I used to struggle with anorexia and now I never have control to not eat all day anymore, I have no confidence and I don't know what to do?

[Belshels34]

Anyone can answer this question really. I have no confidence and I feel that men find me repulsive and this hate for my body is eating me alive, I am a very positive person and not a person to moan but hating my body is becoming unbarable and I try so hard to look better but its never enough for guys to find me attractive. I just don't know what to do, I am so lonely.

[KittieCat]

Alright. I had a combination of bulimia and anorexia for 4 years. The first thing I learned was that I was setting my standards to other people's ideal person. So I had to have giant boobs a nonexisting stomach and a big ass. It drove me crazy that I couldn't be what everyone else believed was beautiful and I felt disgusting.

I finally realized that I would never be happy that way and that my standards should come from myself, no one else. Basically I stopped caring about (most) people's opinions. If you think I'm fat, great. If you think I'm ugly, wonderful. Their perception doesn't affect me unless I want it to and I don't think you should let it happen either. Whatever your body or face looks like, some guys will like it and others won't. I'm like a buff-fat whale to some guys but shit I'm proud to be that whale.

I would work on accepting yourself and setting your own standards first. As far as the anorexia I know this is going to be crazy but trust me. Eat healthy 4-5 times a day and your body will thank you for it. It actually helps you lose weight.

I remember dieting since I was 5, crying because I was bigger than the other girls and ate fruit while they ate pizza and they were still slim. I know it hurts. Some days I wake up and feel disgusted but I remember my progress and I remember to love myself. I hope this helped <3

[Belshels34]

Thank you for the wonderful advice ❤️ I have struggled with bulimia/anorexia for ten years now

[KittieCat]

I'm so sorry. I hope you beat it <3

[Mimiclarissa]

It's okay, I know how you feel. I feel like guys don't find me attractive either and it sucks. I used to be 133lbs and now I'm 118 and I worked hard just to get there, but it feels like it's not good enough. I'm trying really hard not to put myself down and just be proud about the progress I've made. I know what you mean about not being able to stop eating, that's the only reason I haven't lost anymore weight. Just keep believing that somebody is going to come along and make you feel confident and love yourself.

[Belshels34]

Thank you so much. Its so hard I hate it

[Mimiclarissa]

You're welcome (:

[Cool-person]

I completely know how you feel. I feel like my weight dips up and down and I just can't control it. I hate my body I always feel like I'm too fat. I could be the skinniest person and the world, look in the mirror and see fat. That is because I was fat when I was little and I still see myself as the fat kid. The thing is, being skinnier fixed nothing for me. It actually ruined my life. I thought by having the "model body" I would be loved and my life would be better. Instead I felt longer than ever and my grades dropped. I don't know what you look like and you might not believe me when I say this but you are beautiful. Every single person, no matter what size they are has beauty. And if you are positive then let your positivity shine. One say a guy who's not an idiot will find you and look at you and say "Why the hell would she ever change anything sout youself." So stand tall and work whatever body you've got. Keep radiating that positivity because guess what, you are worth the world.

[Belshels34]

Oh thank you so much. I am crying so much right now. Its just so hard in this society, it really does eat me up alive. Thank you thank you ❤️

[Cool-person]

No problem❤ it's nice to feel like your not alone.