172 lbs at 5'5 is fat, right?

[Laura2410]

First, thank you all in advance for your opinions.
Not trying to sugar coat it, want your completely honest opinion about my weight, it's just that I like a guy (with whom I have a project to do with) who apparently now has a relationship (started this Monday) and I think the reason he doesn't see me as more than a colleague / friend is that I am ugly and fat. Or at least that's how I see it, I always think some girl is prettier than me..
Can you suggest how I should lose weight (I know you can lose inches and not weight, I can't get over rhe fact that to me skinny means the scale has to show a small weight) get a nice looking body at the same time? I started eating healthy, already dropped from 185 :D Because I let myself get this fat, I now have visible marks/veins on my body :(
How to incorporate exercising, considering I am in med school, got a lot to study and 3 days out of 5 I arrive at 8 pm? Should I workout in the morning the days my schedule starts later? Everything is so messed up at the moment. My looks, crush situation, studying etc.

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If it helps, this is a pic of me. Hope it works

[SirenDep]

www.heartfoundation.org.au/.../bmi-calculator.aspx
Here you can calculate your bmi. I did it for you, it's 29. To have a healthy weight, you should aim to loose around 20 lbs, which of course you can loose gradually.

www.freedieting.com/tools/calorie_calculator.htm
Here you can see how much you need to eat every day, to gain, maintain or loose weight.

The most important thing is the quantity and quality of your food, then it's exercise. You can loose weight if you don't exercise, but exercising will make it easier.
So,
1. start improving your habits and eating healthier food, eat and drink less processed food, soft drinks, alcohol, stuff that contain too much sugar and fat.
2. Once you improve the quality, focus on the quantity. Start by doing portion control and/or count the calories. There exist apps that act like food diaries, you write down what you ate, and they calculate the calories for you.
3. Once you do that, start exercising. You may begin with exercise videos on youtube, fitnessblender, cleaning your house, or just do long walks, go to the university walking or biking instead of taking the bus, dancing, jogging. Eventually, you can enroll in a gym or find dance classes, martial arts, swimming, volleyball etc. Aim for three days per week, then you can add up.

[Laura2410]

Thank you very much, really helps :)

[SirenDep]

you're welcome!

[BellePepper]

Okay. You are super pretty. If someone is missing that, it's their problem, not yours.

This point in your life is about your education and getting to know and appreciate *yourself*. Boys and their ideas are so secondary. Like wow.

If you want to make changes, that's great! Just make sure they're healthy and fit into your schedule without adding stress. I also think you should take advantage of Student Health and ask to speak with someone in the mental health department about your feelings. You're paying for it so you should get something out of it!

[Laura2410]

Thank you very much :)
I Know it's about other things like education, becoming a great doctoe, loving myself.
But I'm missing that part of having someone else that I like, like me back
And I really wanted to be this guy. There's plenty of time, but for now I'm not getting in the way of their new relationship. I don't do that.
Just wish it were me.

[BellePepper]

Sounds like this is more of a you working to get over a crush than like a life thing?

Like You are you and you're AWESOME just the way you are. And changing yourself for some guy who's not going to be into you is so meh. Like what if you make all these changes and then a guy who likes you for you comes along and then he can't see you because you've changed for someone else? Total missed opportunity, right?

So while I think it's great to make changes for yourself, it's not good to make changes for someone else.

[Laura2410]

I am not trying to lose weight for him. Or maybe just a little bit. I keep thinking "Maybe if I hadn't gotten fat.."
But then I find another reason why he wouldn't like me, like my face.
Same happened with other guys I like. I mean, what else could be the problem?
I want to lose weight for me, to feel peetty, but I guess deep down I'm sort of doing it to be liked by the guys I like. I guess that's one of the problems.

[BellePepper]

Honey noooo. It doesn't matter what you look like or how much you weigh. He's already with someone else.

And if guys aren't seeing you for how amazing you are right now at this moment, it's *their* problem. Not yours. I mean how mature are 18, 19, 20 year old guys. Not very. I know girls who are super skinny and cool and all that stuff, and *they* don't have bfs either. Like all these girls just like you and none of them have bfs. And that's OKAY!

Your worth isn't determined by some dudebro liking you. It's determined by YOU.

