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How do you cope with having daily vaginismus, vulvodynia, IBS-M, migraines, heartburn, anxiety, PTSD (+ nausea, vomiting, insomnia due to IBS-M & migraines)?
Anxiety from PTSD (neglected, sexually shamed, degraded as "retarded", told "we thought were going to have a better kid", emotionally/physically/mentally/medically (victim of Munchausen by proxy)/verbally abused, feeling hopeless/guilty/ashamed about Vaginismus and PIV not seeming to be possible with boyfriend, (and just a person with anxiety in general not due to anything).
Family/friends (family knows just ignorant towards me) don't know exist/notice cause I'm good at not letting it show/have a pain tolerance➡️ (infection where you can see & touch the white of my 💀 3-4/10, elbow ditch tattooed 4-5/10, & skin graft surgery done without anesthesia/numbing (unintentionally) 6/10). Only boyfriend & BBFF (♂️) know (no♀️friends: never understand another, don't share same interests, disagree on things🙄, nor get along well. Maybe due to I'm a tomboy, prefer shooting guns over shopping/make-up, and I'm an INTJ🤷🏻♀️). Between daily symptom/pain/bathroom runs due to IBS-M/🤢/🤮 it's mentality exhausting & physically debilitating. Working the whole day: 🤮 10 times, 6💩 runs in ½ an hour, IBS-M like Freddy Krueger desperately digging his way out of you, & vulvodynia like a 🔪 jabbing up your vag accompanied by stinging🐝 & burning🔥 is no joke😬. (Unintentionally) lost 15 lbs. in 5 months due to amount of🤮. At 5 feet that's a big chunk of BMI. Used to be a doer: crafts, keeping up with friends, on top of things, now 1 day a week I just do the necessary: cleaning ferret cage & what has accumulated in my room over the week, & laundry. Off of work days are basically in bed. Been silent for years with these things, but it all spiked drastically this year in frequency & intensity of pain, 2024 seems to have brought bad karma🤣. Any advice/tips for coping mentally/physically appreciated!🥰🙏🏻
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Serious suggestion? Look into holistic medicine (Doctor in applied kinesiology - which is a fancy chiropractor) and get an allergy panel done. Your body sounds like it's in crisis. Sometimes pulling back from modern medicine, such even for a short time can help a great deal.
Loperamide, outdoor exercise and therapy.
If you are talking regular "how does this make you feel, happy or sad?", therapy has a no-no. Finally thank god got to end services on wasting an hour every week trying to come up with something to fill the time cause it was "required", when all this time was just something i was forced to do so i could be written up by a doctor to help support my parents claim as evidence that "they are right" about me "being retarted".
Don't got much to do outside other than walk around the block and mosquito love me, bike is in storage and I'm unable to get a ride to go get it, plus it has a flat tire.☹️ Don't have a back or front yard to do much don't have a basketball or basketball hoop or any sport equipment or balls of any sort. I just got sticks and stones!🤣
I don't even have sidewalk chalk or a way to even a way to go buy some since I don't have a car!😂
The only valid form of therapy (apart from lonely people just looking for someone to listen them) is cognitive behavioral therapy, in my opinion. It's a way to retrain your own brain. Basically a form of self-conditioning. You just have to be willing, or else it's a waste of time. If you have NPD/BPD, you will probably not get anything out of it. Even though it's actually the best form of treatment for those two conditions.
Take walks and jogs. It will do wonders for your health. And vitamin D from the sun will help your digestive issues. And it's free.
Therapy probably works for most, the one I was in at least didn't. Didn't offer advice or help only just asked if something made sad or mad that's all.
CBT isn't like this. It's like physical therapy for the brain. You do mental exercises and homework.
Like? Example?
For example, you tell the shrink that every time you hear rap music, you hyperventilate because a rapper looking dude, blasting rap music, robbed and beat you. This is an ongoing and regular concern that affects your life. The shrink comes up with a method to control yourself whenever you are triggered, like doing affirmations and boxed breathing drills. You go out in the world and practice it, then come back to the shrink and report on updates. then, you adjust accordingly, or move on to some new exercises.
You have to look at it the exact same way you look at physical health. You practice exercising regularly, you learn to get better at it, and you see results over time. But you have to do the work. it's not like medications that do the work for you.
Maybe heal the cause.
WDYM?