Why not agree?

[sweetnothings]

OK so I KNOW that I've got self-confidence issues but why do people ALWAYS tell me I'm wrong when I'm telling the truth about myself? it doesn't make sense.. because to agree with them I'm lying, but they won't listen to my reasoning or anything.. simply saying "you're not" or "you are" (depending on what we're talking about)..

for example... I know I'm overweight.. there's no hiding that fact.. and I was sitting next to a friend (who's a guy) and I made a comment saying "coming from the perspective of a fat girl.. there are some clothing items that should NOT be made in plus sizes.. lol" and he immediately said "no you're not" when it is COMPLETELY OBVIOUS that I am!

so is it just human nature to disagree with someone when you think it would hurt their feelings to agree, even though its the truth.. or is it something else? what do you think?

[Eilonwy]

well yeah I think most of us will avoid telling the truth about certain things if it'll hurt a person we care about. I don't think this is happening here, you've only got one picture on but from looking at that I really don't think you're fat, you look like a beautiful young woman and maybe you should start listening to why people disagree with you instead of trying to make them see your point of view, you might be surprised and it could even change how you view yourself

[sweetnothings]

There's only 1 pic on here for a reason.. lol :P

[Anonymous]

There's a difference between being overweight and being fat. I know I've got extra weight I could afford to lose, but I've also realized that even though I look at myself and sometimes think I look fat, other people don't see a fat person when they look at me. So I think you do hafta trust other people more and realize that we are really critical of ourselves. Like that other girl said you don't look fat to me.

[simran0703]

For me fat girls are not fat and I like them really. There you have a lot more to grab. They are more fun. So may be the guy was thinking like that.

[sweetnothings]

Haha.. I would be surprised.. he's dating a really thin and pretty girl and he's really thin and toned himself..

[Anonymous]

We are our own worst critic. We are very critical of ourselves, it's normal that we have a warped sense of ourselves.