Yep people do this to me too, and I'm a guy. It's terribly rude, I wouldn't even think about commenting on other peoples' body shapes, but for skinny people it's acceptable. Didn't used to bother me, especially in high school, cause the people who said it to me were really overweight, and I certainly didn't aspire to be like them. But I'll have to admit, that after hearing it the 100th time, I am a little insecure about it ;) It's rude, because skinny to me is a pejorative term. but I don't have any advice for you, except that most people are intolerably stupid. I find it best to avoid those who are ignorant. As the other answerer said, if you calmly explain to those that you have to meet on a regular basis that you are the correct weight for your body type, that should shut them up. What you have to remember is that our notions of what is normal have been perverted by what is becoming a much fatter society. So that people who are overweight might be deemed normal now, when 30 years ago they would have been rightly deemed overweight.
I simply don't think it's OK to insult anyone at all. As far as being too skinny or anorexic goes, your friends should watch out for you because they are good friends, and imo they should also watch out for you being overweight! It's not like it's healthy to be overweight, I'm sorry. As for random people who think they have the right to tell you to eat a hamburger, they are just jerks. Don't let them get to you. Maybe some people see it as a sort of compliment, which I know sounds terrible, but there is still a stigma where nobody wants to be called fat, and some people may actually be flattered if they were asked if they were anorexic - maybe these are the ones bordering on anorexia. It's a messed up social thing, but it's there, and I think people must simply view being skinny and not anorexic as something easy to cope with, whereas being a bit chubby is maybe more pitiable, so people get more protective towards them.
its all depends on what you call skinny and curvy. people all size 6 curvy and size 18 fat I call size 6 skinny (based on your heights of course) and size 18 curvy(again all based on height)
I consider myself curvy based on my height I'm 6 ft size 18/20. some people would call me fat and overweight(check my porfile if you wanna see) yet if I was my height and a size 6 id be hella skinny. its all in the perception. some people are just mean. maybeing the skinny girls are mad cause the bigger girls have boobs and they don't maybe the bigger girls are mad that the skinny girls have flat stomachs and they dont. Maybe if everyone stopped trying to be a size smaller and just wanted to be healthy we wouldn't have this problem. and because someone is fat doesn't mean they are unhealthy and just cause someone is skinny doesn't make them healthy.
I think you get it in the wrong way. The way you write it, they are not insulting you but more worried. They tell you their opinion about your weight. If you are fed up with it, you need to tell them "Pls stop it. I eat healthy (as long as you do that) and I am not underweight, I am simply skinny."
People react maybe more about curvy girls, because when you look in the media, even girls with bodies like Jennifer Love Hewitt are called fat, just because they gain a little weight (I am talking about her weight what she is having in these days.) Girls, especially in your age, get the image in front of their nose, that when they gain weight (and are still in a absolute healthy state) they are equal to fat.
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Skinniness does not have the association with ugliness that fatness does, or at least nowhere near as strong.
Many people will interpret "Hey skinny girl, eat a burger or something!" as some kind of health advice, but "Hey fatty, cut back on them burgers!" as an attempt to insult someones looks. People who wish they were a little skinnier themselves (that is, like, the majority of everybody?) are going to have a hard time feeling sorry for you. I suppose there's little you can do about it.
Somewhat unrelated to your question, don't say 'curvy' when you mean 'fat', you're making the hot curvy girls insecure :(
I agree with you I don't think it's right to comment on anyones weight or why they are like that.
I was at work oneday and this skinny girl came up to me while I was eating and I got up to give her a drink and she said" its OK wait until you're done" and I said " no I don't need to be eating anyway " making a fat joke about myself and she said I wish I could look like you I would love to have curves then she told me she had crohn's disease and she couldn't gain weight if she wanted to. I felt horrible I was thinking to myself I will never make fun of someone elses weight or my own again
People will pick on you if your open. Its basic gene instinct to take advantage of weakness. By being bothered by these people who are insulting you, you are letting them manipulate you to feel bad. Seriously, skinny is hot and that's why tons of models in magazines are all skinny. People will insult you based off jealousy and envy. Its the same if you were rich: people would insult you for being greedy and so on , but if you were to insult a poor person YOU would be the jerk! Yah its a double standard but people are f***ed up so might as well just ignore those idiots :P
ever heard the expression = "jealousy makes you nasty"?
next time someone tells you that, tell them know you think she/he should probably start watching their weight because you find he/she is starting to look a little overweight.
