For those of you who have gone through drastic weight loss, did people treat you differently once you became thinner? If so, in what way? Feel free to share your experience and thoughts š
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Omg yes!!! I lost 65 lbs after going through a divorce and decided to join the military. I went from 210 to 148. It was eye opening. I have never gotten so much attention. Not only did guys not talk to me but neither did females. Now I have females asking to fuck me with their man. Like omfg. My family seemed happy in the beginning 😊ā„ļø but as time went on and I never gained the weight back and everyone started treating me horribly. My sister would start attacking me verbally without cause. My mother literally didn't want anything to do with me because I looked better and had a great career. I even lost my best friend of 10 years because she became jealous. She was usually the hot one in the group and I was always fat and miserable. Then our status changed and I was the hot friend, and I had more money she began to bully me. She would say things like "oh the Marine Corps isn't all that" "anyone could do it" and that's when I had enough. During the divorce right before training, even my husband wanted me back. I told him no for about three months and went to bootcamp. The guys in the Marine corps love fucking. I had to fight off their advances once I was in. Every married man wanted me. It's like WTF why? You have a wife and a baby but that's military life for you. I wouldn't change a thing.
lol I literally have the same body you had before. lol I think I had good amount of guys and girls like me a lot when I was chubby but i was a greeter so I was always friendly. lol So people would always talk to me or vise versa. The point is your personality can take you long ways. I think you were and are still absolutely beautiful. But your right about married men so are a little bit CRAZY. lol I had 2 offers from married men and it kinda ruin the thought of marriage. When your skinny lots of random people will approach you not just guys, girls, and elderly lol... Like the amount of times they went up to me is shocking lol... Maybe I seem approachable... welll sorry I am talking about myself as always... I just thought it was cool story... but then ended up tallking to long. sorry. lol
Finally someone who gets it!!! Very well written šš I appreciate the response!!! It's hard hearing you are beautiful, hot, etc because it reminds me of the times I wasn't. On the inside I still feel like the girl on the left. š¢
I know I had a hard time when I was skinney believe I was skinney. No matter what in the mirror I still saw someone fat and ugly and old. But when I gain the weight back I was mad and I thought yeah... But I am glad I did. Becuase I been working on loving myself fat or skinny. I write in my journal. I am grateful, for the food I ate, for my mom health, for talking with my dad, for being able to write, read, and be born in america... I am grateful, thank you universe or alien in the sky. I am beaitful, smart, capable, amazing... and I write all the thing I want but I write them in present tense. I am wealthy, I am beatiful, I have good group of friends, I am creative, powerful... You have to change your mind set... I am working on cooking I think that why I might have failed diet wise. I am use to have my mom around cook me food lol... Now I am trying different veggies in little quantity... Its a life style but taking about less space doesn't automatically mean i'll be pretty to myself... Why I am trying to say is use law of attraction... I hope it works out or I convince myself that I am 100 percent deserving of this money I am about to recieve and that I deserve to be happy. Change your mind N you can change anything.
It's very true. I learned a lot of those affirmations and gratitudes when I was in treatment for my eating disorder. My struggle is loving myself when I am not perfect.
I think I want to join the military oh yeaaaah
You would love it. š„°š„°š„°
How much d is there on the daily basis?
Too much girl. Too much. Lots of eye candy in the Marine corps too.
š Iām excited. Do they have condoms available?
Google it.
YES! when I was fat nobody noticed me. I would apply for a lot of retail jobs and not get hired even though I was very qualified for the job. I got skinny and EVERYTHING changed. My family couldnāt stop talking highly of me, people that never noticed me did. People that had met me before that forgot all about me met me again and couldnāt believe I was the same person. I get free drinks and free stuff. Making friends is easier because people would actually approach me! Cost of clothes dropped. Attractive nice guys took me serious. And job opportunities was insane. I got hired at a great job and have no idea why they even thought my resume even looked like a good match. And even though I sucked at the job, people where more patient with me while I learned. As bad as this may sound people really like attractive fit people. Itās sad but whenever I stop and think about things for a bit it makes me feel bad I spent any amount of my life being overweight.
Iāve dropped about 50 pounds, and gained some muscle over the last 6 months or so. Itās amazing how differently Iām treated by women. It honestly kinda upsets me. I wasnāt super overweight or anything before, and my personality really hasnāt changed. But since my weight change Iāve had at least twice the attention from women I had before. I even had one girl who blew me off before approach me. The ironic part is I donāt think she recognized me, which shows just how little she pays attention.
And just shows how horrible and shallow people are deep down.
Yep.
A LOT more attention from females since losing weight. Ex also wants me back now.
Bad luck for her :D
Tell her fatass to leave you alone šš
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Yeah! It has it's good and bad points though-
I've lost over 70 pounds (still going but I'm at a healthy weight now), and the ones that knew me when I was heavier are always so shocked and impressed at not only how much I lost but how good I look now and how I'm able to maintain it. I even have people motivated by my results- which is awesome!
