Dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT)?

[Anonymous]

Has anyone had Dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT)? What are your experiences with it?

[abc3643]

I would not advise it. Especially for women.

From the Cleveland Clinic:
my.clevelandclinic.org/.../22838-dialectical-behavior-therapy-dbt
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“Dialectical” means combining opposite ideas. DBT focuses on helping people accept the reality of their lives and their behaviors, as well as helping them learn to change their lives, including their unhelpful behaviors.
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What I take away from this: "helping people accept the reality of their lives"

This will work OK with men because men think in terms of problems and solutions.
Women don't care about that. They just want to be heard first and foremost. Once they are believed that they are heard, THEN you can slowly begin to change their lives for the better.

Waaaay too many arguments between men and women happen because she will whine about some problem and then he immediately offers ideas and solutions for solving her "problem". That's not what she wants. She just wants to be heard. The best thing a guy could say is "I'm listening." or "I understand." and just let her vent. Then, after she is done unloading, perhaps do a bit of Socratic Method teaching to let her discover the way out of her "problem".

DBT sounds like something a man would do: force her to confront reality and then offer solutions.

Again, that's fine if the patient is a guy.
If the patient is a woman, then it may not work.

[Hellraiser1984]

It's challenging. But it does have benefits. I used to have big mouth but with dbt I learned that what I say affects others. By thinking about what I say and how it affects others I changed a lot. Im now pretty quiet and try hard not to offend others. And think of what I'm going to say before I say it can really help you get better at relationships.

[Agape93]

My girls in it. Seems to help

[Asker]

I’m glad to hear that I hope all works out for her well.

[Agape93]

Same. She needs it. You doing ok

[Guy13]

No clue about it.