[Laura2410]

Well hwrw actually skinny girls get boyfriends easily. Because in general romanian women are pretty.

He wasn't in a relationship up until Monday. And we still talk. And what surprises me is that he still agreed to go out to see a movie with me and even offered to pay, after he got into a relationship. Which i find weird
Anyways. I have no intention of messing their relationship up. I don't do that.
Wouldn't even have a chance though lol

I just can't determine my worth. I know I have a big problem and that I need to change my attitude towards myself.
And it's not like I"ve had crushes only on "hotties". He is, but the past 2-3 guys are liked weren't THAT great (not saying they were ugly, not to me at least) and still got rejected.

Haha sorry for the complaining, I know it's annoying 😯

[Laura2410]

Here* not hwrw

[BellePepper]

It's okay. I think that it's good you're seeing things to work on for YOU instead of someone else.

[Laura2410]

I guess I'll just work on myself for now, improving myself on all aspects, from looks to studying, and the rest will come

[BellePepper]

Good for you! And it's really really okay to ask for help. Take advantage of it if you need it.

[apple24]

@ BellePepper darn it I wish i could of answer this question before u lol good advice...

[apple24]

hahah you should really work on yourself asker. You should like my 12 yr self... hahah anyway just love you body even its rounded and bumpy hahah! Just love yourself even your face looks average. I never had anyone guy like me! The only time a guy like me was because he thought I would eaily sleep with him which i didn't! you get my point.

[apple24]

@BellePepper

[BellePepper]

@apple24 How is it that literally ALL your posts are nonsense?

Your comment is full of passive aggression and backwards compliments. Don't bring that to my threads again.

[apple24]

sorry ): @BellePepper

[Bluemax]

It is overweight. I hesitate to call it fat. You have a very beautiful face that I believe can more than compensate for that.

As for losing weight, I believe that's a combination of diet and exercise.

[Laura2410]

Thank you very much :)

[bryon]

While your weight suggests that your a full figured gal , you photo says you adorable. You may think you need to loose weight , I honestly don't see it that way

[Laura2410]

Thank you very much :)
I do look pretty decent in the right clothes, but I would like to look nice without them too haha. And it's not necessarily the weight, it's the fact that I've developed visible stretch marks/veins, so I take that as a good indicator that I need to lose some weight.

[jessicorn]

well... he's in a relationship so ofc he won't like you back... if you like him that much wait for him to be single again.

also for your weight... i'm 5'4 and i'm 112lbs. but then it depends on your body type.
& i think you're actually pretty and your body seems fine. so dw too much

[Laura2410]

Thank you :)
I'll just try and move on, definitely not going to mess up his relationship

[Georrgem]

Instead of three big meals a day, have six small meals at regular intervals to boost your metabolism. Also, cut juice out of your diet and drink a lot of water. Using your brain burns quite a lot of calories even though you're not moving; so sudoku is a good idea. If you're cold, your body will use more energy to keep warm so maybe sleep with the heater off at night.

[Laura2410]

I actually don't even eat 3 big meals. I only eat for breakfast and lunch, but what got me fat I think is 1. the stress of getting into med school (had to prepare 2 years for the exam, and in those two years I gained so much weight)
2. In those two years I was all over the place, meaning right after lunch for example I would eat some chocolate and some chips, or sunflower seeds, or other snacks. So I guess my body didn't have time to "breathe" and process the food because I kept eating and eating. And also at one point I was literally eating chips every single day

True about the brain thing, though studying already occupies a lot, so I guess I can do without sudoku too haha

Than you very much for your help :)

[Georrgem]

Hey that's awesome, I'm also in med. I'm such a stress eater so I know what you're going through. The six small meals really helped me, I found. I didn't crave food as much :)

[Laura2410]

Oh cool! and like how many years do you have there? We;ve got 6 years and then 3-6 years of residency.
Thanks, I will try to balance my eating habits :)

[SlightlyCrazy]

Well your in med school so I assume you know about healthy dieting and exercise. If this guy doesn't want you cause of your appearance he is shallow, fuck him. Also many people love your type. Good luck

[Laura2410]

Of course I know. Actually lost weight in the past, down to 125 if I remember well. But gained so much while prepping for the exam that got me into med school. And now I want to get in shape again. Already happy I dropped 13 lbs, but still got a lot more to go.

