How to advise a girl to lose weight?

[Anonymous]

she's my friend and she is extremely fat I want her to be fit so that she lives better and gets over her insecurites I think if it's coming from a guy its gonna sound harsh also the fact that she has some feelings towards me adds more hardness , what's the best way to tell her and inspire her to lose weight?

[SirenDep]

You can't change her, it must be her choise to do so. Show her your friendship and appreciate her as a person. Feeling loved and accepted motivates you into becoming a better person. Also having someone else as a role model. Having said all that, here are some ideas:
-You can tell her you want a friend to go to the gym/running together and it would be cool if she wanted to.
-Tell her you read an awesome book/webpage/youtube channel about proper nutrition and you learned new stuff that made you change the way you eat, and you thought she might like it as well.
- Ask her where she shops clothes from. She 'll probably complain that she can'tfind stuff in her size at some point. Usually having extra weight makes it difficult to find clothes, sadly.

[Asker]

these are some bright ideas

[AmandaLynn1930]

Maybe offer to work out with her. Go to the gym together. It'll b fun and motivating AND she'll benefit from it.

[Asker]

it's impossible to do so
we both live far away from each other

[AmandaLynn1930]

Hmm... maybe tell her u want to make some gains and u think u guys should do it together. That it will b fun and u guys can motivate each other...

[Asker]

yeah that's a cool idea
as a girl do u agree with what Anonymous (36-45) said?

[AmandaLynn1930]

No, or that's what I would said. Haha! Sometimes hearing it from a guy (if he's a good friend) is better.

[Asker]

aha
it got a bit iffy lol

[AmandaLynn1930]

Hahaha!!! It depends on the girl. If u know her well enough u can probably tell if it's a good idea or not.

[Asker]

alright thank u @AmandaLynn1930

[AmandaLynn1930]

welcome :) good luck!

[Anonymous]

I've tried that before; it doesn't work. The desire to make a change has to come from her. In this post-feminine society, any guy who mentions a woman's weight (even if it's in the context of offering to be supportive and helpful) is automatically a douchebag and a cruel, heartless bastard. I would just avoid the subject entirely.

[Asker]

I agree, that's what pushed to share this here and not just ask her to go to the gym
thanks for warning!!

[Asker]

me to *

[Anonymous]

Just tell her that you care about her health!

[Asker]

ok i will add that too