A lot of women try to overfeed me, aunts, cousins, "girl" friends, or tell me I need to eat something, whereas I know I'm just sexier and hotter than they are. It's one of women's ways of "emotional" manipulation. They feel threatened by us so they say that kind of bullsh*t. Don't fall for it, it's human nature, just pity them, or if you feel really offended say something back. It depends on my mood, whether I backfire or just ignore them and give thelm "the eye"
My friends do the same thing to me. It's not meant to hurt because otherwise they wouldn't say it, but I think it makes light of people who do have eating disorders and who struggle to be healthy.
For me, I used to have an eating disorder, and it's left its scars. My friend's don't know this, so every time they crack a joke, it's kind of like atonement and I have to relive everything a little bit. However, it has made me a bit stronger I think to have to be reminded of my previous actions so often.
no one insults curvy chicks, BUT fat chicks are another thing all together
curvy = what fat chicks call themselves because they're one big curve.
i really wonder about the mental health of people who let themselves get really fat. normally if you start gaining weight you notice it and diet to lose it. so I don't get why anyone would let themselves get that way.
People do insult big girls, and people do get angry about people insulting skinny girls. In my experience I've not seen much of either going on but they've both been just as frowned upon. Maybe people could get away with a little more against skinny girls, but it could be because a lot of people think (and even more people think those people think) that being really skinny is much better, so since it's actually supposedly desirable, it's more OK to mock it.
Because the media puts so much pressure on women to be skinny, & women become insecure. So they starts taking stabs at the skinny women to make themselves feel better. As far as curvy or more likely obese women, the media is already hounding them, so people feel bad & tell them they look fine.
i guess becuase they see larger people as a bad thing, I mean would you rather be large or skinny, I think you'll agree lots of people would go with skinny so they wouldn't take it as bad, lots off people go to the gym to get think but they don't go to get big if you get me.
I don't have any insight but I completely sympathize with you. When I got out of this treatment center when I was 16 I was like 20 lbs over weight but no one would talk to me about it, no one bugged me about what I ate or my exercise habits. I have been at a decent weight for a few years but over the last semester I dropped about 8 pounds and its such a big deal! I hate it now I feel guitly and am all worried and have been eating my weight in chocolate and now feel like sh*t
Hey guess what -> reality -> people are always going to try to put you down but you just have to learn to be above it and ignore what they say -- so you can either listen to the comments and feel abd about yourself or you can just ignore those people and move on with your like because a few years from now you not going to remeber any of them =]
First of all there is a difference between curvy and fat. Secondly I've heard girls of all sizes being made fun of for being to whatver (fat skinny short tall etc). In response to your question though, skinny girls are often the ones who make fun of curvy girls and even each other. Its just the way it is. I don't think people are nicer to curvy girls over skinny chicks
I don't know what to tell you. When I was obese no one had a problem ridiculing me. I had to get over it, so I think everbody else should do the same. Be who you are and don't let anyone get to you. You will never be able to stop people from judging based on appearance.
I will tell you that "curvy has nothing to do with body weight. "Curvy" describes a persons bone structure, so skinny can be curvy and fat can be curvy depending on how your body is proportioned.
Not that I feel that either body type is better, but curvy girls are insulted all the time, every day, and on a much bigger level. Take a look at the media. Movies, magazines, TV shows, ads.. I'm skinny, and I'm more than willing to take those remarks every once in a while because I know curvy girls have to deal with a lot more sh*t than I do.
Because girls are jealous. No one understands that some girls just have fast metabolisms, etc. and are naturally skinny. A lot of girls use "curvy" to make themselves feel better about their body shape, when in reality they're just fat. Curvy means an hourglass figure, which involves having a tiny waist in comparison to your bust and hips.
Curvy has nothing to do with weight a girl can be skinny and curvy or fat and curvy,so insulting curvy girls if you yourself have no curves would definitely make you look jealous.
But I asked a Q about this,I still have no true conclusive answer.
because the media has made it so the general public thinks skinny is the best and curvy is bad
i personally don't get how that even works because I love curves.
I wouldn't really say that that is insulting, I would rather someone tell me that I'm too skinny than being told I'm really fat. I guess some people see that as a playful compliment.
you need to define what you mean by curvy. are you talking fat or someone that just isn't "skinny" but still healthy? curvy generally means the latter and you shouldn't use it to describe "fat" if that's what you're doing.
because society taught us to think that way, and because bigger girls may tend to have less security with their body
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