How do I get my boyfriend to loosen up?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I'm dating this guy and he is literally amazing, he is so nice and sweet, but he's so nervous around me, when we make out I can literally feel him shaking, when I stayed the night over he slept on the edge of the bed lol. Even if I were to take control of the situation myself he would probably be scared to death. Usually I wait for him to make the first move but when he does I can tell he just goes for it, and it catches me off guard and makes it awkward...So, how do I get my boyfriend to loosen up?

[Anonymous]

just set the mood, drink some good wine or beer, what ever you guys prefer, have a nice meal at home, slow music, dress some really sexy lingerie and pretty much just stand in front of him

[Asker]

Lol he will probably have a heart attack

[Opinion Owner]

if you guys have some drinks before he prob wont! make it shots if thats what is needed

[Asker]

Haha yeah that might just work

[Opinion Owner]

im telling you! go for it:) if he likes you he won't resist it haha

[RandomGuy1030]

This post sounds so old. Literally no one would put up with a guy like that today

[harakiri]

LOL. omg. he sounds SO CUTE! :D sigh. sosososo adorable... why don't you talk to him about it? ease into you initiating a bit.

[Asker]

He issssss!!! Lol I've sort of initiated before but he pretty much reacts the same way, and I feel like when I talk to him about it he will feel even more embarrassed and nervous

[harakiri]

:) might just need some time... do you think dimming the lights might help him?

[Asker]

We've tried that before and It actually did help a little bit

[NervousPie]

just let him warm up to you dont mention it to him or you might make him more nervous just let him get used to you :)

[OlderAndWiser]

Why do you think he is uptight? Lack of experience? Insecurity? Some bad history?

[Pyrofox]

Well if you want him to be okay with you is just give him the boundaries your okay with. And you can do it in like a jokingly kinda cute fashion. Like if he's sleeping on the edge or you catch him waking himself up its okay to be like quietly jokingly say come over here no need to fall off the bed. And give one of the killer smiles you got.

Its a sad but unfortunate fact but a lot of guys are just overly weary of the whole. Metoo drama. So the balls in your court basically to lead how intimate things get.

[Anonymous]

you can't he's to fucked up mentally to he never had the proper upbringing

[penetrationstation]

Show him ever things okay , n u love him for him