I think that when a big change happens when you don't expect it or in a short period of time, it takes a while to be concious of that change. What I mean is that as he lost the weight so quickly maybe he's still not concious of the change and he is still with his previous habits and behavior . Is a matter of time. Weight loss usually gives people more confidence and "freedom" in their acts and other stuff.
But it's weird that after 2-3 years he hasn't experienced all that... maybe if he was overweight in his childhood or high school (which are critical and where people tend to form their personality imo, or at least is when their character is mostly formed) it influenciated a lot in his way of being making him a shy or insecure person, and he is still that way nowadays.
It would be the case for example of a girl that was ugly in high school and bullied for that, but then changes to a beautiful girl when adult, but still has low
self steem and feels
ugly.
So maybe the problem is not that he feels fat, but is just insecure.
If you're meaning in their mindset, then absolutely yes. My best friend is a prime example.
He used to be heavier than what he is now. He's 6'5" and used to weigh 300 or more. Since working at his job (mechanic), he's down to like 260-70 and looks much better. He's a huge dude so it's natural for him to have more weight, but he slimmed down noticeably and looks good.
But he still has remnants of his old mindset left over. He acts different than when he was younger, but being around him you can tell that it's more bark than bite. He has insecurity and self esteem issues deep down, and looks far too much into a girl's physical appearance indicating that he's conscious of outward appearances including his own. He doesn't talk to girls that look "too good for him", because in all honesty it seems that he DOESN'T feel good enough.
So yeah, I think that weight loss happens much quicker than mental changes.
The way many men live their lives, they become more appreciative of the functional/fitness benefits of weight loss.
My guess is he's too busy out doing active things that he can do with his new fitness level that he couldn't do before to care so much about the way he looks with a shirt off. I mean that's a plus too, but really, men really dig the whole function aspect of it all.
Yes. He still feels fat. Pretty much, everyone feels fat if they were once fat, and sometimes when they have never been fat. (I had "baby fat" until I was 12 or 13 years old.) I've lost about 15-20 pounds since I graduated from High School almost four years ago, and I'm 5'11" and 155 pounds, but I still feel like I'm fat.
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