I'm not physically addicted but I can't control myself getting high or drunk?

[Anonymous]

All I want to do is get high and drunk. I go nuts inside when I don't hae anything. Sometmes I am okay but when I am out I just want to drink and get high. I wouldn't care what it was just give it to me. I feel out of control. My boyfriend is tired of it, he's trying to stay sober and so am I but he's doing better. He doesn't have a choice because he's on color code. I wanna stay sober with him but I can't last but a week sober and I fuck up. I just want help, I want him to be proud and I want to be proud. Any suggestions? He doesn't believes I will ever do good. He's given up sorta. And I just don't know what to do anymore.

[Paulina528]

If your age is correct and you are under 18 there is hope. Your body becomes more addicted to things as you age of course the more you use it. You need to get help either professionally or just commit to it. You have to tell yourself that you can do it and when you want to drink or get high that you don't need to and that drinking and getting high will not do anything good. This is your body and you only get one. Drugs and alcohol are terrible and tell yourself if you were want kids or to see your grandchildren or you just want to enjoy life that drugs and alcohol will stop you from doing that. Every time you get the urge just put a piece of chocolate or sucking candy in your mouth. You'll see it gets easier day by day but you just have to commit to it and stick with it.

[Asker]

Thank you for the comment. Your input helps a lot.

[Paulina528]

My mom takes a ton of narcotics and its horrible to see her in this state. she is truly addicted and she will do just about anything to get these drugs. They make you look older and act stupid. Seriously, please try your best to stop. I don't want to see another beautiful person end up looking like theyre 60 when theyre actually 30. (JUST AN EXAMPLE)

[ThinkPrettyThoughts]

Everything you said sounds like you are physically addicted, but maybe you aren't ready to accept that.

If anything, you could start with some self-help books about substance use and abuse. Those books will educate you and help you realize that you aren't alone in this. From there, you can seek professional assistance and guidance. There's absolutely no shame in that and there are so many wonderful people out there who want to help. You can control this, trust me.

Good luck to you.

[Asker]

Thank you for the comment and luck. I will try to get some books and find more useful coping skills.

[Red_Arrow]

Everything you mention is a sign of addiction. And having all of them together is further proof that you ARE addicted. Even your first words "I'm not physically addicted but I can't control myself getting high or drunk?" are a big sign of addiction. The only step that you can take now that will help you is the first stem. You have to look at yourself and admit that you are addicted. Until you stop lying to yourself, you will never get better. Period.

[Asker]

I don't get physical withdrawal when I stop. So I am not physically I guess I am just emotionally addicted.

[Red_Arrow]

"I go nuts inside" when going without is withdrawal. It does not have to be something felt in the body itself. So it is addiction.

[Asker]

Oh, then why s my boyfriend saying I don't have any priorities and nothing is wrong? I feel like I will flip out when I am sober and he's like I am just being immature. Like gah can I not have any support? Downing some one and aking them feel bad don't do anything really.

[Red_Arrow]

"My boyfriend is tired of it"
"He doesn't believes I will ever do good. He's given up sorta."
That is not saying that nothing is wrong. You cannot even see your own words. You must learn to see what is in front of you. And deal with your demons.

[chuppachup]

I'm trying to recover from drug addiction as well right now.
It is really shit being sober, isn't it?
Look, you just gotta distract your mind. Do stuff to keep yourself busy so you don't have time to think about getting high or drunk. Keep away from friends who you normally get high with (That's a big one). Also, you're gonna need a shit ton of will power. It is possible.

[Asker]

The thing is is that my mom parties with me and its hard when the weekend comes and she want to go out. I know you gotta stay distracted and I was doing well for a week almost 2 and then I drank and then stopped and drank again the next day and then I got back into my pattern and boom got high and partied. Lmao Boyfriend isn't happ. Says I don't "Love him" when really if I seriously didn't I wouldn't be struggling right now I'd be taken a xanax and 4 nucynta's, smoking a bowl. The struggle man. Thanks for the comment tho. Glad to see we aren't alone.