And while I am single, supposedly people think I look more attractive and cute now... I'm not sure how true that is or not, but I am wearing more form fitting clothes now to show off my figure. NO, not to impress anyone or get a man, but because I worked my butt off- literally, to get to the figure I am today!
But then you have the ones that talk about me behind my back or ridicule me for being in shape now... mostly women of course. I have coworkers claiming I starve myself, workout too much, and other nonsense like that. Yet when I was overweight? No one talked about me!
... I went of went off a rant there so apologies. I find it annoying, especially being a woman, that no matter what you weigh, someone out there will hate you for your body! Either for being too thin or too fat.
You could say that I lost some weight, from my highest to my lowest point was roughly 22kg.
Seriously it was a world of difference of how I was treated! People started treating me like I'm human, not just a thingie that happens to have legs!
At my lowest people were nice to me, even though I was unhealthy as fuck. But at my highest, which was still in the healthy range (chubby, I admit, but I had no health issues whatsoever), I was treated like crap, bullied and all that.
Now I'm somewhere in the middle, and interestingly I get more attention from men, but women don't really consider my shape as ideal, unlike they did when I was at my lowest (where I got jokes from guys for being a toothpick and being blown away by wind).
When I was thinner I had guys wanting to hook up all the time, liking all of my pictures, telling me I was gorgeous, and buying drinks. Now that I have put on weight they treat me like another coworker. As I lose the weight the flirting comes back. Being thin seems to come with more disrespect to your face than behind your back. The way I look at it is people are going to talk whether you are thin or in shape or not. Everyone has an opinion and it's more so how you feel about yourself and what makes you happy is what matters.
I've been fat and skinny before. I am thoroughly pissed that no matter what size I am, someone will always bother me and try to hook up.
I have a natural bch face, so I have no idea what they are thinking. I'm mean and unsociable, I hate people.
So, no matter who you are or what you do someone will always wanna sleep with you.
And if you can find anyone where you are right now, just walk around a bit more. I'm sure those cockroaches will come out of the woodwork eventually.
I never had significant weight loss. But I went lost 10kg, which probably took me from healthy weight, a little chubby, to quite skinny. But I looked very different. I had a lot of muscles and a nice bum hiding under there. I definitely feel more confident, and people ask me how my bum is so nice ahaha.
So my wife is losing weight right now. It's not that she looked really bad before, she was just overweight from medications and such.. but now, she looks absolutely fantastic and I have noticed that people have been treating her differently.
It kind of makes me mad, although I am proud that she was able to lose a good amount of weight. People are people, we shouldn't treat them badly just because of a little extra skin.
Not really. I wanted to loose weight because I didn't feel good with myself. So I got down 15kg on a first phase and then a further 12 on a second phase. I felt better with myself and had more self esteem. People close to me just congratulated me for achieving my goal, but their behaviour towards me didn't change.
That girl looks pretty either way. I really do feel Id be more attractive if I lost weight. Iāve been slender before but gained significant weight due to recent illness. Losing it slowly now. I was treated differently when I was thinner, admired more.
Yes. I've told people who treated me differently after my weightloss to f* off.
These "fit" people pretend to be friendly on social media yet not one of them has a fat friend. I would consider myself fit, but I'm treating everyone the same regardless of their physical appearance.
a bit of both.
I've lost about 40lbs and some people dont like it, and talk about it t other people
"Oh she must be sic"
"no one is going to want to have sex with you, now that you're skinnier" etc
Some people dont say a thing, but at the end of the day, I am happy with myself
My cousin was always pretty and slim and had lots of mostly polite attention until she put on weight and became the butt of jokes and rudeness in some cases. Sheās lost it again now and is happier but she did mention the difference between how she felt she was treated.
Yeah, I get cat called almost every time I leave the house. Before I was invisible. You get reminded of how shitty you used to look when someone gives you a compliment.
I was bullied about my wieght all my life I was a thin guy then in middle school I was heavy and highschool was just so big. Only time I had respect was a senior in highschool
I don't know as it hasn't been my case anytime but I'm of the opinion that physical appearance plays a key role in social relations with people around you.
I've mostly been treated worse since losing weight. Some women are little bit friendlier though. People compliment me a lot, but it's that weird "OMG YEW LOOK SOOOO GOOD," where you feel like they might just really hate you.
Yes I've seen girls go to fit and thin
And yes. It literally changes everything!
Like everything
Its a drastic drastic change
Nv rlly been in a situation like tht but I think its so wrong to treat someone differently based on their weight.
Mine wasn't huge but definitely from unattractive to attractive. Yes girls give me lots more attention.
Not weight loss but women were certainly a lot nicer and easier after I started my own business and had cash.
Yey that's true broo
A few guys might have increased their interest in me but that is all. I was treated very well even before losing some weight on Atkins cause I treat others well.
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