two gentle men have summed it up for me. Seeing as how you've been in the suicide position, you'd think you would be more empathetic. Some people have yet to, "Wake the f***up."

[Opinion Owner]

My issues revolved around ptsd and fears of failing my children. That they would be better off with their mother. Etc. Not because someone said something about my weight. I didn't ask someone to empathize with me over my urge. Because had I done it, I would have left my kids fatherless. That's the most selfish thing in the world. Explain why someone would empathize with that decision.

[heart_of_gold]

Not the decision. The situation. This is pointless. If you want to be difficult. Knock yourself out.

[Opinion Owner]

If you're not happy with yourself, change it. Not everyone is going to like you whether you do or don't. To answer your base question, regardless of what your say, fat is looked at as lazy. Simple as that.. Tell me you have a genuine handicap and you get some leeway. However, without a true disability, you're capable of improving yourself. My sister lived with me for like almost 2 years. She has a build where she has to try and stay consistent in order to stay thin. Not like nazi dieting, healthy eating and living. And I never cared about my own family members feelings, why would I worry about some stranger?

[heart_of_gold]

I thought we were done here. Clearly you're not going to see from my point of view, and vise versa. You don't have to explain anything to me or anybody else. Be you. It's fine.

[Anonymous]

i don't see a problem with showing facts that fat does not equal curvy fuck euphemisms if they need a euphemism to not commit suicide then they are weak minded it's not our fault they can't handle facts.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EBcRcccOl38

[heart_of_gold]

You have a friend a few comments down. See if you can find him.

[Opinion Owner]

yup i like his shit right up

[heart_of_gold]

That's good. If you weren't anonymous, you could talk to each other. :)

[Opinion Owner]

listen people go anonymous when we know that our opinion is unpopular sounds like he went through a war i went through living in a third world country we have seen much worse than stating facts and haven't commited suicide so when we hear things like a kid who got dumped commited suicide we just think that that life experience was a petty reason for it compared to real problems of the world for which one might commit suicide like poverty or seeing your friend die in your arms now leave me alone kid.

[heart_of_gold]

The immature ones always take the age shots. Like that's really going to do anything... Anywho, you can scroll to your friends post and read what I put on his.

[Opinion Owner]

i actually didn't see your age i just say leave me alone kid by habit

[heart_of_gold]

Now that I think about that last bit of what you said, you would be the one who commented on my question so technically you bothered me... but those are all trivial things. Goodnight stranger. :)

[heart_of_gold]

Okay then.

[Opinion Owner]

you're just looking for a shouting match you said goodnight so goodnight

[heart_of_gold]

Not even a little bit. Lol. You should read my profile. And yes. Goodnight.

[bubbletrouble]

Just ignore it. Besides I think skinny people get it worse since they are the minority.

[heart_of_gold]

36% of Americans are obese. Meaning "skinny" folks would be the majority. You will never ever see skinny people dissed more than fat people over any form of mass media. "skinny" still defines beauty in American standards. There's nothing wrong with being skinny, you don't often see people being bashed about it, so people shouldn't be bashed about being bigger either.

[heart_of_gold]

Not obese, overweight, including obese.

[BelleGirl21]

https://win.niddk.nih.gov/statistics/
Actually 36% are obese and the total of obese an overweight is 74%. Making skinny people an extreme minority.

[Anonymous]

fat is not sexy at all