What am I doing wrong, am I too picky?

[alteran87]

I'm 21, getting ready to start my 4th year of college, and have never had a boyfriend or been on a date. I'm not really in shape, but I'm not I horribly overweight. I have loads of friends, go out at least twice a week, usually more like 3 times a week. I'm wondering if maybe I'm giving off some sort of vibe or something. All of my friends seem surprised when they find out I've never dated. Family members have offered to set me up, but their idea of the "perfect" guy for me is way off base of what I like. (my cousin wanted to set me up with a guy that was a total pothead with a dead end job) I'm not looking for someone to just hook up with, I want a relationship. Am I being too picky, or should I just go with the flow of life and eventually I'll find what I want?

[Evilsheepempire]

there most likely is the male equivalent to your thinking of the person that you think that you are most compatible with.it'll happen. eventually.

you will probably disagree with me right off of the bat, but I think that you can learn the most about the perfect person for you by dating someone, and having a break-up. not to say that you should fall in the arms of the next guy through your door, but go ahead and find a person that you can see yourself with, and take a chance. most likely you will learn a ton about the kind of person that you are compatible with.

[Hercules]

Don't go with the flow if it means ending up with a pothead dead-end job person, unless, you're attracted to him physically and mentally.

[kazine]

Even then, it's still unadvisable. XD

[alteran87]

The pothead was never an option

[Hercules]

As Rocky Balboa said, "If you know what you're worth, then go out and get what you're worth".

Find someone you really want to be with. You aren't being picky, you're making sure you find the right man. : )

[Anonymous]

Hi, you are not picky you just would like to meet someone who is worth their weight in gold. Which by the way anyone of us deserves. Ignore everyone else and what they say, carry on doing what makes you happy and keep going out to different places and I'm sure you will find someone. If you are happy being overweight then that's fine, you don't have to be thin to meet someone, anyway it's what's on the inside that counts and if people can't see this then they are not worth bothering with. Good luck and best wishes keep smiling x

[kwhatevv]

ahahaa same here!

well I'm 16 but I've never had a boyfriend either.

you're not doing anything wrong, but I think you should just wait.

God has a plann for everybody !

who knows. maybe he's saving you for the right person ;)