If your significant other became heavy-set, would you still want to be with them?

[_marj]

Boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives. Would you lose attraction to any of them because they gained weight?

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Nah. Besides, It'd be pretty fucking hypocritical of me if I did, considering I've been overweight since I was 10 or so. But really, I have no problem with it. It's not the reason I date people. I don't date people for their looks. Take my girlfriend for example. I started dating her over four years after I met her, and she was always a babe. Still in the last year or so, she's put on some weight, and it's quite noticeable. Still I am with her though. I love her. I've been with her until now. And now she's even working out, and trying to lose weight. Good for her. Still, as I said, her looks has nothing to do with why I am with her. I'm with her because I love her, and I trust her.

[_marj]

I'm glad to hear that. I think that's great!

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Thank you.

[_marj]

Your welcome.

[G-Daz]

Id hope we'd have a strong relationship to be able to communicate openly and honest. I like girls that have some meat on them anyway but if she started becoming overweight heavily and we were married I would life het no less but id try to help her lose weight by offering to do more active things with her like go jogging. Weight is insignificant if your supposed to love that person till dearth due you apart assuming we were married id work with her but I think I would be a little less attracted to her most likely

[PoeticNinja]

No, I would leave unless he was willing to become active and fit again.

I'd want to have physical attraction there.. - Vice versa

I believe it's fair if both people are living a healthy lifestyle together.

[NerdInDenial]

At least your honest. +1

[_marj]

Yeah, I totally agree with the last two things you said. So, would you leave if you were in a serious relationship?

[hotstudlovercupcake]

HAHA

[hotstudlovercupcake]

I'll be gone then :) she just a farm gir,...the cow!

[justincider]

There is a point where how much weight is it. Did she put on 25 pounds and her ass is bigger, or he has a gut now, can look past some of that. But, extreme weight gain means they no longer take pride in their appearance, which is something they had before. Its almost like changing a moral belief

[PoeticNinja]

If I was in a serious relationship then, I would want to talk to him about it and see if he's WILLING to do anything about his weight.

I doubt, I would let him get THAT fat.

If I'm staying fit, he's going to have to also.

[_marj]

What if it was a medical condition? Something like a disability where he couldn't exercise?

[PoeticNinja]

First off, I would make sure he won't have any sort of disability when getting together.

Well, that's a bummer eh? I would doubt that and say it's pure laziness and leave.

[Destinee7]

I'm not attracted to overweight guys so I would lose some attraction, but I wouldn't leave them because of that especially if we're in an exclusive relationship or marriage. I'd encourage them to lose weight.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

It's funny, considering that's supposed to be some kind of mortal sin if a guy ever did that to a girl. Guys aren't supposed to even remotely acknowledge a girl's weight. I kinda feel like that's a double standard.

[_marj]

@Toban Frost, I don't think that there's a double standard, I just feel like some guys don't have the best approach when telling their girl they're concerned about her weight gain. That's why some girls just would rather you keep it to yourself because some guys appear to be attacking the girl instead of trying to help her.

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

Oh? And what is the right approach?

[_marj]

Every woman is different so I can't speak for them all, but for me, this is what I'd say. Sitting me down, and speaking your mind but be kind and sensitive to my feelings when you tell me that your concerned about my weight and then offer to help with the weight loss process. Something along those lines. Basically, it's all about tone and delivery.

[Destinee7]

I take pride in how I look so I want my SO to take care of their body as well.

Obesity /being too overweight is NOT sexy to me so yeah,down vote away.

[justincider]

This happened to me. College sweehart put on 40-50 pounds over 15 years. It did really suck, but at that point I didn't care enough that it would be an issue. We still had a great sex life and were attracted to each other. I don't know if she had put another 40-50 on that I could have handled that though. There is a point where that is not the person I met and fell in love with. Yet, if it was some sort of medical issue, I would see it through. That's part of the marriage deal.

[LexiNinja]

Of course not. I mean, if looks were all I was attracted to in the relationship, why would we have been together in the first place? Gaining weight doesn't, at least for me, take away the love you have for someone. At the end of the day, their the same person. If anything, I'd encourage them to exercise.

[Tweetumzz143]

YES I still want to be with him, although I'm conscious with my weight and my looks but when it comes to my boyfriend I don't mind, I'm very forgiving.. honestly what worries me are the the negative effects on his health if he will get fatter.

[lmea78]

If I REALLY love him I would help him because I don't like heavy guys...

I was dumped for gaining 70 pounds in my past then I'd lose them and he wanted me back...of course I REJECTED HIM! that's the worse thing someone can do to you!

[Nicefuture]

I wouldn't think of leaving him at all Or lose attraction. I would just start making plans and stuff for him to get back in shape.

[Anonymous]

It wouldn't bother me too much. I am more attracted to slim women, but I find some fat women to be very very sexy.