How do I help my boyfriend lose wieght?

[tigergirl4]

My boyfriend is really insecure about his weight.

I'm 130 lbs. but I'm 5'8", so I'm still considered small.

He's 6'2"...but he's about 210 lbs.

He's a big guy! He's gone through phases where he doesn't eat and he just bashes himself and you can tell he feels uncomfortable.

What can I do to help him lose weight the right way?

I know how to lose the weight, but how do I help HIM follow a good diet and a healthier lifestyle without seeming like it's a huge issue. I don't want to make him feel like a cow.

[Catie101]

you can get a gym membership for the both of you and you can workout together, scheduling it in a couple times a week. if you have some gym equipment at either of your houses you can work out together there. you can cook him good healthy meals and get him used to good organic foods. you could go grocery shopping together and encourage each other to get healthy things only. when you go on dates choose to do something active as opposed to going out for dinner. stay away from fast food joints at all costs and help him set some weight loss goals for himself. make sure you don't make it seem like pressuring but rather that you want the two of you to get healthy together.

[december1990]

Hmm... I honestly don't know how. I think the way you can do it is by complimenting him and how he looks but it's really up to him. I mean you can TRY to help him but if he doesn't believe in what your saying like "I think your handsome/thin" then he'll keep on bashing himself. I think he's gotta have confidence from within just keep on telling him he should love himself and that he is those things... but he's gotta feel it.

I would say eat healthier with him and try to exercise with him. Pray for him. lol dunno

good luck

[palek]

Put him on a strict diet, and every time he fails to follow it humiliate him in a public place. For instance, if you should catch him sneaking a Twinkie when he thinks no one is looking, wait until you both go to the supermarket and when he least expects it slap him viciously in the face with a plastic baseball bat, or better yet, a large sex toy, all while screaming "SPIT IT OUT, YOU FAT, WORTHLESS TOAD!".

[snowboarder720]

ever heard of weight watchers? that's a pretty good diet program and I think you should consider encouraging him to eating healthy. Take him on random walks, ask him to kick a soccer ball around with you, basically bring him outside more. If he wants to lose weight, he'll understand what your really trying to get at and he'll be happy that your a good motivation to making him become a better man.

[Radford]

ok I got just the soulution.make him feel really comfortable with the way he is.Dont press your notions on him.Let him know how you feel as a gf.That you love him and care.Surprise.say "Hey lets get in shape together I love you and want to make working out sexy and fun"SO run around with him.go to the gym.SKate together.walk together.lol (Sex is optional)

but you get the picture.

QUESTION whe you talk about his weight dose he fluster and get angry.

[tigergirl4]

No, he doesn't get mad. He gets sad. "Whenever I look in the mirror, I hate what I see."

That's what he says...

[kinkynconfused]

Positive reinforcement, get the ball rolling with him and encourage his progress frequently. Most guys give up on a new weightloss or fitness regimen because they don't see results soon enough. If you are noticing his changes speak up and that will help push him forward.

[WoodWizzard87]

210 and 6 '2" is small, unless he is skiing fat. I'm the same heIght and got 25 lbs on him. I'm mostly muscle, but I got some fat on me as well. Get him p90x or a routine he could do at home. If he's expecting to have a ripped six, tell him to stop looking at magazines because their un realistic.

[Anonymous]

6'2" and 210 pounds isn't really big... I dated a guy who was that height and weight and he looked pretty good but he worked out.

You should ask him to tag along with you to the gym or for a run when you go. And if you go grocery shopping together, pick healthier options like wheat bread over white bread or green tea over soda... Just little things. And when you go out to eat, order a vegetable as your side instead of french fries and suggest he does the same.

[jimmyledifni]

6-2 210... he got some obsession about being skinny... I say just help him mentally- he can do the rest...

[Anonymous]

Buy him the book "Fit for Life" by Harvey Diamond. He'll lose the weight.

[Anonymous]

You could work out with him and encourage him to eat healthy.

[Anonymous]

That doesn't even sound fat.