"I like turtles"?
No, lol, seriously ... if you are already in the friend zone after she's known you for awhile, it's unlikely she will ever change her mind. Changing your appearance won't affect her much because she's already looking at you from the non-physical perspective and knows you too well.
Sorry if you wanted a new chance with her. =/
What would work best with girls (in my opinion) is - go ahead, get fit and healthy and lose that weight. If nothing else, you will feel a lot better and more confident. Take care of your appearance in general. Get yourself a nice hairstyle and wear clothes with strong colours, such as black, red, dark blue etc. Make sure you don't wear exactly the same outfit every single day and that your trainers are clean. :P
Take a little time off with this female friend. Give her the chance to miss you. It'd work best if you two didn't see each other for a few months, at least.
In the mean time, do the things mentioned above and keep saying to yourself daily that you look good, feel confident and are a great person. (These affirmations actually help and will work wonders, especially when you begin to believe yourself.) When you walk, be proud of yourself and stand with a straight posture (this actually affects a person's perception of you a lot. You wouldn't want to approach someone slouching down in embarrassment.)
Most of all - work to be happy. By yourself, and with yourself. Watch some comedies, meet new people, expand your comfort zone. Going new places would also help tremendously, as would getting new hobbies and taking up a regular sport.
THEN meet her.
I guarantee you'll positively surprise her and she might finally view you in a different light. But make sure she hasn't seen you in a while and that you've worked hard to change for the better, in the mean time.
I know from experience this causes a total "boom".
But even if nothing happens ... some other girl is bound to finally notice you. Just do the things I suggested above and don't give up. =)
yeah, just like you said friend zone usually means they just aren't attracted to you. On the one hand, it's shallow, but it's not easy to have feelings for someone if you aren't physically attracted to them. Not saying being bigger means your unattractive, but per person preference. If someone met you and they weren't attracted to you, it is possible that they might be attracted to you if your appearance was different.
you should lose weight 99.9999% for yourself and what's left for others because if this said girl's no longer an option, you might quit. having a girl as inspiration won't hold your attention for long, trust me. but I do encourage you to work out and eat healthy :)
I like turtles... ;)
Seriously man, anything is possible... Go for it either way, its gonna help you and your image, make an impression on those you know and those around you. She might see you and be like "wow look at him!" and it spark like this newfound sense of higher respect/admiration for you...
Who knows? Not trying to get your hopes up, but like I said, it's possible. And you'll probably feel much better about yourself afterwards too and a sense of accomplishment.
Go out and DO IT! :)
Most of the time, women put men in the friend zone because of how the man treats her. Most attraction for women is emotion and the way a man carries himself, not only looks. If you do stuff that friends do or if you are not a way that a man should be in her eyes, she will feel like you are a brother to her. Losing the weight is fine, but you have to consider that there are other factors behind women putting men in the friend zone.
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its a good thing if its mostly for a health reason. I am trying to lose weight myself and its hard as hell. but losing weight to get out of the friend zone with her I am sorry but its not gonna work. and if it doesn't that just means she's really shallow and only cares if your skinny. the inside counts more than how you look. maybe I am wrong since I don't know her, but I would lose the weight to have a health life and you can find girls who wouldn't care for that anyways. hope it helps. message me if you wanna talk we can help each other
It might but I wouldn't count on it. There may be other issues that are keeping you in the friend zone. However, since you are going to do this anyway for your health, do it and if this girl or another girl shows interest in you that they didn't before, well you got an added bene.
i want to say yes it will but from what I have read about the female decison making process on romantic things , there mind is often made up as to if your romantic material or not when you first meet and very early on . there is not a lot or really anyways to change those initial feelings that have been formed by her .
so for this girl no but with other girls you have not meet yet maybe a healther you would have a better chance
Yes because everyone looks better with abs no matter what you look like or how short or tall you are. But please don't expect her to just fall head over heels for you... I just don't want to see you hurt because it backfired. but yeah, lots of guys who are lean and have a low body fat percentage also have a "6 pack personality" to go with their abs so there is really no reason why this should not work.
Like I said, please, PLEASE don't expect too much from her. Do this for yourself so you can look good because eventually, now everyone has heard this and I have been told by my ex before she broke up with me that we will all meet THE ONE someday. SOMEDAY :)
losing weight sounds great if you are overweight but make sure you lose tht AFC attitude whihc brought you in the friend zone in the first place
If you are doing it just for this girl. Its not worth it because then she didn't like you for who you were before.
It won't change her mind.
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