How am I supposed to react? What am I supposed to do or say to help my girlfriend lose weight?

[Eng_Lad]

Though you wouldn't tell by looking at her, she does have a bit of a weight problem and her doctors referred her to a physio. I'm not gonna lie an say she's perfect as she is because it would be nice for her to be a little skinnier so I could hold her more and I know it'd help her confidence immensely. I used to be a scrawny little kid but after a year at the gym I've managed to become ripped, yet she started the same time as me, and has gone backwards.

I've took every approach, the your fine as you are, the okay I'll support and help you, and the standing back an seeing what happens, and all 3 have been thrown back in my face, what can I do?

[rockie]

try adapting your diet DISCREETLY to healthier foods when she's around. be very subtle about it, but if she sees you picking whole grain breads or salads or not drinking sodas she'll probably not want to be eating them right next to you. don't say anything like 'maybe you want to try the low fat ______' because it'll probably just make her mad but if you are starting to eat healthier she'll most likely start doing the same, which would help. also, if you're just hanging out at eachothers houses, don't ask for a snack or offer one. snacking is usually not very healthy and if there's a specific time of the day that you're hanging out and she's not snacking regularly then anymore its more likely that her eating habits will begin to shape around eating regular meals. good luck!

[Eng_Lad]

I'll try switching my diet yeah, I have to eat a lot because of the gym an stuff but around her I'll be all healthy, thanks

[Dekin]

Discreetly is the key.

Get a bike for you and your girl, or roller gear, skates, whatever... "you get the idea"

People hear the word "exercise" and get all lazy about it.

Take her to do something active. She'll be more motivated if your going with her.

[Eng_Lad]

I get her to walk the bigger of our two dogs so it runs an she has to keep up lol. but when I try an cycle with her, an persuade her to do it, its uncomfortable, her legs hurt, she's tired, its my fault, I get the big awkward silences an so on, an its all just a huge hassle.

I don't think her problem is the exercise, I think its the food size, which is worse because it makes her upset an angry an I can't help with that