Is depression a deal breaker for you in a relationship? (Page 4)

[estoydorado1]

Depends on how they handle it and what they expect from me.

[Anonymous]

No I was talking to a girl recently and we both have depression, but mine got the best of me and I had to break it off. Before it turned into something.

[qwert1234]

It is.
I really don't want to deal with it.
I have mood swings to deal with and I really really would like to avoid anything else.

[qwert1234]

I wish to clarify this answer.

It's a deal breaker BEFORE the relationship. I would not start dating a person if she has depression.
But once I'm with someone and she did have one - I will support her all the way, but she has to be willing to go to a counsel or treatment.
But in all honesty, if the depression is moderate to severe - there's very little chance the relationship would work, as I would see it as a very toxic relationship.

[Daniel3035]

It depends on the reason if it's from herself then possibly but if like me your suffering with a thyroid problem and adrenal gland problem which also leads to depression then no.

[Lance1965]

Not a deal breaker but most people don't understand depression unless it is happening to them. Being depressed can really show who your true friends are.

[Aki6000]

So some would run away instead of helping them get through it? Some love that is.

[JayFromEngland]

No, it just makes me want to be there for them even more.

[Someguynamedbob]

Why would I risk my mental health by being around someone like that

[bubble_tea]

I feel like the illness is not the deal breaker, but whether and how much you attempt to battle it.

[airylnovatech]

Nah. I can see why it would be for some people, but personally, I don't really mind.

[VisousPotato]

No because i know what its like and not dating a person because they have depression wold be just plan asinine. And besides sence I've been there i wold be able to help that person when they hit a rough patch.

[Yakasmashi]

Well I have a lot of depression... but since I'm in a relationship my boyfriend is trying to help me

[aceexp]

Wouldn't they be considered emotionally unavailable if they have depression?

[Waffles731]

No I have depression but refusal to get treatment would be

[JuanFrank7]

For starters, I don't even understand why most people use the term "depressed" for the majority of their emotional states

[navyrobin]

Nope it isn’t. I’ve dated guys with depression and it sucks, I try to help them, but that doesn’t mean he’s less attractive 🤗

[rahul_24]

I think not, instead I would help her out. I can understand what happens under those conditions as I've gone through it. Just need to show but of pro-active like your are doing something.

[shamon23]

Nope. But I feel it's not the first thing you share either. Like, build trust and get to know each other, but you don't define yourself as your illness. Care about each other then say "hey I got depression, just so you know it happens sometimes"

[YangBH]

help them get over depression instead of calling it quits.

[CandyCaneZoe]

What crappy choices. Where's the maybe? Depression is a broad statement.