What kind of psychological problems in others are a problem for you?

[msc545]

If you meet a new person and it turns out that they have some issues like anxiety or depression or some specific phobias. Is that a deal breaker for you? If so, why?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I have never thought deeply about this topic.

My ex most likely had a Bipolar Disorder, which was very hard to deal with at times, but by being an understanding partner, somehow we handled it.

I myself, most likely have anxiety so I don’t have a right to judge someone else.

There’s someone for everyone.

As for phobias, I had an acquaintance who was terrified of tomatoes but he has a healthy marriage and has lots of friends.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

What about you?

[msc545]

I don't like being around people who have borderline personality disorder because it isn't treatable and the people that have it tend to be very dangerous. Other than that, nothing else.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Oh wow. I didn’t know that. How do I know if someone’s got Borderline Personality Disorder? I wonder maybe my ex had it, he was two different people basically. But he thought he was bipolar.

[MzAsh]

It depends on how severe it is and how it impacts me and the relationship. Also, it depends on how active he is in managing the symptoms. I’ve dated someone with bipolar and paranoid schizophrenia. I was optimistic about supporting him with it, but once we moved in together, he went off meds and the symptoms were too much for me to handle.

[lightbulb27]

can't stop talking, talk too fast.

I use my judgement of them emotionally, or if they are inconsistent... e. g. is it safe to be around them. Most people, I can handle at least for short time.

I direct them to Jesus and emotional healing and try to remove the "demons"... e. g. traumas controlling the being.

Everyone has their emotional issues, no one is "flawless".

[OfMiceandMen]

Not a deal breaker, but I don't want to be the cause or add to their anxiety, depression and phobias.

The last thing I would want to do is make her life more complicated/difficult than it already is.

[RealMarek]

I don’t want to ever deal with BPD ever again. Imagine no ability to take accountability for things ever, like: “That’s what I said, not what I meant.”

[OlderAndWiser]

BPD is the no fly zone!

[msc545]

I understand completely. I've been there myself. It's not only the no fly zone but for me it's the no entry zone as well. Some things are better left alone. Thanks for pointing this out.

[OlderAndWiser]

Obviously, any of the psychotic disorders would be out, also, but I get an instinctive reaction to most psychotics even before I can articulate the problem, and I’ve learned to follow those instincts.

[msc545]

Professionally I have that reaction as well but of course I don't avoid them If it's something involving work for me. At that point it just becomes interesting but I certainly would not want that in my personal life.

[msc545]

I also have a very strong reaction to personality disorders but in the past there were so many attractive things. Sometimes about the person that I didn't avoid them to my regret. I learned that lesson the hard way and now I won't have anything to do with it personally.

[Agape93]

If I can't trust your sense of reality or integrity, I won't date you. Like if you're a compulsive liar or have issues like schizophrenia or have apd.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Eating disorders, anxiety, depression, narcissism, of course any of the potentially violent ones... probably more but that was off the top of my head.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I've realized I'm very good at fixing broken people, broken people get me more and I can't really think of anything I'd really consider a problem unless they were the literal scientific definition of a psychopath, which is the lack of human emotions.

[CallmeTheKnight]

It is a big time dealbreaker for me. I don’t make time for someone who is mentally and/or emotionally unstable.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

It's not a deal breaker if someone has psychological problems.

[slatyb]

The sort that they make my problem.

[exitseven]

I could do without the homicidal maniacs.

[Iron_Man]

No, it’s not