Actually in my country, not that many like a bigger girl. And actually my body shape isn't bad at all, its the fact that I added weight on it that ruins it haha.

I dont know if he's shallow or what's the reason he doesn't find me attractive, but I usually assume it's that I am ugly. Because I've been told I am very likeable personality-wise by guys and girls, even though I am shy at first.

Thank you very much for the opinion :)

[SlightlyCrazy]

Your welcome, *hugs

[Anonymous]

Hearing the numbers it's fat. Your picture doesn't look fat but it's overweight. For exercise I would just do it whenever you have time. If your as busy as you are your schedule and everything probably changes a lot so I would just focus on getting exercise whenever you can.

[Laura2410]

Thank you :)

[TripleAce]

Well its not thin but you look pretty good... better than most 175 pound women

[Laura2410]

Wow thanks. I'll still try to drop some weight, at least till I get to a normal range and not overweight :)

[GirlsLie]

Honestly from your photo, you don't even look like you weigh that much, you carry it well. It's a little overweight but it's not that bad, getting down to 140-150lbs would probably be a little better for you.

[Laura2410]

I know, I like that photo too haha, but I don't know why, I get the feeling I look worse. But its probably because that is a professional photo (nothing slimmed down though! haha) and not a photo someone takes of me, where the angles are not great and everything.
Thank you very much :) That's actually my first goal. to get to 150 and then I'll go from there if I want to lose more.

[GirlsLie]

lol, well you honestly look good and I wouldn't look at you and think you weigh 170lbs.

I know how stress impacts you though, I was working a lot and I gained like 15 lbs one time and didn't even notice. I also wasn't even eating a lot, I was just eating wrong but once you start eating better and exercising more, you will feel so much better (if you don't already).

[Laura2410]

It's just that I've become so insecure. And now I am crazy about this guy I'm doing a project with and everything was going nice and bubbly and I find out he got into a relationship on Monday. And on Tuesday he agreed to go to a movie and even offered to pay
And it just hit me even more in my self-esteem. I really want it to work out with this guy and as usual, it doesn't. Because I am too ugly probably. And now I'm feeling worse, was actually starting to have a bit of hope with him and some confidence in myself.
And this perception of me just ruins me and projects in other things too. Like I always think I will fail, or that no one that I like will like me, or I can't motivate myself further more to lose weight because I keep thinking "what's the point? "

[GirlsLie]

I understand, we all feel that way at times, especially girls but you have to realize that confidence is sexy and it's also healthy for you to love yourself.

You're far from ugly and your body can be improved by eating better and working out, you already have a nice shape and a pretty face, you can fix a minor thing like 20lbs easily. You will feel better emotionally as well if you start eating better and exercising.

You're also more than just your appearance, looks will only get you so far. And you sound like a sweet and intelligent girl, i'm sure you have a lot to offer.

[Laura2410]

I haven't received complaints about my personality haha, so I hope it isn't that.
So it must be my looks
Thank you very much for the advice :)

[gurldolan]

you are not fat, it works with your figure be proud

[Laura2410]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

I weigh the same but in 5'7 /5'8 i honestly think its based off BMI , proportion; much is muscle and how much is fat.

[Laura2410]

I think BMI isn't that exact. Mostly because I've seen girls with BMI under the normal limits ( like one of my friends who doesn't really gain weight) they had no problem and looked great and girls over (like overweight) that also look great

The fat and muscle part thought, I agree. But you can see someone and think he/she is bigger, when they are actually more muscular, if that makes sense haha.

[523206720]

Its considered overweight but not obese yet.

[Laura2410]

Thank you

[CourtJester]

Face aesthetics still pretty cute👌👌

[Laura2410]

haha thanks :)

[apple24]

No I am 5.5 180 haha I love me to tears.

[Laura2410]

Oh I wish I loved myself to tears haha

[apple24]

Oh u can but now I got lose some weight because I keep eating to much... lol and my stomach hurts.

[Anonymous]

It's definitely over wait

[Laura2410]

thank you for the answer :)

[Iron_Man]

Yes Its not lean

[Laura2410]

thank you

[Iron_Man]

Hugs"