It's attractive to women only to a certain extent. If you look like you're pretty strong and in shape, that's good. It's more attractive than being out of shape. Beyond that, they don't really care.
Steroid-using bodybuilder types are a turn off to most women because that's unnatural, and there are other reasons which I'll explain in a minute. They also don't care about how much you can bench, squat or dead-lift. You should still care about being strong as a man, because not everything you do should be about impressing only women, but that's man stuff.
The evolutionary reason women find strength attractive is because they instinctively look for a guy who can protect them. Some might say that this makes no sense when we have cops and live in relatively safe countries, but that doesn't really change that. Whenever women express a preference for taller guys and they're asked why that is, if it's not something about being able to wear heels with him they'll usually they'll say that it's because he makes them feel "safe". This is also the reason why for example some are talking about mental strength, or even preferring a courageous non-muscular guy to a cowardly muscular guy. A coward couldn't protect a woman.
One reason bodybuilding is often seen as unattractive by women is because bodybuilding is a "sport" which obsesses over appearance, not strength or fitness. Bodybuilders train for the sole purpose of "looking perfect". It's a sport based on vanity. Women aren't attracted to vain men, perhaps with the exception of plastic airheaded bimbos who have the same obsession. Although some consider bodybuilders to be an example of masculinity, obsession with appearance is kind of effeminate. Most bodybuilders couldn't actually fight their way out of a wet paper bag, and women sense this on some level, unconsciously.
What's more, women think more emotionally. They "feel" more. What a guy makes her feel is more important than anything else. Again with the example of mental strength, that's also about confidence. How a guy carries himself matters a lot more than just being muscular or being strong. A strong guy with a weak/boring personality still isn't going to do well. You ask if men being able to throw a 30lb object over 12 feet is a "dead trend" in dating - it never was a trend. It never worked that way.
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"Raw strength" can be "misguided" strength or "uncontrolled " strength. The beauty or attractiveness of strength is in its control, guidance, helpfulness and- at times- NON-use! "Applied strength" is useful.
It reminds me of buildings that are demolished by Controlled Demolition, Inc. . The company is known for the way it uses small, specially-shaped explosives to slice through strategic supports in a building, and then let the weight of the building itself do most of the work in pulling itself down! For a great example, go to YouTube and type in: Boardwalk Hotel - Controlled Demolition, Inc.What good would knowing all of the words in a whole dictionary without the ability to assemble them into a coherent sentence? What good, then, is raw strength without the ability to use it in a fruitful way, ie, turn it into applied strength.
As per men, I'm not interested in how FAR a man can throw a particular weight. I'm interested in if he's strong enough to accomplish the tasks he needs to do. I went hunting with a guy and he had a duck blind boat. We had to launch it and then get it out of the water. This was a wiry six foot tall guy. He didn't have big muscles. He was lean. I got on the crank (I'm five foot 2 but I'm muscular for my height) and cranked it as far as I could while he smiled at me, clearly amused. It got to the angle where I couldn't put in any more footpounds, about 30 degrees, then he, amazingly, got it the rest of the way out of the water. I was amazed. Course, he had longer arms and was stronger, but the difference was impressive. So yeah, that was attractive. I thought about those arms around me... They got there later...
I never realized raw strength was a trend in romance. He needs to be stronger than me, pick me up, move my shit, defend himself and me. That’s it. Anything outside of that is a waste.
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Not every man is going to have physical strength especially if he has medical limitations but It's attractive if he can open stuck jar lids, or can loosen something that's stuck like a clothes washer hose attachment. It doesn't have to be something big.
I also think strength, not just physical strength but also mental, is hot.
I'd pick a courageous skinny scrawny man over a muscular coward anytime.Physical strength is not as important to me as the strength of character of a person.
I don't like the display of physical power because that only tells me that the person places the wrong priorities. I associate physical strength with physical violence and the strength of character with more personality.
Character and personality outweighs physical strength anytime for me.My opinion: it's pretty much a given, that one of the factors in choosing a mate is security. So of course, the perception of strength in a potential partner is attractive. Not to mention the fact that acquiring strength makes a person more look more physically attractive. Each of these things alone is enough to make a person attractive to those checking them out. I believe that any second-guessing or conflict within a person, comes from outside influences; people saying that it's wrong to judge by looks. Realistically though, part of romantic attraction is based on how the other person looks. Only thing wrong about that, is how the same people try to convince us that this totally natural behavior, is wrong. So to sum up, each aspect alone is hot and both of them together are the s***.
Girls love it. You probably lift, so you’re seeing things from the perspective of the lifting community.
Girls don’t care what number you can bench press or whatever. All they care is that you’re stronger than them and you can do shit with it.
I like to pick girls up. They love that shit. I’ll pick them up and throw em around. It’s fun. Cute ass females love being subjected to a man’s strength. Makes me wanna take her home with me.Strength will always be attractive.
my boyfriend picked me up and carried me all around am the house it was soooooo sexy!!! I never thought he could carry me!! I was so nervous 🥰!!! I was like noooooo!!! And he just picked me up and put my legs around him and took me! I fell in love more!!! 😂🥰!!!Us women like strong men with nice toned bodies but you really got to understand that the bodybuilder look is NOT sexy. Super huge muscles are ugly.
Strength is overrated
With the rise of MMA & the amount of hi powered weapons being put out in the inner cities the only survival tactics that are needed to survive are from personal experiences
Cunningness
Manipulation tactics
Being able to throw down
Being able to know how to use a firearm
Being muscular but a complete dumbass who can easily be manipulated & outgunned & especially out matched in a fight against someone his own size is just USELESSIt is ingrained in human evolution to find physical strength attractive (e. g., reproduction). Even with contemporary advances in technology and medicine, it is not a substitute for the primordial urge to have sex. Skeletal soy boys will remain unattractive to women, because women still find attractive men who workout regularly. Hundreds if not thousands of years of evolution may have an impact, but not with 30 years of internet access to the general public.
not really. personally, i dont even find muscles that attractive. sure a little bit can be nice, but once they're too visible and bulky i get turned off
I think if you’re hot your hot. Strong, weak, tall, short, fit, thin, thicc. As we say where I am from, “guapo es guapo” haha.
I definitely prefer someone who is strong but not looking like a bodybuilder over someone who looks like a bodybuilder but can’t even open a jar.
My upper body strength has always sucked. Even when going to the gym, it's still very average. I like to think that I can take hits well though.
But for me, I don't really mind.Functional strength is more attractive than a useless bodybuilder body, or so I am told. Bodybuilders are much too recent a phenomenon for women to have developed a deep attraction to them.
To me, the muscles are what's attractive, not the strength itself.
ya but not raw strength, more like fit. They'll choose the guy who landscapes/construction over the bodybuilder any day
Yeah that & obviously a lot of other things with it as well.
It depends on the individual. Some people find physical strength attractive while some find intellectual strength more attractive.
Some women find it attractive, others don't. You can definitely take it too far, most women aren't into muscle monsters, especially if he acts like huge douchebag.
Yes but for me you don’t have to look like you’re strong just a long as you are. I’ve dated guys who were skinny as hell but could pick me up and hold me down with ease. So ig it has to do with in relation to me.
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