If she's in the hospital, she may be on meds and under control. If she is, she may act normally and have tons of regrets.
She may also be emotionally numb and act like she doesn't care, not even about her legs. She might be completely emotionally dead inside and in a place where you can't reach her.
If she's lethargic, I'm not sure there is much you can do or say. She could be completely non-responsive. You can and should still talk to her, but don't expect much.
She may also be completely irrational and say things that make no sense at all. I'm not sure of the best approach here, except I think you should talk to her rationally. For example ask, "Does that make sense to you?". Enforce what's real. Be gentle with the things that are not real and don't push too hard on it. But don't play along with it either.
By the way, how old is she?
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Just so you know, I am really holding back the phacicious comments right now...
I guess the most you can do is let her know that you're there... but don't do anything that she is able to do herself. May sound harsh but that is a rule that physical therapists will tell you.
Remind her that she WILL still have a very fullfilled life. She can still drive, have kids, find love, have a good career, etc. There are very few worthwhile pursuits which require the use of legs.
She's not disabled, just differently abled. But it should help when you realize that we are all born different to begin with. We all have our advantages and our handicaps. Everybody in life has the same choice... to roll over and die or play the hand you're dealt.
Best wishes to you both
That's terrible. I guess you can't really say anything.
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I'm so sorry to hear this that has to be devastating , only thing you can do is just be the friend you always were to her that's what she needs don't run in like you're going to take care of her just be her support , don't mention anything negative to her about what made her do it or what was she thinking , just stay positive for her and let her know that you still love her and there for her talk to her like you did before the incident , she needs your friend support the most not someone making her feel that her life will never be the same
I'm truly sorry to hear that, I can't offer much help but wanted to say I feel for you and her both. Only thing I can remotely offer as advice is my sisters dog was paralyzed and everyone kept tell her she was a bad person for not putting her down cause she would never walk again. But nobody told the dog cause she can out run me now granted on 2 legs but sense she truly doesn't care about looks she is one of the happiest dogs I've ever seen. So I guess what I mean is losing her legs is way better than losing her. I'm sorry again
Do some research about the recovery process and the what she can do later, kinds of prosthetic legs, things like that. Then when you talk to her if she is down and sorry for herself you'll have scientific info to tell her that she can have a normal life afterwards and is gonna be ok. Above all, as a good friend be there for here, and try to be stronger than she is right now, she will probably need support
Omg, I'm so sorry to hear it... U can't go there talking bout her missing legs... U need to be the best friend that u can I'm these times... I lost my right arm in a work accident and while in tbe hospital I didn't wanna here all the potty from everyone, I just wanted to hear people talking to me like they always had bout things we were gonna do not bout things that we might be able to do... At that time I didn't wanna hear get maybe... U know what I mean... Its gonna take a while before she wants to talk bout it... That's just my opinion because of loosinf my arm just below my elbow... I do hope that I helped a bit..
Honestly, if its that bad and there is no signs of improvement - you should really try to find peace with things going even worse from here on out.
It sucks and is a tough pill to swallow, but better prepare yourself mentally now than being overwhelmed when it actually happens.No words. Just be there, hold her. And be aware that not only her, but also your life will change now. The real gift is not to give up on her now. There's lost of alternatives nowadays. This all takes a lot of time, money, persistence and patience. But for now: just be there and cry with her.
Think of the new options. She could have those special prosthesis with which you are able to run faster than a normally build person. Don’t think about the downside
https://carboncostume.com/gazelle/Just being with her, hugging her, showing that you care, is about the most important thing to do. There are no words that will change any of this, but comfort and caring are always important.
There really isn't anything to say, other than reassuring her. Just be there for your friend she will need your help to stay in good spirits, both physically and mentally.
There’s nothing you can say. The only thing now is to provide encouragement that she can walk again one day
what the fuck does schizophrenia has to do with that?
So she didn't lose them from an accident. She lost them from a frost bite right?
Its really sad. my condolences with her.. just tell her this is not the end of life its a new beginning no doubt a tough one
Sorry for your friend. Stay near. She will need you.
What are you going to say nothing... All she needs to know is one thing. She fucked up big time, ain't no coming back from that.
Huge hugs... very sorry to hear this :(
I bet she won’t do that again.
*hugs*
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