Wow, I sure hope you're kidding. But if you insist she drop the extra weight, I suggest she drop YOU as a bf. What you're doing is incredibly rude and hurtful. Try being proactive and supportive. When you care about someone, you worry about their health, NOT their pant size. Quit being rude and try to find out WHY she's gaining weight- is she depressed, stressed, or just unhappy with her current place in life? There's usually a reason. And emotional eating is very common for women.
Try making exercise fun (go on walks or bike rides together... even Wii fitness! That's loads of fun). Challenge each other to be healthy and make better food and exercise choices. I'm sure just because you're "healthier" doesn't mean you couldn't make any positive changes yourself. When you're in a relationship, her problems should illicit genuine concern. Sounds like all you want is a skinny girl to show off.
If a man ever told me to lose weight, I'd show him the door. The only people who can do that are myself and my doctor. You crossed a line, and I hope you pay for it.
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You're going about it all wrong, I can tell you that. Girls are very self-conscious about their appearance and are sensitive. What you are doing is only hurting her and making her feel not so attractive, and she probably is feeling like you only had cared about her appearance and nothing else, and I can see why she would be angry. If she has only put on a few pounds, then it really shouldn't matter so much. I would have to say you are really shallow if that's the case and she should leave you. However, if she had put on a lot of weight and is starting to become unhealthy and you are concerned about her health, you should try to suggest doing fun physical activities you can both do TOGETHER to help her out. Saying something like "Hey sweetie, it's a beautiful day outside, lets go take a walk/jog at the beach!" would be so much better than giving her the nickname tum-tum and grabbing her stomach. That's just plain rude and insulting.
WTF dude? You're basically screamming "FATTY!" at her... of course she's going to get angry!
My girlfriend uses that tactic on me, and I suppose while some guys might be receptive to that... I haven't been.
I would suggest preparing lighter but good tasting meals. Avoid eating fast food out with her... go somewhere with a relatively healthy menu and portion sizes if you eat out.
Do you work out or run? See if she'd be up for joining you sometime. Maybe all she needs is the bonus of having you help her with it in some subtle way.
I think it's okay of you don't want to date a girl who's gaining weight.
But I also think that you need to either be direct and mature about it, or simply break up with her. Acting like a ten year old on the playground will get you nothing worthwhile.
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You don't- PERIOD. You're treating her like crap and being pretty insensitive as it is- she probably knows she's put on weight but you, as her boyfriend, are supposed to like her for her, not for her weight. Acting the way you have been (making fun of her weight) or telling her to lose weight is just making her feel bad about herself and won't help. What if SHE started picking on YOU for something you're insecure about- wouldn't you be upset? Either treat her like you care about her and get over the extra pounds or, if you can't, then break up with her and let her find someone who can.
Tum tum ? really? you serious? no no wait you joking haha ..Are you an idiot?
What do you really expect her to do ? really.. what do you mean by help please?
is this realllly a problem to you? is it a deal breaker? what are you going to do if she gains more weight and becomes fat as a couch!? do you think you re perfect? am sure she can name lots lotssssss of stuff that bugs her about your looks!
it would have been ALOOOOOOT better if the question was like, my Girlfriend is gaining weight and I care about her and I want her to be healthier! THEN we could give you a lot of tips but obviously you don't need them because you re just another super-ficial ass who needs to be DUMPED!
Some guys could be real jerks and idiots.. but YOU.. you re the joke of the day really! you won the prize of who can be the lamest . GROW UP DUDE, STOP BEING SO SHALLOW AND GET SOME HELP!Omigod, you grab her flab and call her tum-tum? And you are confused that she is angry about this?
Believe me, she knows she has gained weight. A lot of girls gain weight when they get a boyfriend because they start eating with a guy who usually eats more and more regularly.
I notice that you are not wondering if she has some problem right now that is making her stressed and wanting to eat more. It is weird that you don't seem to care about her. If you do want to care, you could try asking if everything is OK because she doesn't seem to be herself.
If you are really turned off by her weight, your only option is to move on. It is not something you can control.Ok, first off...you should NEVER and I mean NEVER EVER EVER do that to a woman. That is one of the top ten worst things to do to a woman. You are damned lucky she hasn't dumped you for that alone.
On to constructive advice now...
Since you want her to loose those extra pounds for whatever reason, be NICE about it. Instead of watching T.V. on the couch, suggest going for a walk. Instead of going out for Pizza, try going out to a vegetarian restaurant. Or you can suggest a challenge between the two of you to see who can get fit the fastest with a nice prize at the end of the challenge. Basically, you need to work with her to help her loose the weight, and not make fun of her for it.
Maybe in the guys locker room those kinds of antics motivate you to improve yourself, but for girls it is just hurtful and destructive.OMG YOU CALLED HER TUM-TUM?!?! AND GRABBED HER FLAB. Oh wow she should dump you. You are an inconsiderate jerk. If you care for her at ALL a few pounds won't do anything. I really hope she dumps you because she deserves much better than a shallow asshole like you.
Im pretty sure this isn't even a real question. If you are so dumb to think that calling names and grabbing flab will help someone get the motivation to lose weight, you truly aren't worth being with. Women especially do not respond to this kind of stuff. She has probably already realized she has put on weight and you adding to that is what is causing her to eat more.
She probably deals with her emotions with food, as would I if I knew I had to be around you.clearly she knows she's gained weight, she doesn't need her boyfriend to make her feel worse about it!
if she comes to you saying that she needs to lose weight, then help her out. but for now, leave her alone and let her sort it out.
how much did she weight before and how much has she gained?125 is a very healthy weight. I'm about 128 pounds and I'm 15. Does that classify me as a fatty? No actually I'm extremely fit and both wrestle and play football. So don't give us that BS. You are just an asshole. That's all there is to it. I'm glad you broke up. Plus if you continue to think that way I hope you end up alone the rest of your life. That's my take on this...
I'm laughing at your stupidity in this situation. Not saying you’re not an intelligent guy but obviously you could use a little more experience when dealing with women.
Sick em ladies!she foundtexts on yuour mobile so you were also cheating on her? and YUCK?
125 is perfectly healthy .. am glad you guys broke up!wow, you're a complete tool. And clearly, she deserves better. I hope she realizes this and moves on.
you wonder why that made her angry? ha! this has got to be a joke - that or you're a complete joke.
My advice to you? Grow up.Yeah you basically can't. If you try she'll just guilt you and give you the emotional silent-treatment. You just need to 'grow apart'.
lol why did you put up this question just to p*ss people off?
well I don't blame you just tell her that she needs to loose some pounds or your going to break up wit her, and don't listen to these fools
Your only making it worse for her.
I'm so happy for her! Now she can find a real man
I'm so glad for her that she is done with you!
geez you're really mature
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