[chuppachup]

I smoke weed with my mum too. Since she lives in the same house it's a lot harder to quit but I just told her that I want to and she stopped offering me stuff. Have you told your mum of your plans to quit using?
Also, you truly have to want to quit, You can't half-ass it, otherwise you will most likely use when the withdrawal gets intense.
Maybe you should go do something with your boyfriend at the weekend. Turn your phone to silent and just enjoy yourselves, not partying or anything though. Lean on your boyfriend for support, if he wants to quit using as well then you've got a better chance of stopping for good.
What I do is promise myself not to take anything, because it's just drugs isn't it? you can't let a simple drug take hold of you like that.
you should keep a note of why you want to quit using and what triggers you to want to use. Avoid triggers like the plague.
Good luck in your recovery. it isn't going to be easy at all but it is 100% possible.

[Asker]

Haha that's rad, my moms on parole so we just take shrooms and trip on rare occasions and get drunk. But yeah, I told her I am trying to stay sober. And she said she wants to stay sober with me, but then we get crazy cravings and ugh so much for stay sober.. I truly wanted to quit after my last trip. I took 3 hits and drank a little and then smoked a couple bowls, it was magical until I had a bad trip, that same night my boyfriend and I split up, well I thought it was, he stopped talking to me and I was like ughhh relapse. But when I sobered up I never wanted to get high, I was like fuck no, no more. And then a week went by and I was like oohhh my god. And so I keep relapsing. But I wanna keep trying, but I keep losing hope.. I am starting to not want to keep trying.. Like why? Why can't I stay in a daze, the only reason why my boyfriend stopped was because he was in jail. He doesn't have a choice. But thanks. Hope you stay recovered. I may just give up soon..

[Asker]

And I can't do anything with my boyfriend. It's very complicated. :/

[chuppachup]

Hmmm.. You are in quite a tricky situation. Jeez, you take some pretty good drugs, huh? lol.
Another method that could work is travelling to some place out of town where you have no connections to drug dealers, no money to spend on drugs and just living there until withdrawal is over. That's basically the method your boyfriend used. Do you have a relative's you could stay at?
It's okay to relapse, it doesn't mean the world is over and it doesn't mean you're incapable of recovery and it doesn't mean to give up, just try out new methods and see what works for you. I know it seems hopeless but it's not, trust me.
How about quitting one drug at a time so your body isn't in as much shock once you stop completely? Quitting a bunch of drugs at one time will intensify the cravings a lot.

[Asker]

I don't have anyone to stay with. :/ And yeah good drugs haha. Honestly I don't want to quit but I need to. m surrounded by drugs and alcohol a lot. I don't know, the only person I know who doesn't use is my boyfriend and I can't stay with him cause it's complicated with society. But I will try some coping skills. Thanks :)

[jaeHyunkim]

This is addiction.

I don't know what your thoughts on popping pills are, but it's not a healthy habit.
You do need help with this, or you'll find yourself in an emergency room, or worse.
Complete darkness with no exit.

These drugs are consuming and damaging your kidneys and livers. Call an addiction hotline if you need help and support.

[SerafinT]

If you are talking about marijuana, you cannot get addicted to it, so don't listen to idiots who don't know what they are talking about, you would have to smoke about 30,000 blunts in an hour to get addicted. I don't get drunk, I will take a bud light every now and again, but I'm not a party person, I don't get drunk.

[Asker]

I know you can't addicted to Thc lmao. I've been taking narcotics for a while and drinking. I'm not addicted to Thc I am just addicted to the high.

[SerafinT]

What drugs are you talking about? If it's just marijuana, shit smoke up. I can't help you with the alcohol, I would say the best way to stop with any addiction is to either stop cold turkey or gradually stop the amount you use until it's down to zero. I smoked cigarettes for a while and one day I just said let me stop before I get cancer or some shit, and I stop.

[Asker]

I usually take Nucynta, Lortabs, Valiums, Xanax, Norcos, Oxycontin, Percocets, all kinds of pills, I usually take downers but sometimes I want a upper. I use to snort heroin sometimes, I would do cocaine but gah its too much. I use to drink all day everyday but I kinda stopped doing that. I use to smokepot everyday non stop. And I was high 24/7 on everything. Now I gotta stop. Man please don't do pills it will fuck you up so bad.

[SerafinT]

Aye you mind messaging me?

[Asker]

Uh why?

[SerafinT]

You seem like an interesting person, you obviously don't need to, I was just asking.

[eddzeeman]

You need to stop for more than 1 week. I've smoked for over 10 years straight (and alot) but once I stop for 3 days, it's almost as if I dont look to smoke or drink. You need longer than 3 days

[TallBoi]

get counselling

[Asker]

No ride.