Why do people keep nagging me about my slender body?

[Anonymous]

I am 5’8 and I weigh 136lbs. I’m small built. I don’t think I’m too skinny. I am a size 5/6 and I’ve always been slender. I’ve been told by some guys that I’m undatable and unf*ckable because I’m am a “bag of bones”. I even got dumped for being too skinny and he wished I would put on weight. In high school I was 117lbs and I looked too skinny so I put on some weight to look healthy but not too much. Not every girl wants to be thin. My best friend’s girlfriend always insulted me for being thin. She said, “I’m not surprised when you said you don’t want a snack because of your body size.” I got confused so I asked why I said that. Then she bluntly said, “What I’m saying is missy is that you’re too goddamn skinny! Ugh look at you. Just laying there looking like a bag of bones. Guys want women with more flesh on then and curves and a little fat. I’m not surprised your ex dumped you.” I was crushed with what she said. I said, “Why you think I was putting on some weight? Everyone is meant to be built different my dad told me.” Then she cut me off and said, “Hey don’t blame your daddy for you eating disorders. You’re the one that pushed the plate of food away and refused to eat a decent mean. It’s your fault that you look I’ll and homely! That’s why I had a lot of guys flirt with me because they live curvier and heavier women. Why do you think people make fun of people with eating disorders and refusing to eat a meal.” Wow…. she really hurt my feelings when she said that. I wanted to insult her back but that wouldn’t do any good and she would have kicked my ass and my best friend would have cussed me out. I explained to him about it and he talked to her about it. I told one of my cousins that and she said, “You’re not going to like my answer but she’s right. You’re too skinny. You gotta put on some weight girl and besides, taller women are supposed to weigh more and you look like a, no offense a scarecrow.” Anyways should I put in weight?

[sean1234]

That's stupid though, I mean why would a guy want to date a girl that he finds too skinny or rather why would a guy date a girl he finds unattractive? I can't even comprehend it.

[sean1234]

Your figure sounds normal by the way. I'm 5'9.5" and 147, I'm a bit muscular for my size.

[bededazzle]

do you think you have an eating disorder. does a doctor? medical advice would be more helpful than what people around you are commenting.

[Asker]

I don’t have an eating disorder. I do eat. I just get accused of refusing a mean which isn’t true. Some people treat others with eating disorders unfairly. Thin people get made fun of

[bededazzle]

Then I think the best thing you could do is assert yourself when people make these comments and make it clear that you don't like them. If you are concerned ever about your weight though, just talk to a doctor or nutritionist.

[slatyb]

You're fine. Ignore the haters. Who even says things like that? I went to college at 5-7 and 125. I was still growing, and graduated at 5-8 and 145.

[dean53AU]

Just ignore them and walk away, probably jealous

[Asker]

Yeah my guy friends girlfriend is a big girl (5’10) she’s chubby but very curvy.

[dean53AU]

Sounds like jealousy for sure hehe

[Asker]

Yeah

[getwiththepg]

Those stats sound nice to me.