She said I was "too fit"?

[Anonymous]

I'm a personal trainer and fitness is my lively hood. I spend hours in the gym everyday with clients that are trying to stay healthy.

A female I'm currently talking to said I was "too fit" and it made her insecure about herself.

I am not vain, narcissistic, or "jockey" at all.

I'm not THAT BIG either... if I had to compare my body type to anybody it would be similar to Brad Pitt from fight club.

I really don't understand what she meant when she said this... is there anything I can do to make her feel better?

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

No there isn't, this has to do with her and the fact that she is not happy with her lack of motivation in life, not just in fitness.

Don't worry about it, she'd be a drag on you if you got into a relationship. You'll be fine man, go after someone else.

And while we're at it, can you get me cut up?

[Asker]

Dude... check out bodybuilding.com you'll find EVERYTHING you'll ever need there info, workouts, diets, ect. very good site

[WaitingAtTheDoor]

Yea, I know about that.

[Asker]

Also take BCAA's in the morning on an empty stomach and do cardio 20 min later... it will get you CUT up

[Brando]

She's either intimidated, insecure about herself, or is finding a way to let you down easy. Sounds like she's insecure with herself though, which is her problem to fix. One of my buddies was involved with a girl with self-esteem/insecurity issues and she was...ugh, just a bag of emotional drama.

[nermalinda]

Those are her issues, don't make them yours. She can find a less fit guy if she wants. If a super fit guy was hitting on me, I would be happy about it, not complain!

I've noticed that not all super fit people necessarily want or demand their dates to be as fit.

[Asker]

I like women that look "real" and natural... you don't need to be skinny to be fit

[katherrrrine545]

This is something that is her own problem, you should be proud and happy with what you do. Her comments have to do with something that is her own issue. There will be girls out there who will like you for what you do and won't input those unnecessary comments.

[coffeeeadddict]

She has insecurity issues. She feels insecure because you look good and she doesn't think she does. Don't try to change yourself or make her feel better. Insecure people will always be insecure until they can figure out how to be confident themselves. Find a different girl. She will exhaust and irritate you.